Sex for Saints

In this episode, I’m diving into a pattern I see so often in marriages: good men with the best intentions who unintentionally invalidate their wives’ feelings. I’ll share real stories of couples who get stuck in this cycle and explain why it happens, especially when a husband’s identity is tied so closely to being “the good guy.” You’ll hear how this dynamic leaves wives feeling unseen and husbands frustrated, even though neither partner wants that outcome. Most importantly, I’ll talk about what both husbands and wives can do to break free from this pattern and build deeper connection and intimacy. Whether you see yourself in these stories or simply want a stronger marriage, this episode has something for you.

The podcast dives into the often-ignored topic of sexual grief, exploring the gap between expectations and reality. It highlights how this grief can manifest in various forms, from mismatched desires to experiences of infertility. Listeners learn the importance of acknowledging and processing this grief, as it is as valid as any other loss. Practical strategies for healing and rebuilding intimacy are discussed, alongside real-life examples that underscore the significance of embracing one's journey through sexual grief.

In this episode, I’m tackling one of the most common questions I hear in my coaching practice: why do so many women say no to sex? The truth is, it’s often not about low libido, it’s about the kind of sex they’re having. When intimacy feels like an obligation, when body image fears take over, or when pleasure and freedom are missing, it’s no wonder women start turning away. I’ll walk you through the real reasons behind sexual rejection in marriage and share how couples can rebuild connection, joy, and desire so intimacy feels safe, fun, and fulfilling again.

Katie Runyon, creator of Faithful Fling, is back to share her insights on keeping long-term marriages passionate. She discusses how role-play can infuse novelty and deep emotional intimacy, breaking routines that lead to stagnation. Katie reveals surprising demographics embracing these flings and explains how preparation can heighten trust and tension. She emphasizes the importance of play and curiosity in rediscovering each other, offering over 50 creative ideas to spice up monogamy. Get ready for inspiration to reignite the flames!

In this episode, we explore why sexual certainty, which is the belief that you already know exactly how intimacy should look, might actually be blocking passion and connection in your relationship. You’ll learn the difference between confidence and certainty, how curiosity creates space for growth, and why faith and openness are key to deeper intimacy. Through personal stories, brain science, and real-life coaching examples, you’ll see how letting go of rigid beliefs and asking better questions can transform your marriage, strengthen your connection, and help you discover new levels of joy in your intimate relationship. Source: Quotes from "Conclave" (2024 film directed by Edward Berger)

In this episode, we’re unpacking a powerful insight that could completely transform the way you experience intimacy in your marriage. It’s all about the surprising difference between safety and security in your sexual relationship and why understanding it might be the missing piece to reigniting the passion you’ve been longing for. Most people think they’re the same thing, but once you see the distinction, it can change everything about the way you connect with your spouse.   Sources: Safety vs. Security concept credit: Whitni Miller (BDEmoves on Instagram) on "You Are Not Broken" podcast with Dr. Kelly Casperson Episode: "325. Sex, Safety and Embodied Intimacy" (July 5, 2025) Link: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-are-not-broken/id1495710329?i=1000715944578&r=495 "Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence" by Esther Perel  

In this dynamic episode, Amanda sits down with Hope Orr, the owner of Elevated Boudoir, Utah’s premier boudoir photography studio. Hope shares her personal journey from body insecurity and diet culture to self-acceptance and how one DIY boudoir session completely shifted her mindset. Now, she helps other women (and couples) experience that same transformation through photography that’s more about healing than it is about posing. We dive into how boudoir photography can spark self-love, rebuild confidence after trauma, and even strengthen marriages and intimacy. You’ll hear deeply moving client stories - from new moms rediscovering their beauty to longtime couples reconnecting in ways they never expected. Whether you’ve always been curious about boudoir sessions or thought, “That’s not for me,” this conversation will challenge and inspire you. Plus, learn exactly what a session with Elevated Boudoir looks like and how it’s designed to be a safe, empowering experience—no matter your size, age, or comfort level. You can find Hope at: Her website: http://elevatedboudoir.com Email: info@elevatedboudoir.com Instagram: @elevatedboudoir  

In this episode, we’re diving into a powerful idea I recently heard on the Sex Therapy 101 podcast - a conversation between Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers and my friend Dr. Cami Hurst. Dr. Sellers shared a thought-provoking insight about the difference between sex drive and sexual desire. It’s something we’ve touched on before, but today I want to give it the attention it deserves. This is one of the most misunderstood concepts in marriage, and I truly believe that understanding this difference might just revolutionize your relationship. Let’s unpack it together.

Is the marriage advice you’ve heard actually helping or quietly hurting your relationship? In this episode, Amanda interviews marriage coach and author Monica Tanner about her new book Bad Marriage Advice. They dive into common myths like “never go to bed angry” and “happy wife, happy life,” and explain why these well-meaning tips can lead to disconnection over time. You’ll hear real stories, modern insight, and practical ways to build a relationship rooted in choice, not obligation. Whether you're newlywed or decades in, this conversation is full of wisdom you won't want to miss. You can find Monica at: Her website: https://www.monicatanner.com/ Get on the waitlist for her book: https://www.badmarriageadvice.com/join-the-waitlist  

Disappointment might be the secret ingredient to enhancing intimacy in relationships. The discussion reveals how avoiding disappointment can silently erode connections. By confronting this tough emotion, couples can improve their communication and sex life. Listeners learn practical strategies for navigating unmet expectations and embracing emotional vulnerability. This conversation uncovers the surprising power of processing disappointment to foster deeper intimacy and fulfillment.