TOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships

How we attach in relationships is everything!  That's why we talk about it so much on the podcast and this episode is full of attachment style nuggets you're not going to want to miss.  This week, Shanenn has none other than licensed marriage and family therapist and attachment coach Jessica DaSilva. Jessica not only shares her own experiences as a former fearful avoidant but discussed all four types: anxious, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant, and secure attachment. If you are wondering why you're friends are quite like you and could give a flying fruit loop about their husbands traveling out of town with a young co-worker, than slap on those earbuds and turn up the volume because Jessica's here to tell you why that is.00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome00:44 Understanding Attachment Styles02:17 Personal Journey with Fearful Avoidant Attachment04:04 Impact of Attachment Styles on Relationships04:51 Path to Becoming a Therapist07:49 Exploring Anxious Attachment12:48 Navigating Relationship Needs and Communication15:05 Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Dynamics17:44 Fearful Avoidant Attachment and Jealousy22:02 Strategies for Developing Secure Attachment31:13 Conclusion and Podcast PromotionSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

If you've been feeling like you are not strong enough to conquer this jealousy thing or you just dont have what it takes to change your life around, I'm here to tell you, that's not it.  That's not why so stop beating yourself up.  You may just being going about it in the wrong way.In this episode, Shanenn talks about the struggles of managing jealousy and insecurity despite trying various self-help techniques. She shares personal stories, including recent disruptions preventing new episodes, freeing a groundhog, dealing with a trapped skunk, and the misadventures of her skunk-sprayed German Shepherd BUT.... that's not even the good stuff you came here for. She shares the importance of addressing subconscious programming and introduces her upcoming 'Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp' for those feeling stuck in their emotional battles.00:00  Introduction to Overcoming Jealousy and Insecurity01:37  Personal Updates and Apologies02:48  The Groundhog and Skunk Saga10:39  The Main Topic: Addressing Jealousy and Insecurity13:35  The Turning Point: Therapy and Self-Discovery18:00  Understanding the Subconscious Mind23:22  Invitation to Join the Bootcamp25:08  Conclusion and Upcoming EpisodesSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Ever been caught in the whirlwind of 'should I or shouldn't I?' when it comes to relationships? This episode takes a deep dive into the life-changing realization that the real question isn't about what to do, but about who you want to be. Do you want to be a jealous, anxious person or someone who trusts and opens their heart? Tune in to learn how settling your internal chaos can transform your life and relationships.00:00 Understanding Your Inner Self00:12 The Dilemma of Trust and Action00:27 Defining Your Desired Self00:50 Practicing the Person You Want to BeCheck out Abby's amazing Tedx Talk Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

The one thing I hear so much is how ashamed you are about being jealous, it actually even affects the growth of this podcast because you don't share it with your friends and family because you don't want them to know you're this way.  But I know you don't want to be this way and I also know that unfortunately you feel as ashamed and judgement because people will say your crazy, psycho or nuts and that makes you feel even worse.Guess what, you don't deserve for ANYONE to say that to you.  Not your spouse, your partner, your friend, your family members... no one.  And on the show today, I talk about why you don't deserve it.Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

In this episode of the Top Self podcast, I talk with Michelle Brown, a functional nutrition and lifestyle practitioner with a specialty in the biology of trauma. Michelle explains how trauma affects the body's nervous system and the importance of addressing both mind and body to heal. This episode is a good reminder that other factors are at play within our body when it comes to jealousy and we have to take a holistic approach.  Michelle covers 2 BIG things to consider and put on your radar as you work to overcome your jealousy:how nutritional imbalances, neurotransmitters, and traumatic experiences can influence mood disorders, chronic pain, and other health issues. practical tips, including a mood fix assessment and somatic tools, for recognizing and addressing these imbalances for better mental and physical health.00:00  Introduction to the Podcast and Guest00:26  Understanding the Biology of Trauma01:37  Mind-Body Connection and Its Impact05:13  The Role of Methylation in Mental Health08:28  Exploring Neurotransmitter Imbalances13:07  Addressing Trauma Responses17:13  Practical Steps for Nervous System Regulation27:19  Conclusion and Final ThoughtsGrab Michelle's Mood-Fix Assessment hereSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

In this episode, master financial coaches, Shana and Vanessa, who co-host the Financial Coaching for Women podcast, which ranks in the top 1.5% worldwide and stays in the top 10 "How To" podcasts on Apple in the US AND they are on Top Self today to discuss how financial transparency and trust are crucial in relationships. Backed by five years of hands-on experience as financial coaches and training by Dave Ramsey, Shana and Vanessa, have guided thousands of people all over the world, crafted what feels like a million budgets, and honed their own unique systems. Their advice stands out because it's non-judgmental, straightforward, and breaks down complex financial concepts into simple, actionable steps.They offer practical tips for couples to manage their money together, touching on: the significance of budgeting, building honest communication, and avoiding financial secrecy  by setting up separate spending accounts while keeping joint finances transparent and honestending the paycheck to paycheck cycleautomating your budget, bill, savings and spending00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome01:35 How It All Began: The Story of Friendship and Business02:20 The Importance of Trust in Financial Relationships03:07 Common Financial Issues in Relationships04:10 Early Financial Conversations in Dating05:49 Impact of Upbringing on Financial Behavior08:11 Transparency and Trust in Marriage12:03 Building a Budget Together15:36 Joint vs. Separate Accounts in Marriage17:57 Creating a Joint Budget18:07 Balancing Different Financial Priorities18:46 Bonus Tip: Making Budget Meetings Fun21:13 Automating Your Finances21:40 Separating Accounts for Better Management25:27 Handling Different Income Levels28:43 Common Financial Mistakes29:26 Digital Envelope System31:21 Conclusion and ResourcesSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

If you are someone who is a recovering alcoholic or thinking about getting sober, you're in the right place my friend.  Addiction is tough and I have seen it throughout my family and others families and it can be so destructive.  Join myself and Rachel Harrison as she talks a bit about her recovery, how she is different today in many ways other than just being sober.  I hope this episode can be an inspiration for you as alcohol mixed with jealousy whether you have an addiction to it or not, can be a recipe for disaster.Connect with Rachel at www.recoveryoursoul.netSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Today is heavy and you may feel called out a bit and it just might feel uncomfortable.  Just like jealousy, this topic may feel shameful too but you are not alone in this either.  I'm talking about cheating and not your partner cheating... you cheating.  I'll cover possible reasons this might be something you do or have done in the past. Its a short one but I hear it enough and I know you are feeling guilty and ashamed so I thought we should talk about it.  It's also a great reason to sign up for the upcoming Bootcamp and you can register by clicking either of the provided links below based on what payment option works best for you.  The Trust Building Bootcamp starts on August 7th.  We meet every Wednesday at 7:00 pm Eastern Time for 6 weeks until September 11th.Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

I am flying solo in today's episode and wanted to discuss just a few takeaways from my last guest Topaz Adizes and our conversation about the questions we ask and why we ask them.It's a quick dump episode but an important one when it comes to communicating with our partners and the reassurance questions we ask over and over again.Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Topaz Adizes, an author and filmmaker with over a decade of experience in exploring human emotion, discusses how to ask better questions in relationships. He highlights the concept of 'The And,' promoting emotional connection over individual perspectives. Topaz shares the importance of creating safe spaces for dialogue and offers strategies to reframe questions, making them more meaningful and curiosity-driven. Discover how regular check-ins can prevent conflicts and enhance intimacy, leading to deeper understanding and personal growth.