Sex for Saints

Discover how your brain's instinct to prioritize safety sabotages sexual connection in marriage. Learn about the stories rooted in past experiences that shape your beliefs. Higher-desire and lower-desire partners face unique lies that perpetuate fear and disconnection. Explore practical ways to recognize and challenge these damaging thoughts. Curiosity becomes a tool to foster intimacy, moving from confusion to clarity. This conversation sheds light on transforming your relationship with sex by reframing harmful narratives.

This episode marks my 400th conversation about sex, marriage, and building a relationship that actually feels good to live inside, and I'm incredibly grateful you're here for it. To celebrate, I dive into why flirting can either create connection and desire or quietly turn into pressure that pushes your spouse away. I explain how flirting is meant to be playful and connective, not a disguised request for sex, and why the underlying dynamic matters more than the behavior itself. We talk about different flirting styles, how mindset shapes how flirting lands, and what to do when affection has started to feel loaded or tense. If you want flirting to feel lighter, safer, and genuinely connecting again, this episode will help you understand what's getting in the way and how to shift it. Find the Podcast Guide here.

Explore the idea of infusing sexual energy into daily life, not just during intimate moments. Learn how playful touch, flirty texts, and witty wordplay can sustain desire. Discover the importance of emotional intimacy and giving without pressure. Hear real stories from couples who prioritize connection amidst their routines. Understand how to navigate fluctuations in desire and reclaim your sexual identity. This discussion emphasizes the joy of making everyday moments feel playful and intimate.

Discover the nuances of orgasms, from defining what they feel like to understanding weak climaxes. Learn about the common reasons for muted pleasure, such as rushing and distractions. Explore practical techniques like the plateau method and pelvic floor engagement to intensify experiences. Understand the difference between solo and partnered orgasms, and how to bring solo pleasure into your relationships. Embrace patience and realistic expectations on your journey to stronger, more fulfilling orgasms.

In this episode, I'm breaking down the practical side of sexual hygiene and why it matters so much for intimacy, confidence, and overall sexual health. I walk through the basics of caring for your body, hands, nails, toys, and the environment you're having sex in, and I explain the common mistakes couples make that lead to infections and discomfort. I share real examples from clients to show how small hygiene habits can make a big difference in your relationship and your body. You'll also hear simple, actionable intimacy tips to help you build safer, healthier, more comfortable sex routines with your spouse. If you've ever wondered what actually matters when it comes to better sex and good hygiene, this episode will give you clear guidance without the overwhelm.

Navigating intimacy after welcoming a baby can be challenging. Discover how relationships transform and what’s typical during this transition. Amanda shares stories highlighting common post-baby tensions and emotional shifts for both partners. She emphasizes the importance of communication and boundaries around breastfeeding. Practical strategies like daily check-ins and coping techniques help preserve connection. Learn to approach intimacy with patience and create a new normal as you enjoy this temporary season together.

Pregnancy brings so many changes, and your intimate life is one of them, but it doesn't have to disappear for nine months. In this episode, I'm answering real listener questions about sex during pregnancy, including what's safe, what feels comfortable, and how to stay emotionally and physically connected through every trimester. We'll talk about shifting desire, body image, and practical ways to communicate and adapt as your body changes. My goal is to help you and your partner approach this season with curiosity, confidence, and closeness instead of fear or frustration. You'll walk away feeling more at ease, better informed, and equipped with real strategies to keep intimacy thriving during every stage of pregnancy. Remember to consult with your healthcare provider about any concerns related to intimacy during pregnancy. Every pregnancy is unique, and individual medical guidance is important.

In this episode, I'm sitting down with Justin and Natalie Weeks, the founders of Evree Intimate Massage Oil and Lubricant, to talk about how one thoughtful idea completely transformed their intimacy and could change yours too. We dive into the surprising benefits of using a truly natural, skin-loving intimate product, why lube is essential (not optional!), and how communication and playfulness can take a good marriage and make it great. Justin and Natalie share their story of creating a product that's 100% natural, edible, safe for sensitive skin, and doubles as both a massage oil and lubricant, plus how it's changed the way they connect in and out of the bedroom. Whether you're navigating dryness, menopause, or just wanting more pleasure and connection, this conversation is full of encouragement and practical insight for couples of faith. Tune in to hear why investing in intimacy matters and how something as simple as the right lubricant can bring more joy, confidence, and closeness into your marriage.

The podcast explores the damaging belief that sex equals love, highlighting how this mindset harms relationships. It discusses societal influences on men equating intimacy with affection and challenges the narrative propagated by media. Amanda emphasizes the importance of recognizing diverse expressions of love beyond the bedroom and encourages listeners to shift their focus from being loved to showing love. Practical tools are provided to facilitate more authentic connections, ultimately freeing both love and desire from unrealistic pressures.

Sexual rejection is one of the most painful experiences in marriage, but is your spouse really rejecting you or just rejecting sex? In this episode, I break down the two types of rejection, how to tell the difference, and why understanding this can change everything in your relationship. We'll talk about what rejection looks like when it's personal, what it looks like when it's not, and how to stop letting painful stories in your head dictate the way you feel. If you've ever wondered, "What's really happening when my spouse says no?" this conversation will give you clarity, hope, and practical steps forward.