Sex for Saints

In this episode, I want to talk about something a lot of women quietly wonder but rarely say out loud: what if sex isn't bad, but it's also not very good? In this episode, I unpack why so many women experience sex as "meh," even in loving marriages where both partners are trying. We look at how expectations, anatomy, mental patterns, and our relationship with pleasure all shape how sex actually feels. I explain why nothing is broken about you if sex hasn't lived up to the hype, and how pleasure is something that's learned, not automatic. If you've ever wondered why sex feels underwhelming or why you'd rather do almost anything else, this conversation will help you understand what's really going on and what can change.

In this episode, I'm inviting you to look at a pattern that might be quietly shaping your sex life without you realizing it. We're talking about what happens when sex becomes a way to soothe anxiety, seek reassurance, or calm uncomfortable emotions instead of a place of desire and connection. I share real examples of how this shows up in marriages, why it feels helpful in the moment, and why it often leaves both partners feeling disconnected afterward. Most importantly, we explore what becomes possible when sex no longer has to carry the weight of proving everything is okay. If you want a sex life that feels lighter, more present, and rooted in genuine connection, this episode is for you.

Do you ever feel like sex is something you just check off? Explore the concept of 'simmering'—a gentle way to stay connected to your sexuality without pressure. Discover how lower-desire partners can benefit from this approach, easing the burden of anticipation. Amanda shares metaphors like boiling water and campfires to illustrate keeping a low-level awareness. Plus, hear about Sophia's transformative journey and practical daily tips for maintaining sexual intimacy. It's all about connection, anticipation, and making sex feel effortless.

Discover how your brain's instinct to prioritize safety sabotages sexual connection in marriage. Learn about the stories rooted in past experiences that shape your beliefs. Higher-desire and lower-desire partners face unique lies that perpetuate fear and disconnection. Explore practical ways to recognize and challenge these damaging thoughts. Curiosity becomes a tool to foster intimacy, moving from confusion to clarity. This conversation sheds light on transforming your relationship with sex by reframing harmful narratives.

This episode marks my 400th conversation about sex, marriage, and building a relationship that actually feels good to live inside, and I'm incredibly grateful you're here for it. To celebrate, I dive into why flirting can either create connection and desire or quietly turn into pressure that pushes your spouse away. I explain how flirting is meant to be playful and connective, not a disguised request for sex, and why the underlying dynamic matters more than the behavior itself. We talk about different flirting styles, how mindset shapes how flirting lands, and what to do when affection has started to feel loaded or tense. If you want flirting to feel lighter, safer, and genuinely connecting again, this episode will help you understand what's getting in the way and how to shift it. Find the Podcast Guide here.

Explore the idea of infusing sexual energy into daily life, not just during intimate moments. Learn how playful touch, flirty texts, and witty wordplay can sustain desire. Discover the importance of emotional intimacy and giving without pressure. Hear real stories from couples who prioritize connection amidst their routines. Understand how to navigate fluctuations in desire and reclaim your sexual identity. This discussion emphasizes the joy of making everyday moments feel playful and intimate.

Discover the nuances of orgasms, from defining what they feel like to understanding weak climaxes. Learn about the common reasons for muted pleasure, such as rushing and distractions. Explore practical techniques like the plateau method and pelvic floor engagement to intensify experiences. Understand the difference between solo and partnered orgasms, and how to bring solo pleasure into your relationships. Embrace patience and realistic expectations on your journey to stronger, more fulfilling orgasms.

In this episode, I'm breaking down the practical side of sexual hygiene and why it matters so much for intimacy, confidence, and overall sexual health. I walk through the basics of caring for your body, hands, nails, toys, and the environment you're having sex in, and I explain the common mistakes couples make that lead to infections and discomfort. I share real examples from clients to show how small hygiene habits can make a big difference in your relationship and your body. You'll also hear simple, actionable intimacy tips to help you build safer, healthier, more comfortable sex routines with your spouse. If you've ever wondered what actually matters when it comes to better sex and good hygiene, this episode will give you clear guidance without the overwhelm.

Navigating intimacy after welcoming a baby can be challenging. Discover how relationships transform and what’s typical during this transition. Amanda shares stories highlighting common post-baby tensions and emotional shifts for both partners. She emphasizes the importance of communication and boundaries around breastfeeding. Practical strategies like daily check-ins and coping techniques help preserve connection. Learn to approach intimacy with patience and create a new normal as you enjoy this temporary season together.

Pregnancy brings so many changes, and your intimate life is one of them, but it doesn't have to disappear for nine months. In this episode, I'm answering real listener questions about sex during pregnancy, including what's safe, what feels comfortable, and how to stay emotionally and physically connected through every trimester. We'll talk about shifting desire, body image, and practical ways to communicate and adapt as your body changes. My goal is to help you and your partner approach this season with curiosity, confidence, and closeness instead of fear or frustration. You'll walk away feeling more at ease, better informed, and equipped with real strategies to keep intimacy thriving during every stage of pregnancy. Remember to consult with your healthcare provider about any concerns related to intimacy during pregnancy. Every pregnancy is unique, and individual medical guidance is important.