Savage Lovecast Savage Lovecast Episode 987
Sep 30, 2025
Dr. Barak, a primary care physician and recurring medical expert at the University of Washington, tackles some wild listener questions. He discusses how to safely explore fear as a kink and clarifies why using a bidet won't cause more urination. The conversation shifts when Matthew Kane, creator of the BigDickBookClub, joins to chat about the differences in erotica for men versus women, while AI-generated smut takes an amusing hit during a live reading. The duo also dives into the healing potential of kink after trauma.
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Kink vs. Abuse: Consent Is The Line
- Abuse in the guise of kink is criminal, not kinky, and safe BDSM practices require consent and respect for limits.
- Dan Savage stresses that ignoring safe words and exploiting vulnerable people is what makes someone a monster, not the existence of kink.
Reduce Pressure In Three-Way Encounters
- De-emphasize PIV during anxious three-ways to remove performance pressure and focus on other sexual activities.
- Consider trying ED medications for confidence or meeting different partners to break the negative feedback loop.
Placebo Viagra Mistake
- Dan recounts a friend whose husband took ED pills and mistakenly took Tylenol instead, but the placebo effect still worked.
- The story illustrates how belief in a pill can restore confidence and erectile function.
