The ADHD Effect in Couple's Therapy with Jeana Westcott

In this episode Psychologist Johanna interviews Jeana Westcott (a licensed marriage and family therapist from America) who specialises in couples where one or both partners have ADHD.

We discuss the impact of the pandemic on relationships, the personal and professional experience of ADHD, the grief and late diagnosis of ADHD, rejection sensitivity (RSD) and emotional dysregulation in ADHD couples, managing emotional dysregulation in therapy, higher divorce rates and relationship difficulties in ADHD couples, the imbalance of labor in ADHD couples, unhelpful relationship patterns and communication issues, vulnerability and validation in ADHD relationships, overexposure and emotional dumping in ADHD relationships, and individual work and building self-confidence. This conversation explores the challenges and dynamics of relationships affected by ADHD.

The discussion covers topics such as new and old relationships, the impact of ADHD on couples with young children, the pressure of parenthood, and the desire for connection. The conversation also delves into the importance of support and empathy, working through relationship challenges, and shifting to a 'we' perspective. Additionally, the conversation offers advice for newly diagnosed individuals in relationships and recommends resources for couples affected by ADHD.Takeaways

• The (COVID) pandemic has intensified relationship dynamics and family dynamics for ADHD couples, leading to increased conflict, stress, and seperation.
• Late diagnosis of ADHD can bring a sense of grief and a reevaluation of past experiences, highlighting missed opportunities for understanding and support.
• RSD and emotional dysregulation are common challenges in ADHD relationships, leading to criticism, defensiveness, and blame.
• Therapy for ADHD couples focuses on improving communication, understanding relationship dynamics, and finding a balance of labor and responsibilities.
• Validation, vulnerability, and self-confidence are important factors in building healthier and more fulfilling relationships for ADHD couples. ADHD can impact various aspects of relationships, including dating, parenthood, and overall dynamics.
• Support and empathy are crucial in navigating the challenges of ADHD in relationships.
• Both partners play a role in the relationship and need to be willing to work on themselves and the dynamics of the relationship.
• Understanding and accepting an ADHD diagnosis can lead to better self-awareness and relationship dynamics.

Find Jeane Westcott on social media via @luminatetherapymn

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