Ep 25 - Exploring Kink and Role Play with Saturday Box: A Chat with Emma Xin Velicky

Apr 11, 2025

Emma Xin Velicky, the founder of Saturday Box, shares her journey from a conservative upbringing to creating immersive roleplay kits for couples. She explores how storytelling and game design merge to craft playful experiences that ease newcomers into kink. Emma reframes dominance, emphasizing presence and emotional safety rather than control. The episode highlights strategies for enhancing intimacy, customizing scenes, and normalizing kink through education. If you're looking to spice up your relationship with fun, safe adventures, this conversation is a must-listen!

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ANECDOTE

Founding Story: From Sex Negativity To Saturday Box

Emma describes growing up sex-negative and discovering kink through romance and media.
Meeting her game-designer husband turned private play into Saturday Box and a business.

INSIGHT

Design Roleplay As A Replayable Game

Saturday Box blends romance writing and game mechanics to make roleplay feel like a replayable game.
That design reduces self-consciousness by letting players 'be' the role instead of acting it out.

ADVICE

Provide Objectives, Not Scripts

Offer clear character objectives and flexible variations instead of rigid scripts.
Give partners enough framing so the submissive can pass the scenario to a less-experienced dominant.

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In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m joined by the brilliant Emma Xin Velicky, founder of Saturday Box—a company designing immersive kink and roleplay experience kits for couples. Emma opens up about her personal evolution from a conservative, sex-negative upbringing to writing romance and co-creating a business that makes intimacy playful, safe, and accessible.

We talk about how Saturday Box blends kink with storytelling, bringing fantasies to life through curated scenes that range from beginner-friendly kink kits to more advanced roleplay adventures. From game mechanics to emotional safety, Emma shares how she and her husband—a game designer—crafted each box to spark connection, deepen communication, and make exploration fun (and hot). I also share my own spicy experience with the Interrogation Scene Box, and spoiler: it did not disappoint.

If you’re curious about how to spice up your relationship, ease into kink with confidence, or just love the idea of turning your bedroom into a choose-your-own-adventure game, this conversation is for you. Tune in for real talk on emotional intelligence, fantasy, and finding freedom through play.

Episode Highlights:

02:22 Creating Playful and Replayable Experiences

03:04 Exploring Different Role Play Options

04:23 Balancing Experience Levels in Kink

06:07 Dominance and Misconceptions

19:26 Safety and Customization in Role Play

27:45 The Importance of Emotional Intelligence in Kink

29:33 The Problem with Kink Being Underground

35:27 The Joy of Role Play

43:09 Kink in Media and Society

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