ADHD Her Way

In this episode, Johanna Badenhorst discusses the challenges faced by women with ADHD and how to empower themselves. She talks about the imposter syndrome and the importance of self-compassion. Johanna also explores reframing ADHD behaviours as strengths and aligning with personal values. She emphasizes the need for flexibility and acceptance in navigating life with ADHD. Keywords: ADHD, women, empowerment, imposter syndrome, self-compassion, reframing, strengths, values, flexibility Takeaways Women with ADHD often struggle with imposter syndrome and low self-confidence. Practicing self-compassion is key to building resilience and embracing strengths. Reframing ADHD behaviors as strengths can empower individuals. Aligning with personal values helps navigate life with ADHD. Flexibility and acceptance are important in managing ADHD challenges. Sound Bites "It's a duck peddling a million times an hour." "Self-compassion is key to building resilience." "Turn ADHD traits into strengths." Follow @adhderway and contact us via hello@holisticwellnesspsychology.com.au. We love to hear from you! Also visit: ⁠www.holisticwellnesspsychology.com.au⁠ to get access to free ADHD guides, blogs and information on how to work with me.

Developmental Psychologist, Johanna interviews Dr. Hayley Quinn, who is a clinical psychologist and anti-burnout business coach, shares her journey of discovering her neurodivergence as an autistic and ADHD individual. She discusses the challenges of living in a neurotypical world and the importance of authenticity and self-compassion. Dr. Quinn emphasizes the need to prioritize well-being and sustainable practices in business and personal life. She also opens up about her experience with chronic illness and the impact it had on her work and personal life. In this conversation, Hayley and Johanna discuss the importance of self-compassion and authenticity for neurodivergent individuals. Hayley shares her personal journey of discovering her neurodivergent identity and the impact it had on her mental health. They also discuss the challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals in the education system and workplace, and the need for greater acceptance and accommodation. Hayley highlights the importance of representation and reducing stigma around neurodivergence. They also touch on the role of self-compassion in creating a sustainable and fulfilling business. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and embracing one's unique strengths and challenges. Keywords neurodivergence, authenticity, self-compassion, burnout, business, chronic illness, neurodivergence, self-compassion, authenticity, mental health, education system, workplace, representation, stigma, acceptance, accommodation, business Takeaways Discovering and embracing one's neurodivergence can lead to a more fulfilling and authentic life. Authenticity and vulnerability in professional settings can inspire others and create a more compassionate and inclusive environment. Living in alignment with one's true self and prioritizing well-being is essential for preventing burnout. Neurodivergent individuals often face challenges in navigating a neurotypical world and may need to develop strategies to adapt and thrive. Coexisting chronic health conditions are common among neurodivergent individuals and can significantly impact work and personal life. Self-compassion and authenticity are crucial for the well-being of neurodivergent individuals. The education system and workplace need to be more accepting and accommodating of neurodivergent individuals. Representation and reducing stigma around neurodivergence are important for creating a more inclusive society. Self-compassion plays a key role in creating a sustainable and fulfilling business. Embracing one's unique strengths and challenges is essential for self-acceptance and personal growth. Sound Bites "I think I've been dropped off on the wrong planet." "Authenticity is one of my highest values." "If I can live in a very authentic way, then that models to other people that they can." "I'm valuable no matter what. I'm enough as I am. I'm lovable as I am." Chapters 00:00 - Introduction and Background 12:31 - Authenticity and Professionalism 25:46 - Chronic Illness and Impact 36:13 - Representation and Stigma 44:22 - Creating a Sustainable Business 53:01 - Inspiring and Empowering Others Visit Dr Hayley D Quinn via www.drhayleydquinn.com. Or follow her via Instagram @drhayleydquinn. Follow @adhderway and contact us via hello@holisticwellnesspsychology.com.au. We love to hear from you! Also visit: ⁠www.holisticwellnesspsychology.com.au⁠ to get access to free ADHD guides, blogs and information on how to work with me.

