Smart Dating Academy - The Podcast

Bela talks to client Marilyn Dollar about how she found love after TWO bad marriages -- one was at the age of 17 (involving physical abuse), and the other was the father of her children (infidelity).   In a prior podcast episode, Sugar mentioned how a Smart Dating Academy Instagram Live episode with Marilyn changed her dating life, so we invited Marilyn to tell ALL of you the story that inspired Sugar.   Marilyn is so relatable - we all have Marilyn inside of us.  Listen for the following gems: What made Marilyn realize she needed help in the dating process (it might have to do with a boyfriend that she only spent time with in the bedroom or Home Depot) How Marilyn changed so much that she found love AND was promoted from an "Admin" four levels to "Global Marketing Manager" What happened 7 days after Marilyn met Bela & Lindsay at the Four Seasons, and why didn't Bela recognize her? What site she MET the love of her life on (hint....it's NOT Bumble or Hinge or Match) What parameters she changed to bring Jim into her filter, that would have NEVER brought him to her beforehand? Does a dozen roses on date 1 mean he's a "love bomber?" How she deprioritized "height" and found a tall guy anyway! What's Marilyn's BEST advice for you at the end?  It has to do with light, and it's NOT what you might think it is  You will get chills listening to Marilyn's story, and be inspired that the lid to your pot is just one message away! Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

Part 2 of this episode is amazing!  Bela and Lindsay of Smart Dating Academy are back, discussing MORE secrets that have made their clients successful in finding love!   Here are some nuggets you'll hear: Where there is smoke, there is fire - Most of my divorced clients can point to something very specific early on that indicated something wasn’t right. People make time for things they want! There is no such thing as being “too busy” when someone is ready to date. They will ALWAYS make time. Even if it’s just for a quick cup of coffee. The busier someone is and the less they prioritize you is a sign that their “taxi light is not on”….they aren’t ready.   Believe that you are a catch and act like one! He or she is lucky to meet you and they will earn you. Create an identity around dating.    Everyone is afraid of rejection. You are afraid. They are afraid. It’s neutralized.  What you think about dating decides your outcome! Mindset is everything! Our positive clients who embrace dating (even when it is DRY AS A DESERT) find love because they never give up. Our clients who decide they hate it…usually don’t.  What can you do to become psychotically optimistic???    Old trauma often shows up in new relationships. ·       Pay attention to what people tell you in the beginning.  ·       Past trauma has a big impact on ability to find love without therapy ·       Know their triggers so you can avoid them in a relationship. Clarify if you might have misinterpreted something.  Never assume! Just ask. Don’t make assumptions…ask.   Clearly define the relationship and you won’t be surprised down the road Sex changes everything, and how to have the best sex of your life  The people around you shape who you are! You are the combination of the 5 people you spend the most time with! When it comes to finding love, make sure you share what’s going on with people who are encouraging and supportive. Like us….ahh!    Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

Bela chats with her long standing Smart Dating Academy coach Lindsay Anderson in a 2 part episode to review the secrets of her most successful clients!   Lindsay has been helping people find love for over 20 years, and has helped thousands of singles find love!   They will discuss the patterns that have HELPED their clients most!   You won't want to miss any of this, and here are some highlights of the episode: 1) You won’t know who the love of your life is based off on online profile or a first date - and hear WHY! 2) Ignore the clock - internally and externally!  How and why to do that!    3) Doing something everyday adds up to big results over time - what's the best routine?  4) Treasure Hunting - How people find love in the most unexpected places! 5) Diversify your dating life - how do you do that?   6) Where there is smoke, there is fire....Kick the tires, and hard! Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

