Sex for Saints

Creating a collaborative sexual relationship is so important to your marriage. Collaboration is different from compromise where it's not just about teamwork, or giving in, but about a mutual commitment to creating a relationship that meets both partner's needs. The rewards of a collaborative sexual relationship are profound! When both partners participate in building a space that respects and uplifts one another, it strengthens the bond, increases the satisfaction, and deepens emotional intimacy. In this episode, we're going to talk about what a collaborative sexual relationship is, why it's valuable, how it differs from compromise, and as always, I'll share practical tips to foster collaboration in your marriage.

Do you find yourself worrying more about your partner during your sexual experience than you do yourself? When we feel overly responsible for other's emotional or physical experience during sex, we can be affecting our relationship in a negative way. This dynamic is called sexual caretaking. We are taught, directly or indirectly, that we are responsible for their experience. This is not true. In this episode, we're talking about what sexual caretaking is, where it comes from, the impact it has on our relationships, and how we can shift this dynamic to create something healthier and more fulfilling for both partners.

In this episode, we are going to address a topic that so many struggle with but often don't talk about: sexual shame. Many carry the burden of sexual shame and it can impact our view of ourselves and our connection with our spouse. If you've ever found yourself feeling like something is wrong with you for having sexual thoughts, or if you've hidden aspects of your sexuality out of fear or guilt, this episode is for you.

Feeling less attracted to your partner? You're not alone! It’s a common issue in relationships, but it doesn’t spell doom. Discover why attraction wanes and learn how to navigate that emotional disconnect—where couples can feel more like roommates. Explore actionable steps to rekindle love and intimacy, like spending quality time together and embracing new experiences. With a proactive approach, it’s possible to revive that connection and strengthen your bond!

Thanksgiving sparks reflections on gratitude, but often our sexual relationships are overlooked. Discover how cultivating gratitude can transform intimacy into something deeper and more fulfilling. Practical strategies for expressing appreciation are shared, enhancing emotional closeness and relationship satisfaction. Remember, practicing gratitude isn't just for holidays; it’s a year-round gift that can elevate your connection!

Explore the intriguing reasons behind a woman's lack of desire for intimacy. Emotional connection plays a crucial role, as pressure can often hinder interest. Discover practical strategies to enhance communication and affection in relationships. Learn how shared responsibilities and mutual pleasure can rekindle passion and deepen the emotional bonds between partners. Listen for valuable insights that could transform your relationship dynamics.

Have you ever felt like your sex life is stuck in a predictable, comfortable routine? It's not unusual to feel this way but how do you get out of it? Let me answer that question and more in this episode. We will talk about a concept called "Sexual Leftovers," those things that feel safe and not too scary in the bedroom, instead of the intimate connection that you want sex to be. And we will talk about how to address those underlying anxieties that keep you and your partner from enjoying your sex life to the fullest. There is no need to be stagnant. You can reignite that spark!

What is aftercare? Well, to put it simply, it's what happens after you have sex. Do you jump right up and go on with your day or do you take some time to cuddle? Aftercare plays such a significant role in building and sustaining intimacy in a relationship. That's why I want to talk about it in this episode. Why is aftercare so important and how to introduce it if it's not already a part of your sexual routine. Let's really break this down and talk about how aftercare impacts relationships at a deep level.

Are you bad in bed? Is your spouse? Being "bad in bed" isn't a thing that should cause shame or anger but it is something that needs to be looked at more. And it usually starts outside the bedroom. In this episode, we're going to talk about what it means to be "bad in bed" and what to do about it if you recognize yourself or your spouse in the list. With my normal honest and forthright style, I'll give you exactly what to say and do to no longer be "bad in bed."

Even though this topic can feel a little awkward, frustrating, and even scary, I think it's important to talk about because all couples will probably have this happen from time to time in their sex lives. So, the question is, what happens when men lose their erections during sex? In this episode, we're breaking down why this happens, what to do when it does, and how to support each other through it. Let's look at this from the men's and women's perspective so that you can have a better understanding of what is going on and how to react when it does happen.