Grace + Boundaries: Navigating Intergenerational Trauma with Erin Hearts
Erin Hearts
Grace + Boundaries is a weekly memoir in a podcast! Follow host, Erin Hearts, as she shares how she navigates trauma while setting boundaries from her higher self. Traumas, big or small, can add up to broken relationships within a family. These traumas continue being passed down until we take steps to repair and mend our broken hearts with self-care and psychological education. Gaining emotional maturity is also a large part of the path towards grace and boundaries. Erin has walked the path of trauma recovery for the past decade, and is learning day by day how to evolve from the hurt she feels in order to become the graceful, loving woman she has always intended to be. Erin has a Master's degree in Education, creatively teaches middle school, is a musician, and loves being a single mom to her tweenaged boy. Grace + Boundaries has been the name of this podcast since July 2023. From November 2021- June 2023, this podcast was called "Self-Care for Survivors of Trauma." This podcast is a community of honest, open-minded survivors of all types of trauma, big and small. Each week, host Erin Hearts will discuss an aspect of self-care- emotional, physical, spiritual, etc.- and share how she navigates life's challenges by doing special things for herself and making time for herself each day. Erin believes that learning how to take care of ourselves is the key to healthy relationships with others, and she's devoted the past six years to studying and practicing how to better love and support herself and her loved ones. Erin is a single mom, teacher, musician, and highly sensitive person. Instagram: @iheartserin
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Jan 30, 2022 • 19min
Episode 10: EFT (Tapping), Giving up Coffee, and Adult Acne
Today I discuss how I use the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), sometimes called "tapping," to help me feel my feelings and get to that place of cry. EFT helps repave our brains towards healthier connections. Neuroplasticity is amazing!!! It's helping me heal my trauma. I share a story about how I recently gave up coffee and how that led me to overeating and angry, inflammatory acne. Giving up a drug revealed a new layer of emotion/negative thought pattern that had been suppressed inside of me from formative years. I also share a listener review and discuss how following out intuition is an adventure worth taking! We never know what's around the next corner when we try tiny new things. A one degree turn can change a life's trajectory! I've witnessed this many times now and it's marvelous! YOU can be the one you've always wanted to take care of you. Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!
Jan 19, 2022 • 20min
Episode 9: Parenting alongside the Tendency to Control
Exploring the challenges of breaking intergenerational trauma cycles and changing controlling parenting behaviors. Overcoming codependent traits for healthier relationships. Implementing family meetings for open communication and problem-solving. Establishing clear expectations for chores and screen time. Emphasizing imperfect progress in teaching responsibility to children.
Jan 17, 2022 • 24min
Episode 8: Spirituality, LGBTQ+, and Church
How big is your spirituality? Do you allow yourself the freedom to believe what you feel comfortable believing and leave out the rest? Today I discuss the evolution of my spirituality and religious beliefs over the years and how it changed after I realized I am part of the LGBTQ+ community. I discuss my decision to take my son to church, and how I've chosen to revel in the parts of church I love and let go of the rest. MLK Speech Transcript: https://www.npr.org/2010/01/18/122701268/i-have-a-dream-speech-in-its-entiretyMarianne Williams: https://marianne.com/Brandan Robertson "Tic Toc Pastor" https://www.brandanrobertson.com/Nadia Bolz-Weber "Shameless" memoir: https://nadiabolzweber.com/ Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!
Jan 9, 2022 • 6min
Bonus Episode #1: Masterpieces of the Universe
A story of synchronicity. When I was able to let go as a parent, a miracle beyond my own imagination occured. Isn't that amazing? I love it.YOU can be the one you've always wanted to take care of you. Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!
Jan 9, 2022 • 12min
Episode 7: Stay or Go?