Have you ever wondered if someone was 'interested' in you?  Body language is a critical part of attraction - and understanding it can help you to not "blow" an opportunity!  And, you can understand how to BEST use it to your favor, and indicate your interest to someone!   In this episode, Bela discusses 7 key signs of attraction, with a whole section on what "men" vs. "women" do when they're 'showing interest!'   You'll love this short and sweet episode - and make sure you save it to play and replay! 93% of attraction/first impressions comes from non-verbal communication!   We will discuss: How to use your eyes for maximum attraction and HOW someone looks at you to know if they're interested What our FEET will tell us What preening is, and how men/women do it... What kinds of questions indicate interest What is 'mirroring' and why does it indicate interest (or not)! And so much more!   Bela will take you through each point quickly, in a way that. you will clearly remember!    Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

What are some SMALL changes you can make TODAY for BIG results in your dating life?   Bela goes through 8 ways that you can have positive changes instantly, and here are some things she will cover! What online parameters can you change for biggest results?  Bela will tell you the ones that MATTER and where her clients have had success!   Start playing the game 3 Blind Mice online (described in detail)!  You never know WHO you'll meet!   How can you change your story?   Listen for how Jill changed her story and got a GREAT date by one tip... What time do you go online every day?  Why does doing a different time matter? How long should you be on a site or an app?  Should you buy a 1, 3, 6 or 12 month plan? How do you change up your mood instantly for a date?   Why does your 'internal clock' derail you?   Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

Know the signs of a catfisher or con-person that aren't so obvious?  Bela and Ilene drop ALL the bombs here -- from their real life client experience, and highlights from the Tinder Swindler that could happen to ANY of us!   There's a little bit inside most of us that has the "Disney fairy tale ending" wish inside of us (both men and women).  And, that can make the smartest of us susceptible to red flags such as : Receiving a message from someone who seems 'too good to be true' (their photos & profile are the stuff of legends) Over the Top gestures Tries to lure you off the dating site Won't pick up spontaneous calls / Facetimes You have a feeling in your gut something is off….. They ask for personal info but don't give their own You don't see their home life Take on trusted identities- military, service, working abroad They don't keep their promises And there are WAY more tips/clues that you'll hear in the episode.  It's short, sweet and FULL of gems - so make sure you download this one to be in the know at all times. Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

Rachel DeAlto, author of Relatable, and TV relationship expert and I discuss being "relatable", and why it's so much more than being "likable."   It's about someone wanting to connect with you on a deeper level, because you emit 3 things.   This episode will help you to have better relationships in dating & while making new friendships!  Here are some amazing things you'll hear in the episode: -The 3 factors to being "relatable!" -- Connect, Communicate and Inspire - One in four Americans report that they have zero friends (twenty years ago it was one in ten) - How many 'connections' we need to actually be happy (you'll be happy to hear what Rachel reports) - The best ways to meet new people in an easy way - How to become more relatable even if you have social anxiety - Why digging into your 'personality flaws' makes a big difference  - If you're wondering whether you're "positive" - we talk about the "Positivity Scale" and what things impact your positivity  Enjoy the episode, and share it with everyone who needs it to put more love and relatability into the world!    Here is a link to Rachel's book:   RACHEL'S BIO Rachel DeAlto is a communication and relatability expert, media personality, and speaker. She is the author of “relatable: How to Connect with Anyone Anywhere (Even if It Scares You)” (Simon & Schuster’s Tiller Press, Fall 2021). Rachel has appeared as a relationship expert on Lifetime’s Married at First Sight and TLC’s Kate+Date.  Rachel DeAlto maintains a law degree, a Master’s in psychology, and an influential social media presence, engaging and inspiring over150,000 active followers over her platforms. In addition to her regular appearances, Rachel has also been featured on a multitude of media outlets including The TODAY Show, Access Hollywood Live, and Fox News. She has also given three TEDx talks including Being Authentic in a Filtered World which is featured on TED.com. Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