In this episode, Psychologist Johanna discusses burnout and the boom-bust cycle, particularly in individuals with ADHD. Johanna emphasizes the importance of recognizing the early signs of burnout and implementing strategies to prevent or recover from it. She introduces the concept of a pacing system, which involves monitoring activity levels, setting achievable goals based on energy levels, taking regular breaks, and practicing flexible scheduling. Other strategies include mindfulness and meditation, physical activity, sleep hygiene, engaging in a supportive community, and monitoring diet and nutrition. Keywords: burnout, boom-bust cycle, ADHD, pacing system, energy levels, productivity, early signs, strategies, mindfulness, meditation, physical activity, sleep hygiene, supportive community, diet, nutrition Takeaways Burnout is a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress. The boom-bust cycle in individuals with ADHD is characterised by intense bursts of energy and productivity followed by a sharp decline in energy and productivity, leading to exhaustion. Recognising the early signs of burnout is crucial for prevention and recovery. Implementing a pacing system can help balance activity levels and manage energy more sustainably. Strategies for preventing burnout include mindfulness and meditation, physical activity, sleep hygiene, engaging in a supportive community, and monitoring diet and nutrition. "Burnout is a state of emotional, physical and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress." "The boom-bust cycle is characterized by intense bursts of energy, focus or creativity known as hyper fixation or hyper focus." "The main components of a pacing system involve monitoring current activity levels, setting achievable goals based on energy levels, and taking regular breaks." Chapters 00:00 Understanding Burnout and the Boom-Bust Cycle 03:09 Implementing a Pacing System for Energy Management 06:13 Planning Your Day Around Energy Levels 08:14 The Importance of Sleep, Diet, and Support What next? Visit our website for more info and resources: ⁠www.holisticwellnesspsychology.com.au/adhdherway⁠, Follow and leave a message on our Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/adhdherway⁠/ Or, send us an email via: hello@holisticwellnesspsychology.com.au

In this episode Psychologist Johanna interviews Jeana Westcott (a licensed marriage and family therapist from America) who specialises in couples where one or both partners have ADHD. We discuss the impact of the pandemic on relationships, the personal and professional experience of ADHD, the grief and late diagnosis of ADHD, rejection sensitivity (RSD) and emotional dysregulation in ADHD couples, managing emotional dysregulation in therapy, higher divorce rates and relationship difficulties in ADHD couples, the imbalance of labor in ADHD couples, unhelpful relationship patterns and communication issues, vulnerability and validation in ADHD relationships, overexposure and emotional dumping in ADHD relationships, and individual work and building self-confidence. This conversation explores the challenges and dynamics of relationships affected by ADHD. The discussion covers topics such as new and old relationships, the impact of ADHD on couples with young children, the pressure of parenthood, and the desire for connection. The conversation also delves into the importance of support and empathy, working through relationship challenges, and shifting to a 'we' perspective. Additionally, the conversation offers advice for newly diagnosed individuals in relationships and recommends resources for couples affected by ADHD.Takeaways The (COVID) pandemic has intensified relationship dynamics and family dynamics for ADHD couples, leading to increased conflict, stress, and seperation. Late diagnosis of ADHD can bring a sense of grief and a reevaluation of past experiences, highlighting missed opportunities for understanding and support. RSD and emotional dysregulation are common challenges in ADHD relationships, leading to criticism, defensiveness, and blame. Therapy for ADHD couples focuses on improving communication, understanding relationship dynamics, and finding a balance of labor and responsibilities. Validation, vulnerability, and self-confidence are important factors in building healthier and more fulfilling relationships for ADHD couples. ADHD can impact various aspects of relationships, including dating, parenthood, and overall dynamics. Support and empathy are crucial in navigating the challenges of ADHD in relationships. Both partners play a role in the relationship and need to be willing to work on themselves and the dynamics of the relationship. Understanding and accepting an ADHD diagnosis can lead to better self-awareness and relationship dynamics. Find Jeane Westcott on social media via @luminatetherapymn Also follow @adhdherway and contact us via email on hello@holisticwellnesspsychology.com.au

