Smart Dating Academy - The Podcast

Mindy is a successful entrepreneur, and a single mom of two teens.   Her parents were loving and supportive - and had a 'love hard' but 'fight hard' dynamic.   Listen to her story of how she was set up with her husband at 19, how she built a business with him.  Her gut started to tell her something was wrong, and she learned he was having an affair with Mindy's best friend (who was now their office manager).  Talk about gaslighting and lies - oy!   After the divorce, she did therapy, and jumped back into the dating pool, and yes, she dated someone WORSE than him afterward (you'll hear what happened at the two month mark).  At the end of 2021, she was sick and tired of being sick and tired, and decided to take the 'steering wheel' of her dating life.   You'll be inspired as to how she embarked on her "new and improved" love journey and how she was guided to slowly find love.  And she did.   Mindy is just like so many of us - going from bad to worse.  Learn what she did to turn her love life into magic during this episode helmed by both Bela and Lindsay. Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

In this episode, Bela interviews Tripp Kramer, a coach who teaches shy men how to talk to women!   This conversation is riveting because we hear what he teaches guys about approaching women (ladies and gents, you're gonna want to hear this)! -How Tripp went from a shy introverted guy (at the University of Illinois) to a confident man -- and now teaches self-conscious men about meeting women! What is his TED formula for approaching women? -How do you deal with the fear of approaching attractive strangers? -What is "man crack"? (Spoiler Alert - it's ANYTHING!  Listen to what he tells Bela about HOW a woman can approach a man) -What are the subjects that Tripp says ALL women will talk about, and are GREAT ways to make conversation?  "Chick Crack" (this is hilarious) -How do you deal with rejection? -Are there things women can do to increase their attractiveness to men? -Are there things women can do to have more men approach them? -Do men like it when women approach them? Tripp has GREAT advice for anyone looking to make better conversation with people!    BIO:  Tripp Kramer is an international dating coach for men. He created his "TED system" to help shy men confidently attract the women they desire. In his earlier years he was a shy guy who figured out through trial and error how to get better and meeting, dating and finding the right type of woman for you. He currently has a popular podcast on iTunes called "How To Talk To Girls" and has a book called Magnetic which teaches all his secrets on dating and attraction. www.trippadvice.com/chick-crack Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

Dating as a widow is certainly different than dating at any other point in your life.   Many have lost amazing partners, and the 'love of their lives.'  This is the story of Jody LaVoie, entrepreneur, Mom, mentor, CEO, and now, a smart dater.  Jody tells the story of how she met her husband Steve, how wonderful their love was, and how his life was brutally ended by an employee.  Jody steered their company to sale, and her 3 daughters (and herself) through the grief tunnel.  She finally felt ready to date in 2018, and has re-entered the dating pool.  How do her kids feel?  How do her in-laws feel?  Listen to her amazing story, and you'll fall in love with her.  AND, learn what NOT to say or expect when you date a widow/widower.  Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

Is it possible to find love over 50?  Hell yes!!  Is it possible to find love over 70?  Hell yes!!  Kathy, from a rural town/state found love at 71, and shares her entire story of how she did it (online)!     Kathy was divorced after 42 years of marriage She lives in a small rural town, in a Southwest state and was a stay at home Mom She was blindsided by her husband when she went to surprise him for Mother's Day (by his new girlfriend) She was left with $400, and had to borrow $ from her daughter to hire a divorce attorney She rose, battled through the dark tunnel, and became stronger / more resilient She dated for nine years, but something just wouldn't click.   She saw a dating coach on Steve Harvey that she liked :).  (enter Smart Dating Academy), and finally hired them. She transformed her dating life.  Her look, her mindset, her online profile, her parameters, all of it.   She met Ruben online and they are now living together (he asked her daughter for her blessing on that) They're planning a 'commitment' ceremony She's found the lid to her pot, who makes her SO happy. It's possible at ANY age! LInks: BE LIKE KATHY & JOIN OUR DATING OVER 50 LOVE LAB!!   The workshop that started it ALL for her is coming back for the FIRST and ONLY time in 2022!  It's 3 hours, over Zoom, on 10/29/22 from 1-4pm CT - and was the VERY first step Kathy took.  Get your spot by putting this link into your browser, now!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/dating-over-50-love-lab To read Kathy & Ruben's Story on our website:  https://bit.ly/3S3815f Arthur Aron's 36 Questions (the fun questions Kathy and Rubin asked each other):  https://www.rd.com/list/arthur-aron-36-questions/ Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

