The Kink Consultant

Nik the Forge Bear, an audio erotica creator and educator, dives into the transformative power of storytelling in intimacy and kink. He shares insights from his psychology background and highlights the importance of consent and emotional care in relationships. Discussing challenges in digital sex education, Nik critiques performative dominance while emphasizing the need for trust and communication with play partners. He offers advice for beginners on safe words, aftercare, and the gradual exploration of kink, making this a must-listen for anyone curious about deeper connections.

What if the parts of you you’ve been told to suppress are actually your most authentic self? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I sit down with Dove from @littlespaces.co to explore what it really means to be a little—from discovering the dynamic through romance novels to navigating shame, connection, and kink identity. Whether you’re new to the world of caregiver/little dynamics or curious about exploring it on your own, Dove’s story offers a rare blend of vulnerability and wisdom.We get into the difference between little space and age play, what it’s like to access little space solo, and how emotional safety, consent, and presence play a huge role in kink-informed relationships. Dove shares the beauty of the caregiver/little dynamic, how she reconnected with her now-daddy dom partner, and what it means to explore vulnerability as a source of joy, not shame. We also talk about representation, personal growth, and how labels like “little” and “middle” are just tools—not boxes—to help us connect more deeply with ourselves and others.If you’ve ever felt the pull to explore this part of yourself, or you’re just curious about the emotional side of kink, this episode is your permission slip to lean in. Tune in for a powerful, tender, and deeply validating conversation about kink, identity, and reclaiming your inner softness.Episode Highlights: 01:19 Dove's Journey into Littlespace04:49 Understanding Littlespace and Age Play12:19 Exploring Littlespace Alone and with a Partner21:29 Finding Community and Support28:08 Navigating Consent and Misconceptions30:29 Vetting Potential Partners34:01 Advice for New Littles38:52 Exploring Middle SpaceCheckout The Little Spaceshttps://littlespaces.co/https://www.instagram.com/littlespaces.co/https://payhip.com/littlespacesConnect with Me: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1

Emma Xin Velicky, the founder of Saturday Box, shares her journey from a conservative upbringing to creating immersive roleplay kits for couples. She explores how storytelling and game design merge to craft playful experiences that ease newcomers into kink. Emma reframes dominance, emphasizing presence and emotional safety rather than control. The episode highlights strategies for enhancing intimacy, customizing scenes, and normalizing kink through education. If you're looking to spice up your relationship with fun, safe adventures, this conversation is a must-listen!

Saniyyah Lateef, a curator for Make Love Not Porn and a passionate sex educator, discusses the transformative power of realistic intimacy in adult content. She explains how MLNP challenges stereotypes found in mainstream porn by showcasing authentic, consensual experiences. Saniyyah emphasizes the importance of comprehensive sex education and teaching consent from a young age. Listeners will also learn about the roles curators play in maintaining ethical standards and how MLNP fosters a safe space for diverse sexual expressions.

What do thirst traps, TikTok bans, and Daddy Dom dynamics have in common? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I sit down with Dilly from @TheLifeofDillyy to talk about his journey from pec-popping TikToker to full-time content creator with a kinky twist. We get into the sensual (and hilarious) evolution of his online presence—and how stepping into his dominant energy opened the door to deeper connection, both on and offline.We explore what it means to be a “pleasure dom,” the unexpected emotional impact of kink-informed relationships, and why communication—yes, even post-nut communication—is everything. Dilly shares how his past relationship introduced him to the daddy dom/little dynamic, how kink showed up in his love languages, and why even “entry-level” kink still requires serious consent and clarity. We also get into content creation, algorithm struggles, and the fine line between sexy and silly when you’re trying to grow an audience on platforms that love to censor.If you’re curious about what a soft-launch into kink can look like—or how to blend sensuality, humor, and dom energy into your personal brand—this episode is full of playful insight and real talk. Tune in for an open convo about dominance, desire, and learning what turns you (and your audience) on.Episode Highlights: 01:36 From TikTok Fame to OnlyFans06:18 Creating Viral Content13:58 Exploring Kink and Relationships15:12 Becoming a Daddy Dom22:27 Exploring Kinks and Roleplay22:56 Keeping the Spark Alive25:06 Communication in Kink33:52 Love Languages and ConnectionConnect with Dillyhttps://www.instagram.com/thelifeofdillyy/https://onlyfans.com/lifeofdillyhttps://x.com/thelifeofdillyConnect with Me: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! ⁠Book your consultation here⁠.

