A trans man shares his struggle for acceptance in gay spaces, feeling isolated during a lively dance party. A woman reflects on the challenge of rekindling passion with her sweet partner after dating 'bad boys.' Meanwhile, a comedian connects JonBenét Ramsey's murder to a lively discussion on sex parties and podcaster dynamics. Finally, a listener grapples with the emotional fallout of a kink introduction from a ghosting partner, seeking to reclaim their journey towards pleasure and acceptance.

Leigh Cowart, a science journalist and author of "Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose", dives deep into the intriguing world of masochism and pain. She reveals how pain can be transformed into pleasure and discusses the nuances of having a sadist's imagination. The conversation also touches on the societal implications of derogatory language, especially among youth, and hints at navigating intimate relationships, particularly the challenges of long-distance romance. Cowart’s insights are as enlightening as they are entertaining!

Diana Adams, the Executive Director of the Chosen Family Law Center, brings her expertise in LGBTQIA+ legal advocacy to discuss the urgent need for queer individuals to secure their legal documents amidst political changes. She sheds light on unconventional surrogacy options for a married gay couple. The conversation also delves into a listener's secret desire involving Discord and intimacy. Plus, a comedic take on a jealous third in a poly relationship keeps things lighthearted, showcasing humor amid serious discussions.

Tracy Schorn, an anti-cheating crusader and creator of Chump Lady, brings her fierce insights to the conversation. She and Dan have a fiery debate about infidelity, sparking laughter and contemplation. They tackle a woman's troubling dilemma of her boyfriend's kinks, including race play, and the emotional complexity of navigating desires and values. They also discuss the aftermath of a relationship marred by family conflicts, emphasizing accountability and the need for supportive communities. Get ready for a lively discussion about love, betrayal, and everything in between!

Therapy Jeff, a therapist and podcaster, joins to explore the emotional complexities of relationships. He addresses a listener's experience feeling neglected in a threesome and offers insights on self-advocacy. A mother in an open relationship weighs how to explain her lifestyle to her daughter. They dive into navigating grief amid political upheaval and the importance of self-care. Jeff also tackles questions about intimacy, friendship challenges, and the need for open communication in adult relationships.

Michelle Renee, founder of Soft Cock Appreciation Week and a professional cuddler, promotes a refreshing perspective on sexuality, especially focusing on erectile differences. She talks about the significance of intimacy beyond performance, celebrating diverse expressions of pleasure. Paul Rosenberg, manager of Rain City Jacks, shares his experiences running a private jack-off club, discussing the social dynamics of communal masturbation. He reveals surprising stats about patrons and the intriguing concept of collective pleasure. Together, they challenge societal expectations with humor and insight.

A poly guy lives in a rural area with his fiancé. He is building his own house, and hires laborers to come live with him while they build. One of the laborers started hooking up with the caller’s girlfriend without consulting the caller or gaining his consent. Now what? This guy is living in his own damn house, having sex with his own damn lady???True or False: Gay men who were bullied as kids often hook up with their former bullies.On the Magnum, the worlds collide when Dan Savage, notorious sex proponent chats with asexuality educator Cody Daigle-Orians. They do a deep dive on ace issues. Are ace folks queer? Are micro labels helpful? At what point in a relationships should ace people come out? Daigle-Orians, creator of “Ace Dad Advice” explains asexuality with clarity and patience to the sex-crazed Savage.Their new book The Ace And Aro Relationship Guide is out now.And, a gay tourist was snapping pics of some hot men, when a family saw what was going on, and took umbrage. Outrage ensued. Is it so wrong to take pictures of people out in public?This episode is brought to you by Feeld, a dating app where the open-minded can meet the like-minded. Download Feeld on the App Store or Google Play.This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 20% off all mattress orders! Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now

In this lively discussion, Irish comedian Des Bishop, known for his stand-up special "Of All People," shares hilarious insights on male sexuality, including straight guys' surprising interests in butt play. He joins Dan Savage to explore the dynamics of relationships, from a woman's shocking discovery about her boyfriend's hidden family to a married woman's journey into burlesque and exploring her bisexuality. The pair also tackle the sensitive issue of a partner's declining hygiene, offering hilarious yet honest advice on maintaining intimacy.

Eli McCann, humor writer for the Salt Lake Tribune, joins to discuss the intriguing societal standards around monogamy and exclusivity. A lesbian couple contemplates spicing things up in a sex club but fears losing their exclusive bond. A man struggles with doubts after discovering his girlfriend's past with a friend, questioning trust and attachment. Plus, the emotional challenge of pet custody arises for a woman escaping an abusive relationship, raising the poignant issue of what happens to beloved pets in breakups.

Randy Rainbow, a four-time Emmy and Grammy-nominated comedian known for his sharp musical parodies, joins the discussion. They tackle an array of topics including a troubling situation involving a non-binary individual facing relationship challenges during a COVID scare. The conversation delves into the complexities of infidelity, grief, and healing, along with a humorous exploration of pregnancy fetishes and the quirks of straight relationships. Rainbow's witty insights add a delightful twist to navigating love, betrayal, and open relationships.