Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

We’ve spent a lot of time on the podcast exploring how we can improve our skills in romantic relationships, but for many people one of the most difficult parts of a relationship is getting into one in the first place. On this episode, Forrest talks with Logan Ury, Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge, about the psychology of dating. They explore chemistry, romance, apps, and how to reframe our self-limiting tendencies so we can find love that is fulfilling and brings out the best in us.About our Guest: Logan Ury is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach, and the author of  How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love. She is the Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge, and former head of Google’s behavioral science team the Irrational Lab.Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube.Key Topics:0:00: Introduction  1:40: Why is modern dating so hard?4:15: Romanticism6:20: Being in a relationship for self-actualization8:25: Romanticizers, Maximizers, and Hesitators11:15: Reframes for the Romanticizer14:20: What kind of shared qualities actually matter?19:25: Reframes for the Maximizer26:35: The tendency to externalize problems and avoid vulnerability32:25: Reframes for the Hesitator36:50: Information vs. emotion - appreciation for romance41:05: Bids, and turning towards43:05: What other things do people tend to underestimate in relationships?47:20: The aspect of you that is brought out by your partner48:45: How to use apps in more effective ways51:00: RecapSupport the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.Have a question for us? Email: contact@beingwellpodcast.com to submit questions or potential topics you'd like us to explore in future episodes.Sponsors:Visit Pendulumlife.com and use code BEINGWELL for 20% off your first month of membership.Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!Want to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Forrest Hanson, who focuses on stress and resilience, joins Dr. Rick, an expert on the biological effects of stress. They dissect the true nature of stress, explaining how it differs from healthy effort. The conversation dives into personal control over stress and its evolutionary roots. They emphasize the importance of resilience and mindfulness in managing stress, using relatable anecdotes. Listeners gain insights into lifestyle factors that enhance mental well-being and strategies to repair from stress's negative impacts.

One of the most effective ways to change how we show up in the world is to identify and change our underlying personal narrative. On this episode, Forrest Hanson talks with Ian Cron about how we can use the Enneagram personality typing system to aid us in this process.About our Guest: Ian Cron is a therapist, master Enneagram teacher, best-selling author of The Road Back to You and his latest The Story of You, and host of popular Enneagram podcast Typology.Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube.Key Topics:0:00: Introduction1:30: Ian’s narrative and how it has changed over time5:45: Overview of the Enneagram and its uses11:30: A few examples of common limiting narratives19:10: A quick primer of how the Enneagram works and each type26:00: How people can push back on their unconscious narratives35:25: Cultivating awareness of how your old story is playing out in the present37:10: Ian’s inflection point41:30: Integration and levels of development43:15: The link between your virtue and your fixation49:00: RecapSupport the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.Sponsors:Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!Want to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.Try Splendid Spoon today and take meal-planning off your plate. Just go to SplendidSpoon.com/BEINGWELL for $50 off your first boxDiscover your full genetic potential by uploading your existing DNA test results at genomelink.io. No trial period, no credit card, and no hidden fees!Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dive into the intriguing world of hedonic adaptation and learn how we tend to revert to a baseline happiness. Explore the role of genetics and relationships in shaping our emotional well-being. Discover practical strategies to cultivate lasting joy, like mindfulness and gratitude. The hosts shed light on the importance of appreciating positive experiences and personal growth. Plus, find out how to break free from the 'hedonic treadmill' and truly enhance your life satisfaction through intentional choices.

Dr. Jud Brewer, a renowned neuroscientist and mindfulness expert, dives deep into the concept of 'self' in this engaging discussion. He explores how our identities are shaped by experiences and the impact of cravings on self-perception. Brewer emphasizes the fluidity of self, suggesting that a relaxed attachment to our identities can boost well-being. He also connects the evolution of self-concept to modern challenges like addiction and anxiety, sharing insights on how mindfulness practices can facilitate healthier relationships with ourselves.

In this episode, they discuss managing emotions during difficult times, including anxiety calming exercises, feeling your feelings, resourcing yourself, showing compassion, using humor, getting educated, making a plan, and taking action. They also highlight the importance of supporting Ukraine through donations to charities.

In this podcast, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson discuss the concept of failure and disappointment, exploring its different forms and perspectives. They delve into the brain's response to loss and the cultural attitudes towards failure. They highlight the importance of managing expectations and developing resilience. They also discuss the role of family experiences and childhood narratives in coping with failure. The podcast emphasizes the value of failure as an opportunity for growth and learning, and provides strategies for managing the pain of failure and setting up feedback systems. Overall, it offers valuable insights on how to cope with failure and disappointment in a constructive way.

Todd Kashdan, a psychologist and Professor of Psychology at George Mason University, dives deep into the balance between conformity and authenticity. He discusses how we can express principled insubordination while upholding prosocial values. The conversation highlights the importance of curiosity in fostering societal change and the role of emotional complexity in self-awareness. Kashdan also shares strategies for navigating dissent, empowering listeners to stand up for what they believe while maintaining meaningful connections.

Dive into the complexities of psychological integration and the journey toward personal healing. Discover the significance of embracing both our strengths and the parts of ourselves we'd like to change. Learn practical techniques to reconnect with repressed emotions and celebrate our identities. Explore the impact of self-compassion and mindfulness in fostering healthier coping mechanisms, while reflecting on the transformative process of emotional integration. Uncover how trauma and childhood experiences shape our healing journey.

Dive into the challenges of family dynamics, especially during tough times like the pandemic. Explore effective strategies for addressing unresolved issues with empathy. Discover the nuances of various therapeutic approaches and their role in personal growth. Learn about the intricate relationship between money, emotions, and personal relationships, and how to find balance. Lastly, unravel the concept of neuroplasticity and its impact on connecting with your inner child, emphasizing healing and mindful communication.