What happens when one partner craves kink while the other prefers vanilla? Navigating this divide is tricky but not impossible! Discover practical communication tips to express desires without overwhelming your partner. Listen as personal experiences illuminate common missteps and rejection strategies. Can both lifestyles coexist? Find out how to approach this sensitive subject, build confidence, and seek balance in partnerships. It's all about understanding and compromising to find a happier connection!

Discover the truth behind dominance and submission relationships, where communication reigns supreme over mere power dynamics. Learn how to negotiate needs, set boundaries, and establish trust effectively. Uncover the importance of flexibility and self-awareness for a balanced dynamic, and gain practical tips for beginners. Engage in open dialogue about comfort levels and tailor your relationship to make power exchange empowering for everyone. Finally, explore the significance of writing down expectations to prevent misunderstandings.

Finding your kink community can be a game-changer, but where do you even start? Finding the right community is about more than just showing up; it’s about knowing where to look, how to vet spaces, and making connections that actually feel good.In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m breaking down exactly how to find local munches, BDSM events, and online communities without wasting time in the wrong places. I’ll walk you through using FetLife the right way, recognizing red flags at events, and navigating social dynamics so you’re not just standing around awkwardly sipping a soda. Plus, I share my best tips for attending events solo, making introductions without feeling weird, and showing up as your most authentic kinky self.If you’ve been struggling to find your people, this episode is your roadmap. Whether you’re brand new to the scene or looking to deepen your connections, tune in and get ready to build a community that truly fits you.Episode Highlights: 01:43 How to Find Your Kink Community03:40 Red Flags in Kink Communities04:59 Online Kink Communities and Safety Tips08:21 Attending Kink Events: Tips and Advice14:11 The Importance of Communication in Kink Relationships15:23 Building and Contributing to Your Kink CommunityGo to ⁠http://www.meetkinksters.com/TKC⁠ and you can get 50%off your first month of premium membership! Connect with Me: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! ⁠Book your consultation here

Dive into the complexities of kink and non-monogamy as CJ shares insights on ethical non-monogamy and the importance of language in relationships. Explore the differences between polyamory and solo poly, and discover strategies for navigating jealousy and possessiveness. CJ recounts their journey through long-distance dynamics and the impact of open communication. Find out how kink can bridge needs and enhance intimacy, all while challenging conventional relationship structures. Unpack the beautiful messiness of crafting relationships on your own terms.

In this episode, I catch up with my biz dom, Brenda, for a deep dive into my latest dating escapades—from navigating kinky dating apps to almost getting stood up on a very public date. We talk about my upcoming spanking party, the struggles of meeting compatible partners, and why chemistry is everything (even when someone seems perfect on the app). Plus, I also share a deeply personal story about an unexpected loss and how it shifted my perspective on relationships, connection, and the role of friends with benefits.From spanking parties to dating fails, this episode is a rollercoaster of good sex, bad decisions, and me questioning my life choices in real time. If you've ever debated ghosting a guy who can’t plan a date or found yourself catching feelings for a ‘casual’ situation, grab a drink—you’re in good company.Episode Highlights: 04:01 Date Number 1: 5805:37 Date Number 2: Target Guy09:22 Date Number 3:  77 Minutes Guy 14:18 Date Number 4: Never Been Kissed21:35 Navigating Mixed Feelings and Desires24:37 Grieving and Seeking Comfort31:48 Balancing Dating and Personal GrowthConnect with Me:  ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! ⁠Book your consultation here⁠.