Top 10 Things To Do When You’re Dating After Divorce 1.     Do the work – DO therapy / coaching.  Make sure you have processed the relationship, and most importantly, know what YOUR part in the relationship break up was 2.     Hire someone to help you 3.     Fix Your Picker – Have you noticed that your ‘picker’ is broken?  Get help around this – it’s due to social media, attachment, not knowing what you need vs. want, evolution, and more 4.     Get Psychotically Optimistic about your future – does the thought of dating excite you? 5.     Get online the right way – Take this seriously!!   a.     Have great photos b.     Write a great profile c.     We don’t pick great photos of ourselves! 6.     Have a dating strategy – 15 minutes in the morning/evening a.     Date multiple people at the same time b.     If you’re a single parent, use video to be efficient!  Crazy can’t hide for more than 10 minutes c.     Only go on a few dates per week! 7.     Keep things slow!!  You’ll probably want to rush out especially if your love cup is empty.  Wait 15 dates so you don't get any love bombers/narcissists, etc.  Time is the most important commodity in dating! 8.     Don’t go over to anyone’s house prematurely.  Listen to WHY in the episode!   9.     Get physical if and only if you want to.  There is no such thing as a 3 date rule!!   Only do what you’re comfortable with. There is NO pressure to do anything, and if someone is making you feel bad that you’re not ‘fast enough’ they’re not for you 10.  Only take advice from people who can guide you correctly.  Your friends mean well, but probably not well-versed in dating.  Goes back to rule #2 to hire someone to help you!   Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

Cheating -- If you see someone's partner cheating, do you tell them?   This week's episode breaks it ALL down! What sparked this whole episode was a text Bela received from someone that said: "Have you ever had a client that was on a dating app, and saw someone else’s significant other/someone they’re dating on a dating app?  Do I tell the person?  I mean, I would want to know but now every woman would want to know.  I told someone once and they stopped talking to me.  What do I do?" I gave her some advice but more importantly, I was SO curious to hear what YOU think, so I ran a poll on Instagram last week, and the results were AWESOME.   Tune into this sweet 25 minute episode to hear ALL the dish including: Should you tell someone that their partner is cheating?    How many of you have been cheated on? How did the VAST majority of people find out they were cheated on? If someone told you that your partner was cheating, were you mad? What's the best way to give yourself comfort that your partner isn't cheating? HOW should you treat someone who tells you your partner is cheating? Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

How do you make sure you are having safe sex?  Whether you're out there dating, or thinking of dipping your toe into the pool, this episode with Dr. Lauren Streicher will tell you EVERYTHING you need to know (fact and fiction) about safe sex including: Do you have to have 'sex-sex' (intercourse) to get an STI?  Spoiler alert - no.   What should you do to 'get tested'? The Top 5 tests in Dr. Streicher's "STI screen" What men think about 'vaginal grooming' today - and what Dr. Streicher's survey says! What if you can't have an orgasm?  She divides it into two groups -- NEVER had one before, and HAD them before but can't now... What are "safe sex panties"??   Does wearing a condom protect you from all STIs? What's the whole deal with 'anal sex' and how should you 'do it' if you want?? This and SO much more in the episode!  Just make sure you're ALONE when you're listening to this -- you don't want to be with your Mom or your kids!! Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

