Ever felt like you're starring in your own personal soap opera where every relationship ends with infidelity? Host Shanenn Bryant unpacks her own journey from "everyone cheats on me" to "huh, maybe I should check my math" in this eye-opening episode.Key Takeaways:A shocking 50% of our memories aren't even accurate (Thanks, Dr. Joe Dispenza, for this incredibly eye-opening fact)Only 20-23% of men cheat in relationships (Sorry to ruin your trust issues with actual statistics)Married people cheat less than unmarried folks (Apparently, putting a ring on it does mean something to both men and women)The divorce rate isn't all about cheating (Turns out money problems are the real home-wrecker)Shanenn shares a mind-blowing exercise that will make you question EVERYTHING you thought you knew about your dating history. Spoiler alert: her "everyone cheats on me" narrative turned out to be more like "25% of people cheated on me." Talk about a plot twist!The Episode Breakdown:✓ The relationship audit: A step-by-step guide to analyzing your dating history (grab your pen and tissues)✓ The truth behind the numbers: Why your "everyone cheats" story might be as reliable as your ex's excusesCrucial Reality Checks:Your partner's cheating probably has more to do with their issues than your worthYoung relationships, unstable backgrounds, and core wounds all play a role in infidelityIf your "yes" list is above 50%, you might not have a cheating problem – you might have a "picking partners" problemWant to dive deeper? Shanenn mentions her "Behind Your Jealous Mind Boot Camp" coming up in January for those ready to break free from their trust issues and core wounds.Contact: sbryant@topself.com to share your own percentage or insights from this exercise.Remember: Just because you're paranoid doesn't mean your math is right. Time to crunch those numbers and maybe, just maybe, give trust a fighting chance. Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Ever catch yourself saying "just so you know, I know what you COULD be doing" to your partner... even when you're pretty sure they're innocent? In this episode, Shanenn's calling you out when she gets into why we sometimes choose accusation over acceptance, even when our rational brain is screaming the obvious.THE HEART OF ITThe moment your logical brain offers the truth (and why we often ignore it)Why we feel the need to prove we're "not stupid" in relationshipsThe protective pattern of "just so you know I know" statementsHow choosing trust over proof can completely change your relationshipHave you ever noticed that quiet moment before you launch into relationship detective mode? That split second where your mind offers up a perfectly reasonable explanation, yet something pushes you to prove you're not easily fooled? Shanenn breaks down this fascinating pattern and reveals why our need to appear "aware" might actually be working against us.Through real-life examples, she shows us how these small moments of choice can shift our entire relationship dynamic. Learn why phrases like "just so you know, I know" might be hurting your relationship.  Other topics covered in this episode are:The split second when your rational brain offers the logical explanationWhy proving you're "aware" actually creates more anxietyThe freedom in choosing not to voice every suspicionHow tiny choices to trust can lead to massive relationship shiftsTRUTH BOMBS "Your life will be so much calmer, so much happier, and with less anxiety if you make the choice of saying, 'You know what, I'm going to go with this logical explanation.'"MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE[Coming Soon] "Triggered to Transformation" CourseEmail: sbryant@topself.com (Share your moments of choosing trust over suspicion!)YOUR NEXT STEPS (Choose Your Own Adventure)Notice when you're about to launch into "just so you know" modePause when your brain offers the logical explanationTry sitting with the peaceful explanation (just for 5 minutes!)Share your experience with Shanenn at sbryant@topself.comDid this episode hit home? Share it with someone who's ready to choose peace over proof.Remember: Choosing not to say "just so you know" doesn't make you naive - it makes you brave.00:00 Introduction to Top Self Podcast00:49 A Teenage Adventure: Sneaking Out04:41 The Consequen Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

🎙️ Where my freaks at?  Control Freaks that is.    In this episode, we dive deep with psychologist and author Joanna Kleinman to unpack why that voice in your head is working harder than a barista during morning rush hour.  Shanenn and Joanna talk about: How your inner critic is just like the mean girl at school when you were growing up and she's been messing with you since you lost your first tooth 🛡️ The Jerry Maguire "you complete me" line is such a bad representation of the way relationships should really work and your relationship expectations may be as older than that movie.  Big red flag 🚩 How social media has become the Olympic Games of impossible standards (and why we keep competing) 🏅 Don't Miss Moments: "We're like starving dogs waiting for that bone of validation" - on why we stay in unhealthy relationships "We're dishwashers - I'm a Whirlpool, you're a GE, but we all run the same programs" - on universal human patterns Action Items from the Episode: Name your inner critic ... 😉Practice catching yourself in "control mode" Start asking "What evidence disproves this belief?" when your inner critic goes on a rantStart getting curious about your beliefs instead of judging themPractice being okay with the possibility of things not going "perfectly"Follow Joanna on her podcast "Dethroning Your Inner Critic" where she dives deeper into the MIND Method and helps women stop being their own worst critics and start being their own best advocates.  