Behavioral Grooves Podcast

Why do holiday rituals matter so much to our happiness and sense of connection? In this pre-Christmas special, we unwrap (ho ho ho…) the behavioral science behind gatherings and traditions—from Thanksgiving dinners to baking cookies and watching favorite holiday movies. Learn how rituals differ from habits, why they help reduce anxiety, and how small, intentional moments can strengthen belonging, refresh traditions that feel stale, and make the holiday season feel more meaningful and enjoyable. Topics [0:00] Understanding the Importance of Gatherings and Rituals [5:19] The Role of Multiple Groups in Identity [8:06] Defining Rituals [14:13] Maintaining the Meaning of Rituals [19:00] Practical Ways to Add Intention to the Holidays [22:15[ A Question for Your Next Gathering ©2025 Behavioral Grooves Links Join us on Substack! Join the Behavioral Grooves community Subscribe to Behavioral Grooves on YouTube Support Behavioral Grooves Musical Links Nat King Cole - The Christmas Song Tim Minchin - White Wine in the Sun  

Individual emotional intelligence matters — but teams thrive when EI is built together, not carried by a few well-developed individuals. In this episode, Vanessa Druskat explains why high-performing groups rely on shared norms that create psychological safety, trust, and collaboration. We talk through her research-backed framework for turning work groups into emotionally intelligent teams, how leaders can shape better environments, and why optimism is a surprisingly powerful tool for motivation and change. Topics [0:00] Intro and Speed Round with Vanessa Druskat [7:08] What is Team Emotional Intelligence? [13:02] Leader Behavior vs Team Norms [18:24] The Discovery of “the Nine Norms” [26:34] Engaging Stakeholders Beyond the Team [33:19] Belonging Needs and Conformity [42:01] Optimism As a Leadership Tool [47:21] Coaching for Hope vs Problems [50:42] Desert Island Music [54:14] Grooving Session: A+ Teams vs A+ Individuals ©2025 Behavioral Grooves Links About Vanessa The Emotionally Intelligent Team Join us on Substack! Join the Behavioral Grooves community Subscribe to Behavioral Grooves on YouTube Support Behavioral Grooves Musical Links Van Morrison - Days Like This John Prine - In Spite of Ourselves  

Muriel Wilkins, an executive coach and author of Leadership Unblocked, explores the hidden beliefs that limit leadership potential. She discusses how early life experiences shape our internal blockers and emphasizes the importance of curiosity in achieving self-awareness. Muriel argues that leadership growth comes from expanding one’s mindset rather than changing it. She also highlights the value of defining personal success and navigating the inevitable pain of leadership while minimizing unnecessary suffering.

Explore the fun tension between rapid change and the fear of stagnation. Discover how small, everyday shifts can lead to significant transformation over time. The Pygmalion Effect reveals how our expectations can elevate performance. Surrounding yourself with positive influences can broaden your horizons. Delve into the art of goal-setting, balancing past experiences with future aspirations. Learn why the right difficulty level for goals is key to staying motivated, turning failures into steps on the journey toward your ultimate dreams.

Jens Ludwig, a professor at the University of Chicago and director of the Crime Lab, takes us on a riveting journey into the real roots of violence. He debunks the myth of 'bad people' by discussing how ordinary individuals make split-second decisions under pressure. Ludwig emphasizes the impact of the environment, showcasing how pocket parks and visible community presence can drastically cut crime rates. He also explores the importance of metacognition and education as tools for reducing impulsive violence, offering hope and practical solutions for safer neighborhoods.

Explore the fascinating psychology of gratitude and how it enhances well-being, from boosting happiness to improving relationships. Delve into the reasons many struggle to express appreciation, including miscalibrated expectations and the belief that others can intuit our feelings. Discover practical tips like journaling and making gratitude specific to deepen connections. Learn why expressing thanks in person amplifies emotional bonds and consider opening conversations this Thanksgiving by highlighting what you appreciate in others.

Margaret Andrews, a Harvard instructor and author of 'Manage Yourself to Lead Others,' shares her insights on effective leadership. She emphasizes that self-awareness is crucial for leaders, discussing how blind spots can hinder growth. Emotional intelligence is unpacked as a development tool, not just niceness. Margaret also introduces the 'best boss' exercise, demonstrating the importance of interpersonal skills. She offers advice for new managers, focusing on aligning intentions with actions, while sharing the value of introspection and team charters to enhance culture.

Economist Corinne Low, author of *Having It All*, explores the stalled gender revolution. She discusses how, despite women thriving in the workforce, men's household roles remain largely unchanged since the 1970s. Corinne introduces the concept of 'having it almost' to describe the pressures women face. She advocates for better parental leave, equitable distribution of household tasks, and the need for structural changes to support family life. The conversation also highlights how cultural shifts and identity transformation are essential for progress.

Mark Matson, a financial advisor and author, delves into the concept of the American Dream, suggesting it's more about mindset than material wealth. He discusses the cognitive biases that often lead investors to sabotage their own success. Mark advocates for purpose-driven financial planning and emphasizes the importance of defining 'enough.' He shares rules for smarter investing that focus on discipline and diversification, while also addressing the balance between personal responsibility and systemic challenges in achieving financial well-being.

Mikael Klintman, a sociologist and author of "Framing: The Social Art of Influence," dives into the powerful concept of framing. He explains how subtle shifts in language can change our perceptions in politics and everyday conversations. Mikael contrasts rough versus smooth framing techniques and discusses how expanding our frames can foster social connections. He also shares insights on how framing affects cultural norms and even music experiences. Tune in for valuable lessons on recognizing and leveraging framing in your life!