Sugar is a 46 year old woman working at a large multinational firm, who sits on many non-profit boards (including her alma mater, Purdue U)!  She was married to a man she met in college, and went through a devastating divorce after 10 years.  It took Sugar 8 years to get back on her feet.   She had a lot of anxiety & tons of self-doubt around doing this again, and she bravely started her journey one year ago.   Was it easy?  No.  Did she find love and prevail?  Yes!   This inspiring story will make you know that love exists for ANYONE that wants it, including you.  Learn what Sugar did to find love, including: The Perfect Storm in her life that pushed her off the edge The fortune cookie message that said, "You need to make more time for romance" How her demons did a "number" of er self confidence How her "stubbornness" held her back (and it's SO similar to most of our clients and what they WANT vs. NEED) How psychotic optimism became her motto How Marilyn Dollar's success story on Bela's IG Live show inspired her to really put it into high gear, and change the way she dated Her Dating "FUN"-NEL and how she made it FUN What site she met Justin on, and he lives 100 miles awayyyy....Whattttt? Their first date was on his birthday Their first trip together What's going to happen now that he is moving to Dallas to go to pilot training school??? Tune in to the WHOLE episode to hear this darling story, and Sugar told her story to inspire YOU to find love!    Check out Sugar's story on our website at https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/success-stories/sugar-and-justin Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

What is Quantum Love?  It's a concept created by today's amazing guest, Dr. Laura Berman.   Listen to EVERY word, because it will take your breath away, and teach you how to ATTRACT the most amazing love into your life: Quantum love is the ideal combination of exciting and safe love - the type we ALL desire.   Dr. Berman tells us: 1) How she got into this work? 2) How she created the concept of Quantum love, and the INSTANT results she saw with Ethan 3) How to think about the type of love you want, which is how you want to FEEL 4) How to ground yourself to get into 'the zone' (Bela asks her to guide you through EXACTLY how to do this) 5) Why it's an amazing way to attract likeminded people to you 6) How to manifest the perfect mate 7) Why Quantum love is the basis for the "Law of Attraction" (ie, it's the "Secret of THE Secret") You will feel yourself shifting from shame/guilt to peace/safety during this episode.  I'm SO excited to hear what you think! Dr. Laura Berman is a therapist specializing in sex, love and relationships.  She's a best-selling author of nine books, and an award-winning radio and TV host.  She's starred in and hosted four TV series on OWN, Showtime, and Discovery Health, and is a regular guest expert on daytime news outlets.  Dr. Berman is also the host of The Language of Love, a podcast focusing on love, sex & relationships from a mind, body and spirit perspective.    Link to her love quiz:  https.//drlauraberman.com/quiz Link to her book, Quantum Love: 

Want to make your face gorgeous and glowy all summer long?  Listen to this episode with Enisa, Smart Dating Academy's chief hair/makeup guru!   You can use these tips today and ALWAYS -- even in the dead of winter when you're going on vacation to somewhere warm!   And, if you like this episode, a link to MORE is below! Here are some of the gems you'll hear: "Good Makeup starts with good skin!"   How do you 'prep your skin' for this time of year to make it GLOW? What's Enisa's biggest secret to anti-aging? What's the difference between BB and CC cream?  Enisa thinks everyone knows this - but Bela had to ask for clarification!! Why you may need two shades of foundation (oohhhh)... The best way to achieve a unified look -- and what Bela learned about having it 'dry' vs. 'wet!' The best way to keep a light 'berry lip' for the summer And, the most important thing to have it all stay in place (and wait for it because she spills the beans on her FAVORITE product here)! Listen to the WHOLE episode and you'll have tips to glow up!! And, if you liked the episode, here is the Makeup Webinar that has been invested in by hundreds of people!   (learning HOW to apply, live with Bela & Enisa showing you how, and their FAVORITE products), click here!   You'll learn how EXACTLY to apply your skin prep, foundation, concealer, eye shadow, liner, mascara, contouring, and giving yourself an "eye lift" with a trick!!!   And, we will email you a detailed product list of EVERY product we used.  This webinar has blown people away!    https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/webinars Follow us on Instagram for free tips 2x/day @smartdatingacademy  And, subscribe to our FREE newsletter at https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact