Sex for Saints Episode 355 - Sexual Shame in Men
Feb 7, 2025
Dive into the depths of sexual shame in men, a powerful and often overlooked emotion. Discover how societal norms and upbringing influence this internal struggle, shaping attitudes towards sexuality. Explore how this shame manifests differently for men compared to women and its impact on intimacy and performance. The discussion also offers valuable strategies for healing, emphasizing the importance of awareness, therapy, and open conversations to foster healthier relationships and self-acceptance.
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Sexual Shame Is Deep Self‑Worth Damage
- Sexual shame is a deep internalized sense of unworthiness about sexual thoughts, desires, or behaviors rather than mere embarrassment.
- This shame creates barriers to healthy sexual expression, intimacy, and self-acceptance.
Conservative Upbringing Fuels Lifelong Guilt
- Amanda describes a man raised in a conservative home who learns sex and masturbation are labeled as bad and carries guilt into adulthood.
- He may see himself as unworthy of love from others or God when aroused or after masturbating.
Gender Shapes How Shame Shows Up
- Shame manifests differently by gender because cultural expectations shape the shame's focal point and expression.
- Men often feel they must hide vulnerability and see sexual problems as failures of masculinity.