In this episode, Developmental Psychologist Johanna discusses executive functioning and how it impacts individuals with ADHD, especially mothers. She explores the different aspects of executive functioning, including inhibitory control, working memory, cognitive flexibility, planning and prioritization, task initiation, organisation, emotional regulation, and time management. Johanna provides strategies and tips for managing executive functioning difficulties, such as using technology and apps, visual aids, establishing routines, practicing mindfulness, and seeking therapy or coaching. KeywordsADHD, executive functioning, mothers, inhibitory control, working memory, cognitive flexibility, planning and prioritization, task initiation, organisation, emotional regulation, time management, strategies, tips, technology, apps, visual aids, routines, mindfulness, therapy, coaching, market research Takeaways Executive functioning difficulties are common in individuals with ADHD, especially mothers who have increased demands and responsibilities. The different aspects of executive functioning include inhibitory control, working memory, cognitive flexibility, planning and prioritization, task initiation, organization, emotional regulation, and time management. Strategies for managing executive functioning difficulties include using technology and apps, visual aids, establishing routines, practicing mindfulness, and seeking therapy or coaching. Self-compassion and progress over perfection are important for managing executive functioning challenges. Overcoming Task Initiation Challenges Effective Time Management for ADHDers Favourite tid-bits "Inhibitory control allows us to stop, think and choose a bit more before appropriate course of action." "Improving our working memory can help reduce daily frustrations and make it easier to manage multiple responsibilities." "Cognitive flexibility is the mental agility to switch between thinking about different concepts or multiple aspects of a situation at once." Chapters 00:00- Introduction to Executive Functioning and ADHD 03:44Working Memory: Improving Organization and Recall 07:03Planning and Prioritisation: Strategies for a More Organised Life 11:09 Emotional Regulation: Managing Emotions and Stress 13:05- Executive Functioning Strategies

In this conversation, Callie discusses her work as an eating disorder practitioner specializing in trauma and neurodivergency. She emphasizes the importance of individualized care and the challenges of treating eating disorders within the neurodivergent community. Johanna emphasises the need for collaborative and empathetic approaches in treatment. Callie shares her personal journey with an eating disorder and the impact of her ADHD diagnosis on her recovery. The conversation sheds light on the early signs of ADHD and the development of an eating disorder, as well as the challenges in obtaining an ADHD diagnosis. This part of the conversation explores the intersection of eating disorders and ADHD, the journey to diagnosis, body image and its connection to ADHD, feeling unsafe in our bodies, the influence of social media on body image, and body image in the context of motherhood. The conversation explores the challenges and hopes of new mothers, the impact of breastfeeding on bonding and body image, the challenges of breastfeeding with allergies, the importance of self-care and individualized approaches to eating disorder treatment, and resources for individuals with ADHD and eating disorders. The discussion highlights the need for a more collaborative and person-centered approach in healthcare and the importance of advocating for change in the system. Takeaways There is a strong connection between eating disorders and ADHD, and it is important to address both conditions in treatment. The journey to an ADHD diagnosis can be long and challenging, but receiving a diagnosis can provide validation and understanding. Body image issues are often linked to feeling unsafe in our bodies, especially for individuals with ADHD and trauma. Social media can have a negative impact on body image, and it is important to promote body neutrality and acceptance. Motherhood can bring additional challenges to body image, and it is important to prioritize self-care and self-acceptance. Breastfeeding challenges can impact bonding and body image, and it's important to be empathetic towards oneself and explore alternative ways to bond with the baby. Eliminating foods from the diet to address allergies or intolerances can be mentally and physically exhausting, and it's crucial to prioritise one's own health and well-being. Individualized and collaborative approaches to eating disorder treatment, as well as a focus on neurodiversity, can lead to more effective and inclusive care. There are valuable resources available on social media platforms like Instagram, where individuals can find support, information, and a sense of community. Where to find Callie's info, courses and to grab her brand new Dysfunctional Peer Support Group https://www.calsannsupport.com/ or follow her insta https://www.instagram.com/calsann.support/ What next? Visit our website for more info and resources: ⁠www.holisticwellnesspsychology.com.au⁠, Follow and leave a message on our Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/adhdherway⁠/ Or, send us an email via: hello@holisticwellnesspsychology.com.au