00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome 00:20 Understanding the Inner Critic 01:58 Origins of the Inner Critic 06:47 Cultural and Social Influences 09:33 Control and Perfectionism 11:35 Healthy Relationships and Self-Worth 21:32 Practical Steps to Dethrone the Inner Critic 29:20 Conclusion and Podcast Promotion Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn's guest, award-winning psychologist Dr. Courtney Warren opens up about her own struggles with relationship insecurity and shares her thoughts about the lies we tell ourselves. From crying when her college boyfriend went out with friends to becoming an expert on self-deception, Dr. Warren's personal journey and professional wisdom offer hope for anyone wrestling with jealousy and relationship fears.Key Moments:- 2:00 - Why self-honesty is the key to living a fulfilling life- 9:00 - Dr. Warren shares a vulnerable story about her college relationship- 21:00 - The Three A's of Authenticity framework revealed- 31:00 - Why your friends might not understand your jealousy (and that's okay)- 37:00 - Small changes that lead to massive transformationGolden Episode Nuggets:💎 The most damaging lies are the ones we tell ourselves💎 Jealousy often has nothing to do with your partner💎 Your worth isn't determined by your relationship status💎 Change happens in micro-steps, not overnight transformations💎 Finding the right support system is crucial for healingAbout Our Guest:Dr. Courtney Warren is a board-certified clinical psychologist and author who specializes in addictions, self-deception, and eating pathology. Her TEDx talk "Honest Liars" has helped countless people understand the psychology behind self-deception and personal growth.Resources Mentioned:- Dr. Warren's TEDx Talk: "Honest Liars"- Dr. Cortney Warren's Website and Books - Support groups for relationship insecurity - Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupQuote of the Episode:"You are not defined by your romantic relationships... whether you are loved or liked or rejected or single or coupled actually has no bearing on your value as a person." - Dr. Courtney WarrenPerfect for listeners who:- Struggle with jealousy in relationships- Want to build healthier romantic partnerships- Are ready to face their own self-deception- Feel alone in their relationship insecurities- Are working on building self-confidence Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Feel like your relationship is hanging on by a thread?  Do you wonder if too much damage has been done to the relationship?  I was there too but you can turn things around.  Your relationship can recover from this, but it's might take you going against how you normally feel after an argument to make a difference.  It may take you recovering quickly instead of letting the shame and guilt of your actions take over.  Apologize to your partner, forgive yourself, and push yourself to get back to normal as quickly as possible.In fact:Research shows couples who recover quickly from disputes have higher relationship satisfactionOne partner's ability to recover quickly can positively impact the other partnerQuick recovery helps prevent conflict spillover into other areas of the relationshipHere are some common things to avoid but there's so much more packed in this episode:Getting defensive when partner isn't ready to accept apologiesSeeking excessive reassuranceEngaging in catastrophic thinking   Shanenn also shares some recovery strategies like:Use "I" statements when explaining your perspectiveFocus on impact rather than intentGive partner space to process their emotionsReturn to normal daily routinesAvoid forcing immediate reconciliation   ## Resources Mentioned- Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp- Individual coaching options- ForYourMarriage.com- PsychologicalScience.comSomething to highlight from the episode: "As bad as it gets, if you start making the changes, remember, you can make big changes with small steps."---## Social Media Posts### Post 1🔄 Recovery is key in relationships! Research shows couples who bounce back quickly from conflicts have higher satisfaction levels. It's not about never fighting - it's about how you recover and reconnect. #RelationshipAdvice #CoupleGoals #HealthyRelationships #TopSelfPodcast### Post 2💭 Struggling with post-conflict guilt? Stop the catastrophic thinking! Your relationship isn't doomed because of one argument. Learn how to recover and rebuild stronger than ever. New episode out now! #RelationshipTips #EmotionalHealth #PersonalGrowth #RelationshipGoals### Post 3🗝️ Quick Recovery Tip: Focus on impact, not intent. Take accountability for your actions without getting caught up in explanations. Sometimes the "why" conversation needs to wait.#RelationshipAdvice #EmotionalIntelligence #Sel Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

