The Kink Consultant

Finding your kink community can be a game-changer, but where do you even start? Finding the right community is about more than just showing up; it’s about knowing where to look, how to vet spaces, and making connections that actually feel good.In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m breaking down exactly how to find local munches, BDSM events, and online communities without wasting time in the wrong places. I’ll walk you through using FetLife the right way, recognizing red flags at events, and navigating social dynamics so you’re not just standing around awkwardly sipping a soda. Plus, I share my best tips for attending events solo, making introductions without feeling weird, and showing up as your most authentic kinky self.If you’ve been struggling to find your people, this episode is your roadmap. Whether you’re brand new to the scene or looking to deepen your connections, tune in and get ready to build a community that truly fits you.Episode Highlights: 01:43 How to Find Your Kink Community03:40 Red Flags in Kink Communities04:59 Online Kink Communities and Safety Tips08:21 Attending Kink Events: Tips and Advice14:11 The Importance of Communication in Kink Relationships15:23 Building and Contributing to Your Kink CommunityGo to ⁠http://www.meetkinksters.com/TKC⁠ and you can get 50%off your first month of premium membership! Connect with Me: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! ⁠Book your consultation here

Dive into the complexities of kink and non-monogamy as CJ shares insights on ethical non-monogamy and the importance of language in relationships. Explore the differences between polyamory and solo poly, and discover strategies for navigating jealousy and possessiveness. CJ recounts their journey through long-distance dynamics and the impact of open communication. Find out how kink can bridge needs and enhance intimacy, all while challenging conventional relationship structures. Unpack the beautiful messiness of crafting relationships on your own terms.

In this episode, I catch up with my biz dom, Brenda, for a deep dive into my latest dating escapades—from navigating kinky dating apps to almost getting stood up on a very public date. We talk about my upcoming spanking party, the struggles of meeting compatible partners, and why chemistry is everything (even when someone seems perfect on the app). Plus, I also share a deeply personal story about an unexpected loss and how it shifted my perspective on relationships, connection, and the role of friends with benefits.From spanking parties to dating fails, this episode is a rollercoaster of good sex, bad decisions, and me questioning my life choices in real time. If you've ever debated ghosting a guy who can’t plan a date or found yourself catching feelings for a ‘casual’ situation, grab a drink—you’re in good company.Episode Highlights: 04:01 Date Number 1: 5805:37 Date Number 2: Target Guy09:22 Date Number 3:  77 Minutes Guy 14:18 Date Number 4: Never Been Kissed21:35 Navigating Mixed Feelings and Desires24:37 Grieving and Seeking Comfort31:48 Balancing Dating and Personal GrowthConnect with Me:  ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! ⁠Book your consultation here⁠.

Zach Moore, a former personal trainer stepping back into the dating scene after 15 years, shares his journey of exploring kink and dominance. He discusses using the Field app to connect for casual dating and kink exploration. Zach reflects on discovering his dominant side, engaging in primal play, and navigating DDLG dynamics. They also touch on the importance of aftercare, intentional dating, and the evolving landscape of dating apps. His humorous takes and candid stories make for a lively and insightful conversation!

In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m joined by the incredible Rayanna Jamison, USA Today bestselling author, co-founder of GTB Publishing, and organizer of the thriving Dirty Daddies community. We dive deep into her journey as an author, the growth of the Dirty Daddies Party Room, and the exciting plans for the upcoming "Dirty Daddies Do Vegas" convention. Rayanna shares insights into the evolution of the kink and romance genres, her transition from author to publisher, and how she's built a welcoming, inclusive community for readers and writers alike. Discover what it takes to craft compelling kink fiction, build inclusive communities, and turn passion into a thriving genre—this episode is packed with insights you won’t want to miss! Episode Highlights:  [2:45] How Rayanna started writing and transitioned into publishing. [12:10] What defines a “Dirty Daddy” and how the genre has evolved. [22:40] Details about the "Dirty Daddies Do Vegas" convention: panels, parties, and more! [35:50] The challenges and rewards of running a growing online community. [45:00] Why kink in fiction should remain distinct from real-life practices. Connect with Rayanna Jamison: Website: mydirtydaddies.com Join the Dirty Daddies Party Room on Facebook: Search “Dirty Daddies Party Room” Check out GTB Publishing: GTB Publishing Connect with Me:  https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! Book your consultation here.

Join a heartfelt conversation between a mother and daughter as they explore the evolution of sex education from conservative Ireland to open-minded England. They reveal how humor and acceptance shaped their unique bond, allowing for candid discussions about kinks and personal identity. Highlighting the impact of childhood experiences on adult desires, they also touch on societal changes regarding women and relationships. With laughs and insights, this engaging dialogue champions authenticity and the importance of supportive parenting.

A musician opens up about the powerful bond between music and kink. She shares how her hit song transformed her relationships and sparked discussions around vulnerability and shame. The conversation highlights overcoming societal stigma while encouraging self-expression through art. There's a focus on how music builds connections within the kink community and practical advice on communicating kinks in relationships. Dive into this candid exploration of identity, creativity, and the healing power of music.

Once again, I’m joined by my Business Manager and close friend, Brenda, as we dive into a whirlwind week of my dating life. From navigating an unexpected age gap with a mysterious man, to rediscovering the thrill of a first kiss on a mini-golf date, I’m sharing it all.   We also dive deep into the emotional complexities of intimacy, including how a spontaneous connection stirred up unexpected feelings about a past relationship. Plus, we explore the challenges of balancing power dynamics, trust, and boundaries in kinky dating, offering insights for anyone navigating these unique waters.   Whether you’re here for the juicy details or practical dating advice, this episode has something for everyone. So grab your headphones and join us for an honest, lighthearted conversation about the twists and turns of dating in today’s world!     Episode Highlights   02:41 Age Gap Dilemma  14:59 Navigating Sub-Dom Dynamics  18:05 Third Date: Mini Golf Adventure  21:10 Intimacy and Grieving the Past  25:38 Reflecting on Dating     Connect with Me:   https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant  https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/     Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you!  Book your consultation here. 

In this episode, I sit down with my Business Manager and friend, Brenda, to unpack my dating life—and trust me, there’s plenty to talk about! We dive into my adventures navigating the modern dating world, from the hilarious chaos of my first date at a Target Starbucks, to the highs and lows of finding meaningful connections today.  We also explore the nuances of kinky dating, offer advice for those stepping into it, and tackle some fantastic listener questions. From the best dating apps, subtle ways to signal your preferences, and so much more.  Whether you’re here for the laughs, the insights, or just a behind-the-scenes peek at my dating life, this episode has something for you. So grab your headphones and join us for an honest, lighthearted conversation about all things dating!     Episode Highlights   02:08 Target Guy: The Front Runner  11:04 Deep Conversations and Future Plans  19:17 Navigating Modern Dating: First Date Reflections  23:59 The Kink Factor: Dating Apps and Preferences     Download the BeeDee App and use the code: THEKINKCONSULTANT  Head http://www.beedee.com get 50% off your first month of premium by using this code!     Go to http://www.meetkinksters.com/TKC and you can get 50%off your first month of premium membership!         Connect with Me:   https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant  https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/     Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you!  Book your consultation here. 

In this episode, I had an absolute blast chatting with the amazing Pup Locrian. We dove into all things puppy play, its rich history and how it's different from the furry community.   Pup Locrian shared some super cool insights on what it means to be a puppy, the gear involved, and even the physical workout it can be! We laughed about treats and toys, and talked about how to find your local puppy community. We also touched on the joys of puppy conventions and competitions. Whether you're a curious newbie or a seasoned player, there's something for everyone.  So grab your headphones and join us for a fun and informative conversation that's sure to get your tail wagging!    Episode Highlights  01:29 Understanding Pup Play  03:52 Pup Play vs. Furries  11:29 Personal Journey into Kink and Pup Play  24:41 Discovering the Joy of Puppy Play  32:10 Finding Your Local Puppy Community  41:46 Resources and Recommendations    Connect with Pup Locrian:   https://www.instagram.com/pup_locrian/  https://www.tiktok.com/@locrian_pup  puplocrian@gmail.com    Resources Mentioned:   https://www.pupplay.info/  https://ashleykahurangi.com/book-writing/canis-major/  Puppy Play by Tosa Alphainu    Connect with Me:   https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant  https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/    Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you!  Book your consultation here.