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A married mother did some sex work in her younger, wilder days. She's turned on by money, so it seems obvious that she should be a findom. But the typical clientele prefer a younger woman to take their money. How can she get her middle-aged kink on? Meanwhile, a gay man thinks porn is boooor-rrinnng! It's unrealistic, predictable and repetitive. Is there anything good out there? Sometimes you get questions that can only be answered by a porn star. Fortunately, Dan knows some! We are delighted to welcome John Thomas to the show. (You may know him as "Best Bottom of 2021") The extremely charming and visually compelling Thomas, helps answer questions about ethical porn production, the supply and demand differential between tops & bottoms, and the dark art of douching. A little of this gem is on the Micro, and the whole beautiful thing is on the Magnum. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now,  get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/Savage Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

A daughter grapples with her elderly father's online scam situation—should he go to the police or seek counseling? A youthful gay man wrestles with feeling uncomfortable in the dating scene due to his boyish looks. A concerned mother seeks advice on guiding her teens toward ethical porn, with expert Erika Lust lending her insights on porn consumption. Finally, a provocative discussion unfolds over whether having visible come on one's face constitutes a consent violation. Get ready for a blend of humor, advice, and edgy topics!

E. Jean Carroll, a fearless journalist and author known for taking on Donald Trump in court, joins the conversation. She shares her insights on the courage it took to confront Trump and how it affected her intimate life. The discussion dives into the comical yet serious topic of what gay men might do with vibrators. A listener's dilemma about unwanted pregnancy leads to a broader conversation on mental health and intimacy. Carroll's humor and wisdom shine as she reveals an advice columnist's secret hack.

A cute gal seeks advice on becoming a more convincing dom by tapping into psychology. A newly out pan man grapples with his pubic hair while exploring gay culture. Novelist Kashana Cauley discusses the pleasure of dystopian fiction in today’s world and tackles topics like student debt and boundaries in kink. Plus, an androgynous person navigates the gay cruising scene, while listeners reflect on the complexities of intimacy in LGBTQ+ relationships and the authenticity of human expression versus AI-generated erotica.

A gay man's app profile raises eyebrows with its bluntness about not wanting sex workers. Discover how a woman's creativity transformed her marriage via an OnlyFans account for one fan—her husband! Explore the humorous invasion of straight families into a clothing-optional queer space, sparking a discussion about the essence of gay spaces. A listener grapples with the secret of his multiple vasectomies—should he share this with his current wife? The chat dives into AI's impact on erotica and the evolving landscape of human desire.

A woman weighs the ethical dilemmas of financial domination after a lucrative but troubling experience. A gay man grapples with unexpected feelings for a teasing colleague, fearing the loss of their friendship. In a hilarious twist, a listener's dog munches on her vibrator, prompting expert advice on replacements. The conversation dives into the complexities of sexual dynamics, relationships, and the importance of consent, while also touching on personal stories that highlight the messy, humorous side of intimacy.

A man discovers an Airbnb guest's vibrator and wonders how to handle the awkward situation. A listener grapples with sharing past advice after a year-long relationship that defied previous counsel. Dan discusses with author Melissa Febos about a year without sex and the ways sexuality shapes identity. A trans man seeks advice on balancing his desires in a relationship. The show tackles open relationships, emotional compatibility, and the challenges of expressing kink while navigating societal norms.

Arielle Domb, a London-based journalist known for her daring explorations of sexuality, shares her fascinating trip to a sex toy brothel in Berlin. She dives into the intertwining worlds of technology and intimacy, discussing the impact of AI on sexual experiences. The conversation also tackles consent, featuring callers with complex dilemmas about relationships and non-consent fantasies. Domb's insights into these future-forward topics prompt listeners to reevaluate their own perspectives on modern intimacy and communication.

A woman grapples with an unintended pregnancy while navigating her husband's strong anti-abortion beliefs. Discover the drama of accidents in BDSM, highlighted by a cautionary tale that stresses communication and trust. A husband recovering from an accident seeks ways to maintain intimacy despite physical limitations, with insights from a queer disability advocate. Finally, a man in an open relationship questions why his wife avoids oral sex with him but not with her boyfriend, sparking discussions on sexual dynamics and relationship preferences.

A quirky discussion unfolds as a queer woman grapples with her lackluster oral skills compared to her partner's impressive tongue tricks. Meanwhile, a 52-year-old man's relationship with a 20-year-old leads to being ostracized by his new friend group, raising questions about social dynamics. A woman who cries during orgasms confronts her friends' assumptions about repressed trauma. Lastly, a newly out queer woman struggles with dating preferences, torn between tenderness and the raw intensity she craves from men.