Should I stay or should I go? This is one of the hardest choices to make in a relationship be it a love relationship, a friendship, or even relationships with family. Staying or going might be an even harder decision for survivors of trauma, since we may have had less examples growing up of what a healthy relationship and healthy conflict looks and acts like. Today I'm going to discuss the book Should I Stay or Should I Go? A Guide to Knowing if Your Relationship Can- and Should- Be Saved and how it helped me decipher my way out of my eight-year marriage. I give some top signs that led me to my decision to leave, and I share some of the best advice from the book on how to tell if you're in a relationship that can handle growth, or if you're stuck in a dead-end cycle. Book to purchase: Should I Stay or Should I Go?: A Guide to Knowing if Your Relationship Can--and Should--be Saved: Bancroft, Lundy, Patrissi, JAC: 8601234577928: Amazon.com: BooksAuthor websites: Lundy Bancroft: https://lundybancroft.com/ Jac Patrissi: https://growinganewheart.org/YOU can be the one you've always wanted to take care of you. Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!
Jan 3, 2022 • 10min
Episode 6: Are you an HSP?
Are you a Highly Sensitive Person? One out of five humans (and animals!) are innately more sensitive than the rest of the world. Identifying these traits helps me accept and validate the times that I have felt different when I have been slower or more emotive than the others around me. Being highly sensitive is not celebrated in American culture, and can lead people like me to have felt less-than or different in the past. Reading about HSP's helps me learn more about myself and realize the positive qualities I have with this increased sensibility. HSP's are artistic, creative, and deep thinkers. We might notice things in our world that others miss. We might appreciate art and music to a greater extent than non-HSP's. Here's the book I read by Dr. Elaine Aron: The Highly Sensitive Person (hsperson.com)Here are some works of art from Picasso's Blue Period: Abstract Picasso Blue Period - Bing imagesEnjoy!YOU can be the one you've always wanted to take care of you. Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!
Dec 27, 2021 • 14min
Episode 5: The Healing Powers of Music
Have you noticed that music can sooth your mood and help you feel more connected?Singing and using our voice calms our nervous system. It's scientifically proven! Today I'll talk about the ways that we can use music as a powerful tool for our healing. I'll discuss my history playing music and how I've incorporated the love of music into my home and shared it with my son.YOU can be the one you've always wanted to take care of you. For further reading:7 Ways Combining Tech and Music can help you Heal: https://www.forbes.com/sites/mnewlands/2017/10/23/7-ways-combining-tech-and-music-can-help-you-heal/?sh=5aca419f6482The Holistic Psychologist: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/How to Do The Work: https://www.amazon.com/How-Do-Work-Recognize-Patterns/dp/006301209X Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!
Dec 20, 2021 • 12min
Episode 4: Delectable Delights of December 2021
I share my top five Delectable Delights of the moment:a food,a show,music,a book,a podcast.Today I even add on a 6th, Bonus delight! What are your top five delectable delights of the month? Share them with me! YOU can be the one you've always wanted to take care of you.My delectable delights: Mint M&M's M&m's Holiday Mint Chocolate Candies - 9.2oz : TargetJingle Jangle: A Christmas Journey Jingle Jangle: A Christmas Journey (2020) - IMDbHarry Styles Treat People with Kindness Treat People With Kindness - Bing videoJenny Lewis Head Underwater - Bing videoSomebody's Daughter Ashley C. Ford WRITING — Ashley C. Ford (ashleycford.net)We can do Hard Things Glennon Doyle We Can Do Hard Things with Glennon Doyle on Apple Podcasts Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!
Dec 11, 2021 • 23min
Episode 3: Emotional Abuse Validation
In this episode, the speaker shares their experience with emotional abuse, reflecting on dysfunctional behaviors, seeking validation only to face invalidation, and their realization of boundary violations. They discuss overcoming fear, insomnia, and finding validation through therapy and support networks.
Dec 5, 2021 • 12min
Episode 2: Forgiveness is self-care for ME
What does forgiveness mean to you? I've spent years avoiding the concept. But today I see that I need to forgive those most difficult ones in my life so that I can have peace and speak with impecability. I discuss forgiveness as a spiritual practice to bring more freedom into my life. Thanks for listening!YOU can be the one you've always wanted to take care of you. Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!