How do you create amazing personal and professional networks?   Today's guest, Larry Kaufman (the King of Linked In with over 30,000 contacts and author of the NCG Factor) wil tell us HOW he has cultivated deep, meaningful relationships with literally thousands of people through his method of authenticity, and NCG (networking, connecting and giving).  And it's not the 'ugh' type of networking.  In this episode, we will show you specifically: How to SHINE in any interaction you have (a date, an interview, a new friend) What "If you Lead With Yourself, You Leave With Yourself" means, and how to AVOID this!   How to be a true "giver" vs. a "taker" How to tell someone they're talking too much (not asking you ANYTHING about yourself - ahem, has this NEVER happened to you on a date, lol!?) How to never "show up and throw up." How to get set up with amazing singles (Smart Dating Academy's "Superconnector" strategy) How Larry met his wife at McDonald's (yes, she was wearing burgundy polyester) How Larry helped a CEO in transition to get a great gig, and to fall in love! How to truly approach connections and "give" (people will NEVER forget) What to do if you're with a taker! Relationships are at the center of the human experience, and the primary reason for people's happiness.   This episode has GREAT advice for anyone whether you're single or in a relationship!  You'll learn tips on how to be a better human and friend.    (Brief Bio): Larry Kaufman is the Best-Selling Author of The NCG Factor  – A Formula for Building Life-Changing Relationships from College to Retirement.  He is a connector, giver, and rainmaker who lives his life to help others succeed. He is a Senior Level Sales & Operations Leader running the Midwest Region for Jefferson Wells. Larry has also been a globally-published speaker and trainer on LinkedIn for more than a decade.  Larry is an investor and advisor to several local technology companies and supports a number of local and national charities.  Larry resides in a Chicago suburb with his wife and two children. Book Link:  https://lnkd.in/g6xyVq5N  (The NCG Factor on Amazon) Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

Bela talks to client Marilyn Dollar about how she found love after TWO bad marriages -- one was at the age of 17 (involving physical abuse), and the other was the father of her children (infidelity).   In a prior podcast episode, Sugar mentioned how a Smart Dating Academy Instagram Live episode with Marilyn changed her dating life, so we invited Marilyn to tell ALL of you the story that inspired Sugar.   Marilyn is so relatable - we all have Marilyn inside of us.  Listen for the following gems: What made Marilyn realize she needed help in the dating process (it might have to do with a boyfriend that she only spent time with in the bedroom or Home Depot) How Marilyn changed so much that she found love AND was promoted from an "Admin" four levels to "Global Marketing Manager" What happened 7 days after Marilyn met Bela & Lindsay at the Four Seasons, and why didn't Bela recognize her? What site she MET the love of her life on (hint....it's NOT Bumble or Hinge or Match) What parameters she changed to bring Jim into her filter, that would have NEVER brought him to her beforehand? Does a dozen roses on date 1 mean he's a "love bomber?" How she deprioritized "height" and found a tall guy anyway! What's Marilyn's BEST advice for you at the end?  It has to do with light, and it's NOT what you might think it is  You will get chills listening to Marilyn's story, and be inspired that the lid to your pot is just one message away! Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

Part 2 of this episode is amazing!  Bela and Lindsay of Smart Dating Academy are back, discussing MORE secrets that have made their clients successful in finding love!   Here are some nuggets you'll hear: Where there is smoke, there is fire - Most of my divorced clients can point to something very specific early on that indicated something wasn’t right. People make time for things they want! There is no such thing as being “too busy” when someone is ready to date. They will ALWAYS make time. Even if it’s just for a quick cup of coffee. The busier someone is and the less they prioritize you is a sign that their “taxi light is not on”….they aren’t ready.   Believe that you are a catch and act like one! He or she is lucky to meet you and they will earn you. Create an identity around dating.    Everyone is afraid of rejection. You are afraid. They are afraid. It’s neutralized.  What you think about dating decides your outcome! Mindset is everything! Our positive clients who embrace dating (even when it is DRY AS A DESERT) find love because they never give up. Our clients who decide they hate it…usually don’t.  What can you do to become psychotically optimistic???    Old trauma often shows up in new relationships. ·       Pay attention to what people tell you in the beginning.  ·       Past trauma has a big impact on ability to find love without therapy ·       Know their triggers so you can avoid them in a relationship. Clarify if you might have misinterpreted something.  Never assume! Just ask. Don’t make assumptions…ask.   Clearly define the relationship and you won’t be surprised down the road Sex changes everything, and how to have the best sex of your life  The people around you shape who you are! You are the combination of the 5 people you spend the most time with! When it comes to finding love, make sure you share what’s going on with people who are encouraging and supportive. Like us….ahh!    Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela