

Is This What You Needed To Hear EP 118
In this powerful episode of Top Self, Shanenn Bryant delivers something your inner child may have never received: acknowledgment, validation, and the words you needed most.
This episode is a gentle but honest space for anyone who grew up feeling unseen, unprotected, or responsible for everyone else’s emotions.
Shanenn talks about how childhood trauma—whether loud or silent—gets stored in the body and shapes adult patterns. Through reflections on her own healing journey and a moving message written as a voice of apology from the caregiver you never had, this episode offers a path to release, reframe, and reclaim your power.
💎 Golden Episode Nuggets:
- “You’re not born with trauma—you inherit patterns through what you witnessed, heard, and experienced.”
- “It’s not about blame. It’s about the chain—and you might be the first brave one to break it.”
- “You don’t need their permission to heal. You just needed to be seen.”
- “This isn’t who you are—it’s who you became. And you can become something new.”
- “If you’ve been waiting for an apology, this is it.”
🔑 Key Moments:
- 1:45 – Trigger warning and who this episode is for
- 3:00 – “This is not who you are—it’s who you became”
- 5:20 – What trauma really is: the unseen, unfelt, unprocessed
- 6:40 – It’s not about blame—it’s about breaking the chain
- 9:15 – Generational trauma: how pain becomes parenting
- 11:30 – The ACEs test and its lifelong impact
- 14:00 – “You don’t need an apology to heal—but here’s one anyway”
- 15:00–21:00 – A powerful reading of the apology you never received
🛠️ Resources Mentioned:
- Episode 20: Interview with Candace Alley on the ACEs Test & Trauma
- ACEs Test – Adverse Childhood Experiences
- Learn more about coaching and upcoming programs at Top Self website
📌 Quote of the Episode:
"You don’t need their permission to heal anymore. You just needed to be seen—to finally hear, ‘I’m sorry.’ And now you have." – Shanenn Bryant
🎯 Perfect for Listeners Who:
- Grew up with emotional neglect, instability, or high expectations
- Feel guilt around acknowledging childhood pain
- Want to understand how trauma shows up in adult relationships
- Are learning to reparent themselves and break generational cycles
- Are seeking healing without waiting for an apology that may never come
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