Summary Phoebe, a clinical psychologist, specialises in working with neurodiverse couples, particularly those affected by ADHD. She emphasizes the importance of addressing ADHD and relationship difficulties together, as both partners play a role in the challenges. Phoebe highlights the impact of ADHD on attachment and bonding in relationships, and the need for psychoeducation and understanding. She also addresses common misconceptions about ADHD, such as overdiagnosis and the role of medication. Phoebe emphasises the importance of structure, routine, and communication in managing ADHD in relationships. In this conversation, Phoebe and Johanna discuss common misconceptions about ADHD and the importance of understanding the comorbidity of ADHD with other disorders. They emphasize the need for a comprehensive approach to diagnosis and treatment, as well as the importance of self-acceptance and self-compassion for individuals with ADHD. They also recommend resources such as books and websites for further support. Takeaways Addressing ADHD and relationship difficulties together is crucial, as both partners play a role in the challenges. ADHD can impact attachment and bonding in relationships, leading to eroded connection and emotional dysregulation. Psychoeducation and understanding are key in helping partners navigate the challenges of ADHD in relationships. Common misconceptions about ADHD include overdiagnosis and the role of medication. Structure, routine, and open communication are important in managing ADHD in relationships. ADHD can coexist with other disorders, such as anxiety, depression, and PTSD. It is important to address the underlying issues that contribute to anxiety and depression, rather than just treating the symptoms. Both individuals with ADHD and their partners have a responsibility to meet each other's needs and support one another. Favourite Sound bites: "ADHD is a both problem, it's not just the ADHD partner." "Attachment and connection can become eroded due to ADHD symptoms." "It's [the relationship issues] not going to change overnight and certainly not without supports." Where to find Phoebe's info, courses and to grab her brand new Dating Journal: https://www.therelationshipspace.com.au/dating-journal or @therelationshipspace Source of artice Phoebe refers to: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9915044/ What next? Visit our website for more info and resources: ⁠www.holisticwellnesspsychology.com.au⁠, Follow and leave a message on our Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/adhdherway⁠/ Or, send us an email via: hello@holisticwellnesspsychology.com.au Chapters 00:00 Introduction 03:49The Importance of Understanding Neurodivergence 04:32The Role of Both Partners in Couples Therapy 06:46 The Education Phase and Attachment Theory 07:50 The Impact of ADHD Symptoms on Attachment and Connection 08:29 The Challenges of Couples Therapy with Neurodivergent Couples 09:52 Navigating Shame and Repair in Therapy 11:15 The Forgiving and Motivated Nature of Neurodivergent Couples 12:03 Misconceptions about ADHD including in Couples Therapy 18:02The Importance of Compassion and Empathy in Therapy 20:47 Creating Structure and Routine in the Relationship 22:05 Misconceptions and Lack of Understanding about ADHD 28:21 The Long-Term Process of Working on ADHD in Couples 29:22The Importance of Both Partners Working on Themselves 32:34 Recommended Books and Resources for Neurodivergent Couples 37:04 Creating Intimacy and Connection in Neurodivergent Couples 38:15 Adding Playfulness and Positive Interactions in the Relationship 45:50 The Challenges of Couples Therapy and Personal Growth Keywords ADHD, neurodiverse couples, clinical psychology, relationship difficulties, attachment, psychoeducation, misconceptions, medication, structure, routine, communication, ADHD, misconceptions, comorbidity, diagnosis, treatment, self-acceptance, self-compassion, resources

Summary In this episode, Johanna discusses the impact of TikTok and other social media platforms on the increase in ADHD diagnoses. She acknowledges that social media has made information about ADHD more accessible, allowing marginalized communities to feel a sense of belonging and support. The educational content on social media also helps in raising awareness about ADHD symptoms and management techniques. However, there are also drawbacks, such as the potential for misinformation and inaccurate self-diagnosis. The algorithmic bias on social media can skew the information presented and create overwhelm and anxiety. It is important for individuals to consume social media content with caution and seek evidence-based information from professionals. Takeaways Social media platforms like TikTok have raised awareness about ADHD and made information more accessible, especially for marginalized communities. The educational content on social media can provide valuable information about ADHD symptoms and management techniques. Misinformation and inaccurate self-diagnosis are potential risks of consuming ADHD-related content on social media. The algorithmic bias on social media can skew the information presented and create overwhelm and anxiety. It is important to consume social media content with caution and seek evidence-based information from professionals. What next? Visit our website for more info and resources: www.holisticwellnesspsychology.com.au, Follow and leave a message on our Instagram https://www.instagram.com/adhdherway/ Or, send us an email via: hello@holisticwellnesspsychology.com.au Sound Bites 00:00 Introduction: The Impact of Social Media on ADHD Diagnosis 02:19 Positive Impact of Social Media on ADHD Diagnosis 07:22 Negative Impact of Social Media on ADHD Diagnosis 16:04 Reasons for the Increase in ADHD Diagnosis

In this episode, Chelsea Luker discusses her recently launched book, Square Me, Round World, which aims to provide a deep dive into the lives and minds of Autistic and ADHD individuals. She emphasizes the importance of using metaphors and low-demand learning to create a more inclusive and relatable experience for readers. Chelsea also highlights the need for better representation and understanding of different neurotypes, beyond the criteria outlined in diagnostic manuals. She discusses the impact of masking and the importance of support in creating a more inclusive world. The conversation concludes with a discussion on building a sustainable lifestyle that considers individual neurotypes and prioritizes self-care. This part of the conversation explores the pressure to conform, the struggle to find identity, and the impact of masking. It also delves into intergenerational trauma, late diagnosis and motherhood, and the personal journey of an AuDHD psychologist. The importance of early intervention and support is highlighted, as well as the connection between neurodivergence and cults. In this conversation, Chelsea Luker discusses the key themes and insights explored in her book, which focuses on the experience of not fitting into a world built for neurotypical individuals. She highlights the importance of understanding Autistic and ADHD friendships, masking, rejection-sensitive dysphoria, autistic burnout, sensory overload, and the intersectionality of autism, ADHD, and societal norms. Chelsea emphasizes the need for allies who are informed by lived experience and provides valuable resources for further understanding. The conversation concludes with a discussion on navigating small talk and the impact of the book on the community. Takeaways Using metaphors and low-demand learning can make information more accessible and relatable for neurodivergent individuals. There is a need for better representation and understanding of different neurotypes beyond the criteria outlined in diagnostic manuals. Masking can have a significant impact on mental and physical health, and it is important to create a supportive environment where individuals can be themselves. Building a more inclusive world requires societal change and a recognition of the diverse ways in which individuals experience and interact with the world. Society's pressure to conform can be overwhelming, especially for neurodivergent individuals. Building a supportive network of like-minded individuals can help in embracing one's true self. Masking can lead to a loss of identity and self-esteem. Intergenerational trauma and late diagnosis can impact the journey of neurodivergent individuals. Early intervention and support are crucial for the well-being of neurodivergent individuals. There is a connection between neurodivergence and the vulnerability to cults. Understanding the experiences of individuals is crucial for creating a more inclusive world. AuDHD friendships may look different from 'neurotypical' relationships and should be recognized and valued. Masking and rejection-sensitive dysphoria are common experiences and require understanding and support. Autistic burnout, sensory overload, and sleep difficulties are significant challenges faced by the neurokin. Lived experience and accurate information are essential for providing support and understanding to Autistic and ADHD individuals. Navigating small talk and favorites can be challenging for autistic ADHD individuals, highlighting the need for patience and understanding. Chelsea Luker's book aims to continue having a positive impact on the community, providing validation and understanding for many individuals. To check out more about Chelsea and to buy her 'Square Me, Round World' book and awesome merch visit: https://connectuspsychology.com/ Follow @adhdherway and visit: www.holisticwellnesspsychology.com.au

SummaryIn this episode, Johanna discusses the topic of rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD), a common experience for women with ADHD. She explains that RSD is a swift and intense reaction to perceived or actual rejection or criticism. Johanna highlights the impact of RSD on friendships and relationships, as well as its influence on self-esteem and overall well-being. Johanna finishes the episode by emphasisising the importance of building supportive networks and creating an inclusive society that understands and accommodates neurodivergent individuals. Takeaways Rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD) is a common experience for women with ADHD and involves a swift and intense reaction to perceived or actual rejection or criticism. RSD can significantly impact friendships, relationships, and self-esteem, leading to emotional distress and avoidance of social situations. Strategies for managing RSD include developing self-compassion, setting boundaries, seeking professional help, and engaging in self-soothing practices. Building supportive networks and creating an inclusive society that understands and accommodates neurodivergent individuals is crucial for individuals with RSD. Follow @adhdherway for more content and share your feedback there or by emailing: hello@holisticwellnesspsychology.com.au Chapters00:00Introduction to Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) 03:45 Symptoms and Impact of RSD05:11Interpersonal Dynamics and RSD 09:22 Strategies for Managing RSD 15:00 Creating an Inclusive Society 16:00 Self-Compassion and Boundaries26:30Self-Soothing Practices 19:04 Conclusion and Future Episodes