

Savage Lovecast
Dan Savage
Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex and relationship questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, record your question and send it to Q@Savage.Love, or call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savage.love and get yourself a subscription.
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Jun 17, 2025 • 53min
Savage Lovecast Episode 972
Listeners dive into the intriguing mental shifts of 'post-nut clarity' and 'post-nut confusion,' as two callers share their unique experiences. A straight man's unexpected encounter at Pride sparks conversation about personal discoveries and the evolving dynamics of sexual identity. As conversations unfold around liquor-soaked Pride celebrations, questions arise about the balance of joy and respect. Meanwhile, practical advice on enhancing sexual experiences, including prostate stimulation, keeps the discussion both candid and informative.

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Jun 10, 2025 • 59min
Savage Lovecast Episode 971
Nico Carney, a Brooklyn-based comedian and trans man, uses humor to tackle serious topics in the LGBTQIA+ community. He discusses the importance of laughter in understanding trans experiences, shares anecdotes about navigating dating post-transition, and examines genital preferences. The conversation also explores intimacy issues, including a woman's struggle with anxiety around bodily functions during sex and a man questioning compatibility in a polyamorous relationship. Nico’s journey highlights comedy as a bridge for connection and activism.

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Jun 3, 2025 • 57min
Savage Lovecast Episode 970
This week, comedian Jeremy Alder, a former fundamentalist Christian pastor turned humorist, brings his dry wit to the table. He shares hilarious insights about the pitfalls of homeschooling and his 'slutty phase' post-church life. The conversation dives deep into navigating honesty in polyamorous relationships, stress over communication, and the complexities of dom/sub dynamics, like the dilemmas of pegging. Listeners also hear a heart-wrenching story of a decade-long friend-with-benefits relationship that turns rocky, raising questions about emotional closure.

May 27, 2025 • 48min
Savage Lovecast Episode 969
A caller from Nashville discusses frustration with repeated romantic rejections. A woman enjoys a casual relationship but grapples with its impending end. Randy Rainbow brings humor and insights, sharing wisdom from his new children's book. He also talks about embracing identity in a world full of haters. Another listener prepares for her first sex party, seeking fashion tips and setting boundaries. The conversation blends fun with serious relationship dynamics and encourages honest communication throughout.

May 20, 2025 • 55min
Savage Lovecast Episode 968
A candid discussion unfolds around the complexities of consent and inclusivity in bathhouse culture, sparking debate in a group chat. A divorced mother seeks advice on explaining her relationship with her ex to her young daughter. A deep dive with author Katie Simon uncovers the healing paths of sexual assault survivors, including the notion of a 'slut phase.' Meanwhile, a pre-op trans man reveals his struggles with rejection from partners after disclosing his anatomy, highlighting the need for understanding in intimate relationships.

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May 13, 2025 • 57min
Savage Lovecast Episode 967
Christine Wenc, author and original staff member of The Onion, joins the conversation to discuss the magazine's pivotal role in shaping modern news satire. She shares nostalgic moments and insights on how humor has influenced journalism today. The podcast dives into the complexities of dating bisexual men and the misconceptions surrounding their commitment. Listeners also grapple with the dynamics of attraction in LGBTQ+ relationships and the importance of self-acceptance in the pursuit of genuine connections. Remember, the clitoris is much more than just a little button!

May 6, 2025 • 58min
Savage Lovecast Episode 966
This week, Amanda Knox, an exoneree and bestselling author, shares her incredible journey of survival and healing after being wrongfully convicted in Italy. With humor, she discusses the intricacies of modern relationships, from navigating insecurities in threesomes to overcoming friend-zone dilemmas. Amanda also reflects on her difficult past and how it informs her view on emotional connections. Don't miss her insights on sexual wellness and the importance of communication in navigating both love and life.

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Apr 29, 2025 • 49min
Savage Lovecast Episode 965
A Canadian woman's adventure in group sex raises questions about language barriers and intimacy. A high-libido woman considers joining her poly friend’s harem, sparking an internal debate about tradition versus new experiences. A disconcerting moment occurs when a child finds explicit photos on a parent’s phone, leading to important discussions about sex and privacy. Meanwhile, a couple’s first visit to a jack-off club unfolds a mix of nerves and excitement, revealing the need for open communication in exploring new romantic terrains.

Apr 22, 2025 • 56min
Savage Lovecast Episode 964
Relationships take a twist when a woman navigates trust issues after a painful breakup and confiding in a friend with ulterior motives. A defense of faking orgasms sparks a provocative discussion on intimacy. Comedian Zach Zimmerman joins to explore the nuances of the term 'daddy' in modern relationships. A woman grapples with how much of her past to share with a new partner after moving on. The episode touches on the importance of communication, honesty, and the complexities of dating dynamics.

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Apr 15, 2025 • 54min
Savage Lovecast Episode 963
A chill married lesbian grapples with her friend's surprise coming-out as pan, stirring up complex feelings. A wild tale unfolds about a woman's dog-related disaster as she discovers her boyfriend's son's secret. A poppers expert spills the beans on their history and current controversies. A submissive woman wrestles with heart feelings over her desire for a no-strings-attached experience. From identity to intimate mishaps, the discussions illuminate the fun and messy sides of relationships!


