Why Shame Is Sabotaging Your Relationship (and what to do instead) EP 97

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This episode talks about the crucial difference between guilt and shame, and why one might be secretly sabotaging your relationship growth.

Shanenn shares:

• How guilt is like your relationship GPS - letting you know when you've made a wrong turn, while shame is more like a brick wall blocking all possible routes 🚧

• Why treating yourself like your own mean girl isn't helping (and what Brené Brown has to say about it) 💭


Don't Miss Moments:

• "Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change" - breaking down Brené Brown's powerful insight

• "We're not going to take the steps to become self-aware if we believe we're fundamentally flawed" - on why shame keeps us stuck

Action Items from the Episode:

• Notice the difference between "I did something bad" vs. "I am bad"

• Practice self-compassion by asking "What would I say to a friend?"

• Start shortening your recovery time after jealous reactions

• Break free from shame cycles with practical tools

• Save your spot in the January "Behind Your Jealous Mind Boot Camp"

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00:00 Understanding Jealousy and Negative Emotions
00:18 Holiday Season Special: 12 Hours of Giving
01:58 Exciting Announcements for 2025
02:41 Introduction to Guilt and Shame
03:46 The Difference Between Guilt and Shame
04:33 The Impact of Guilt and Shame on Jealousy
10:44 Strategies to Manage Guilt and Shame
12:02 Upcoming Bootcamp and Final Thoughts

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