Age gap relationships! Sometimes they are a-ok. Sometimes they are not. A woman is having an argument with her boyfriend about whether his previous relationship was dicey because of the 9-year age difference. She dated a younger person too, but the circumstances were different. Dan Savage (who knows from age gap relationships) weighs in.A man in a throuple with two ladies can't sleep because their bed gets too toasty at night. Somebody call 911! On the Magnum, we welcome back sex & culture writer Magdalene Taylor to talk about gooning, and the gooners who goon all day long. (Gooning is obsessive porn use.) She and Dan talk about conspiracy theories around keeping young men on their phones and disgruntled. And, she and Dan discuss a call from a woman who wants to make sure her NEXT boyfriend wants to have as much sex as she does. A gay man was in a casual relationship for 9 months. His hook-up wouldn't ever host because he said he had a "roommate." Guess what! That roommate was actually his husband. Now that the caller is over the burn of being lied to, he's considering letting the sessions continue because the sex is so good. Should he? Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 20% off all mattress orders. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now. Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ForiaWellness.com/SavageThis episode is brought to you by Adam & Eve. Right now, go to AdamAndEve.com/Savage and pick any 4 sex toys for just $20! This is such a great deal- go to AdamandEve.com/savage without delayDan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From adult babies, to thruples, trans rights to pansexuality and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

A woman grapples with her father's surprising relationship with a much younger partner, sparking family tension. Meanwhile, a British polyamorous man navigates the challenges of a loud partner at sex parties, reflecting on the balance of desires and public perception. A gay couple faces differing views on monogamy, leading to sneaky hookups and growing conflict. The conversation touches on age-gap dynamics and the importance of communication in open relationships, all while weaving in humor and relatable insights.

A woman discovers her boyfriend's secret stash of escort ads, sparking a debate about trust in relationships. Another caller, newly out as bi, seeks tips on finding straight sex parties while balancing an open relationship. Delightful anecdotes feature a partner experiencing spontaneous orgasms and discussing unique anatomical quirks. Meanwhile, the complexities of navigating polyamorous relationships, including communicating with parents and managing emotions, add depth to the conversation. Unique stories and expert advice intertwine, keeping the dialogue lively.

A married gay man is newly poly with his husband and boyfriend. Simple question: Who should he celebrate Valentine's Day with? A non-binary AFAB person frequents a sex club where women pay much less than men or couples. And there's a dress code...men must be naked, and women must wear lingerie. The caller wears the damn lingerie to snag the discount and to get access to men. But they don't want to be addressed as female in dirty talk or recognized as female in any way. Discuss.On the Magnum, Dan brings back his old college sweetheart, Mike Pesca of The Gist, Not Even Mad, and his new comedy show Funny You Should Mention. Pesca has been covering politics (and sports) for a long time and these two have chemistry! They talked about having sex with Trumpers vs. maintaining familial relations with Maga folk, hot footballmen, and eliminating the penny. And butt sex. A woman ended things with a guy she had been seeing for a couple of months, because he felt swoony and she felt "meh." But as time passed, she thinks about him more and more. One year later, she's considering reaching out to him again. Will this just break his heart again? Q@Savage.Love   206-302-2064This episode is brought to you by Feeld, a dating app where the open-minded can meet the like-minded. Download Feeld on the App Store or Google Play.This episode is brought to you by Dame Products, Sex toys designed by Women, For Women. For 20% off your first order, go to Dame.com and use offer code SAVAGE20This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site-wide with a mattress order + 2 FREE Dream Pillows! Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to bondage, trans rights to sex education and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

A straight man was accidentally paired with a trans man on a hookup app. When the trans man found out his match was a straight dude, he tapped out. But that got the caller thinking...should he hunt for pre-op trans men in the hopes of connecting with people still had their female parts? Any problems here? On the Micro and Magnum it's a sneak peek of this week's Sex & Politics with political analyst Tim Miller. He and Dan took a call from a straight man who has recently discovered the kind of pleasure his own arse can give him, and his enthusiasm cannot be contained. On the Magnum, Dan chats with writer Manuel Betancourt, about hooking up with strangers. His book "Hello Stranger: Musings on Modern Intimacies" goes into gay romance, and the allure of chance encounters. He and Dan talk about how "threelationships" can sneak up on you, how the gays (once again) pave the way for honest communication in open relationships, and the WAR between monogamous and polyamorous folk. And, a woman is seeing a trans man on the weekends once per month. She heard through the grapevine that he was planning to get bottom surgery. The caller isn't interested in a penis of any kind. Should she say something?  Q@Savage.Love       206-302-2064This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 20% off site-wide with a mattress order + 2 FREE Dream Pillows! Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ForiaWellness.com/SavageDan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From open relationships to BDSM, trans rights to polyamory and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

A straight man questions if his OnlyFans chats count as cheating, while a divorced man navigates dating and tantra amidst shifting body images. A fascinating discussion ensues about unconventional living arrangements and the benefits straight couples might learn from gay relationships. Meanwhile, a woman's once-thrilling cuckold fantasies falter in her polyamorous life, prompting a quest to reignite her erotic spark. The podcast weaves in personal stories, tackling intimacy, communication, and evolving sexual desires with humor and insight.

A gay man grapples with hair loss and the journey to self-acceptance. A complicated polyamorous situation unfolds as a woman navigates her bond with the child of a married man. Insightful tips on maintaining libido for the next four years are shared. A former pastor turned porn star infuses humor into cuckold fantasies. Family dynamics come into play as a trans woman's aunt seeks to foster acceptance in her father's outdated views. The importance of empathy and understanding in relationships is highlighted throughout.

Celebrate the quirky Feast of the Ass with listener-created carols and festive traditions. Relationships come under scrutiny as a caller grapples with attraction versus body image concerns. There's a lively debate about the new erotic thriller starring Nicole Kidman, leading to discussions on societal stigma surrounding women's sexuality. Plus, a lighthearted take on managing repugnant orgasm noises adds humor to the mix. Tune in for a blend of whimsy and wisdom!

Get ready for the quirky Feast of The Ass with all the right greetings and snack ideas! A listener grapples with her brother's rapid engagement while feeling pressured by his fiancée's clinginess. The Funny Dom returns to spice things up with some playful BDSM advice. Plus, a hilarious cautionary tale about asking for tips on being sexier while on Molly reveals the truth can be shockingly honest. Dive into these wild topics while considering the complexities of relationships and personal boundaries.

In this discussion, Esther Perel, a renowned psychotherapist and bestselling author, shares her insights on modern relationships. She redefines infidelity, suggesting the roles of victim and perpetrator are more complex than they seem. Perel emphasizes the importance of communication and active maintenance to nurture desire and intimacy, especially in long-term partnerships. She also addresses the challenges of emotional disengagement and introduces ethical non-monogamy as a potential solution. Throughout, she highlights the resilience required to heal and forgive after betrayal.