🎉 Special Announcement:Join our FREE Two-Day Self-Discovery Workshop!Dates: November 4th & 5th at 1:00 pm ETRegister at: topself.com/workshopI'm talking about you on this week's episode.  The REAL you.  Often we think we have to transform into someone else to overcome jealousy and insecurity and that seems like a huge feat to become your future self you want to be.However, you already ARE your future self.  In fact, you are much closer than you think because its not about changing who you are, its about uncover the layers of pain, hurt, disappointment and programming that you've been layering on over the years, covering up that care-free, relaxed person you once where.Key Topics Covered:Why jealousy isn't who you are – it's just a protective patternUnderstanding the root causes of jealous behaviorHow your nervous system creates safety through controlWhy fighting jealousy doesn't work (and what to do instead)Accessing your future self's wisdom todayYou weren't born jealousy and insecure, you were conditioned that way.  These are just faulty, fear-driven habits—not core components of who you are. Your feelings are perfectly valid but the thoughts creating them may need to be examined and adjusted.Lucky for you... I have a free workshop coming up and I will share a little bit about what we'll do in that workshop in todays episode.  The link to join is in the show notes or go to Topself.com/workshop to register.  00:00  Welcome and Exciting Announcements00:10  Embracing the Fall Season00:59  Introduction to Identity and Future Self02:37  Challenging Jealousy as an Identity04:53  Understanding the Root of Jealousy06:23  Real-Life Examples of Jealousy11:00  The Role of Past Experiences13:26  Triggers and Nervous System Responses14:22  Different Relationship Dynamics17:45  Understanding True Safety18:25  Reprogramming Your Brain's Safety System19:15 Embracing Your Future Self20:24  Accessing Your Inner Confidence21:30  Join the Self Discovery Workshop23:21  The Layers Covering Your True Self25:42  Final Thoughts and Workshop Details Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Feeling needy?  Do you feel like you're high-maintenance and your constantly asking for things from your partner to make you feel better?It has everything to do with your core wounds and your relationship to self.  In this episode, Shanenn share's her acronym S.E.L.F to learn how to identify your personality needs and how to self-source those needs.She shares the importance of becoming the captain of your own ship to maintain emotional balance and independence. Shannen invites you to take small steps towards self-sufficiency and happiness. Don't miss this lighthearted take on serious topics, as she promises cracking the code on meeting your own needs could be a game-changing, life-altering experience. 00:00  Welcome and Introduction00:19  Understanding Limiting Beliefs01:03  Today's Topic: Meeting Your Own Needs01:41  The Acronym SELF05:49  Identifying Your Needs14:46  Steps to Identify and Meet Your Needs28:27  Conclusion and Challenge Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

How we attach in relationships is everything!  That's why we talk about it so much on the podcast and this episode is full of attachment style nuggets you're not going to want to miss.  This week, Shanenn has none other than licensed marriage and family therapist and attachment coach Jessica DaSilva. Jessica not only shares her own experiences as a former fearful avoidant but discussed all four types: anxious, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant, and secure attachment. If you are wondering why you're friends are quite like you and could give a flying fruit loop about their husbands traveling out of town with a young co-worker, than slap on those earbuds and turn up the volume because Jessica's here to tell you why that is.00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome00:44 Understanding Attachment Styles02:17 Personal Journey with Fearful Avoidant Attachment04:04 Impact of Attachment Styles on Relationships04:51 Path to Becoming a Therapist07:49 Exploring Anxious Attachment12:48 Navigating Relationship Needs and Communication15:05 Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Dynamics17:44 Fearful Avoidant Attachment and Jealousy22:02 Strategies for Developing Secure Attachment31:13 Conclusion and Podcast Promotion Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

If you've been feeling like you are not strong enough to conquer this jealousy thing or you just dont have what it takes to change your life around, I'm here to tell you, that's not it.  That's not why so stop beating yourself up.  You may just being going about it in the wrong way.In this episode, Shanenn talks about the struggles of managing jealousy and insecurity despite trying various self-help techniques. She shares personal stories, including recent disruptions preventing new episodes, freeing a groundhog, dealing with a trapped skunk, and the misadventures of her skunk-sprayed German Shepherd BUT.... that's not even the good stuff you came here for. She shares the importance of addressing subconscious programming and introduces her upcoming 'Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp' for those feeling stuck in their emotional battles.00:00  Introduction to Overcoming Jealousy and Insecurity01:37  Personal Updates and Apologies02:48  The Groundhog and Skunk Saga10:39  The Main Topic: Addressing Jealousy and Insecurity13:35  The Turning Point: Therapy and Self-Discovery18:00  Understanding the Subconscious Mind23:22  Invitation to Join the Bootcamp25:08  Conclusion and Upcoming Episodes Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Ever been caught in the whirlwind of 'should I or shouldn't I?' when it comes to relationships? This episode takes a deep dive into the life-changing realization that the real question isn't about what to do, but about who you want to be. Do you want to be a jealous, anxious person or someone who trusts and opens their heart? Tune in to learn how settling your internal chaos can transform your life and relationships.00:00 Understanding Your Inner Self00:12 The Dilemma of Trust and Action00:27 Defining Your Desired Self00:50 Practicing the Person You Want to BeCheck out Abby's amazing Tedx Talk  Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.