Sex for Saints

Dive into the depths of sexual shame in men, a powerful and often overlooked emotion. Discover how societal norms and upbringing influence this internal struggle, shaping attitudes towards sexuality. Explore how this shame manifests differently for men compared to women and its impact on intimacy and performance. The discussion also offers valuable strategies for healing, emphasizing the importance of awareness, therapy, and open conversations to foster healthier relationships and self-acceptance.

Valentine's Day is coming up! Does that thought fill you with excitement or dread? Often when we think about Valentine's Day, we dream up this scene straight from the movies and we are often disappointed by what actually happens. So this year, maybe we can prepare ourselves for Valentine's Day. I don't mean grand gestures or perfect plans, but shifting our attention to preparing ourselves - mind, body, and heart - for love and connection. Let's talk about how to do just that. Whether your relationship is thriving, struggling, or somewhere in between, this episode is for you!

When we think about unconditional love, it always sounds romantic and exciting, right? We've all seen the romcoms where they have the kind of love that never falters, regardless of what happens. It's the idea that someone is loved completely, no matter their choices, behaviors, or circumstances. But in marriage, the idea of unconditional love should be more nuanced. It may seem wonderful on the big screen, but in reality, unconditional love in marriage is a partnership between two adults with needs, boundaries, and expectations. It isn't about tolerating harmful behavior or being a doormat. It's about striving to accept your partner as they are, flaws and all, while also keeping a hold of your sense of self and safety. In this episode, we're going to talk about what unconditional love should look like in marriage and how to achieve it.

Discover fascinating techniques for men to prolong arousal and enhance intimacy during intimate moments. The discussion covers practical tips, medication options, and natural remedies. Delve into the psychological barriers that can hinder enjoyment and learn how to overcome them. This conversation promises to elevate your sexual experience and make every moment count!

Have you ever found yourself wondering why your wife doesn't seem to be attracted to you? After all, you do everything you're "supposed" to do, you've been told it works, but she still doesn't seem interested. She still doesn't seem drawn to you. The spark still isn't there. She may even seem frustrated by your attempts to connect. Why? In this episode, I'm going to answer that question and help you find that connection with your spouse that you've been searching for.

When was the last time you felt alive in your marriage? Has it been a while? The longer we're married, the more sex can become something else on our to-do list. Something that needs to happen, but doesn't bring much joy. But sex can be so much more than just the physical urge to have sex. How? When we replace sexuality with eroticism, sex becomes a way to connect with your spouse, to enjoy each other more, to feel more alive. Curious? Listen as we discuss the difference between sexuality and eroticism and what it can do for you.

Men and women have been conditioned to think that the word "objectifying" is bad. True, it can feel unsettling but sexual relationships thrive when there is a sense of desire - a longing for one another that includes, but isn't limited to, physical attraction. So, how do we navigate the tension between desire and respect? How do we balance celebrating our spouse's physical presence without reducing them to just a body? That's what we're going to talk about today.

In this episode, I am going to explore the topic of Sexual Surrender. What does it mean to fully open up, not just physically, but emotionally and mentally with your spouse? Let's talk about what sexual surrender is, what it isn't, why it matters, and how you can gently encourage it within your marriage. It may sound intimidating at first, but it can be a doorway to a richer, more meaningful intimate relationship with your spouse.

As with most things, introverts and extroverts approach sex differently. Where introverts often prefer to have time to prepare, extroverts love spontaneity. So when an extrovert marries an introvert, there can often be hurt feelings and frustration with their sexual relationship. Let's talk about the differences with introverts and extroverts when it comes to sex, and how to navigate that relationship. Marriage isn't about changing each other, but coming to understand each person's needs. This is a great place to start.

Connection is vital in marriage, serving as the glue that holds couples together through ups and downs. The discussion emphasizes practical strategies for improving intimacy across different dimensions—physical, emotional, and spiritual. Techniques for setting mutual goals and sharing interests can strengthen bonds, while open communication enhances emotional connections. There's also a spotlight on the benefits of seeking professional support to navigate relationship challenges, fostering deeper understanding and closeness.