Smart Dating Academy - The Podcast

In this mini laser focused episode, Bela answers one of the top dating questions -- how many times should I date someone before calling it quits?    Do not miss ANY of this episode, because you will learn about chemistry (what to do if you feel butterflies, and what if you feel nothing), how long you should let it 'simmer', and what red flags get someone thrown out RIGHT AWAY without question.  And, what do you do if something might be a red flag but you're not sure?  Listen in and hear it all!!    We hope you are listening to this wonderful series of podcasts and please rate and review if you're enjoying them!! And, as promised, here is a link to the 1/8 Online Dating Love Lab (zoom workshop) which will be LIVE from 1pm-4pm!!   Get your spot now, and thank us later lol!   Put this link in your browser to register:  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/the-online-dating-love-lab Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela Update Description

In today's mini episode in honor of Peak Dating Season, Bela explains 10 BIG red flags that you're dating a PLAYER!   Here are 3 of them, and to hear them ALL, listen to this amazing mini-episode which will open your eyes WIDE! They're super smooth in their approach.  They know exactly what to say and what to do - how to flirt with you. They say they're "not looking for anything serious" or "just something fun!" They're not consistent about being in touch -- it could be hours, days, or longer between when you hear from them We hope you are listening to this wonderful series of podcasts and please rate and review if you're enjoying them!! And, as promised, here is a link to the 1/8 Online Dating Love Lab (zoom workshop) which will be LIVE from 1pm-4pm!!   Get your spot now, and thank us later lol!   Put this link in your browser to register:  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/the-online-dating-love-lab Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela Update Description

The biggest mistake people make is NOT having a dating funnel!   Listen to this short, info packed episode where Bela cuts through the brush to tell you: Why you should have a dating funnel Why everyone is dating everyone until you've had the EXCLUSIVITY conversation! How do you build a dating funnel?  Listen to yesterday's episode - pick an app, and have great photos and a great profile (if you don't have those join our Online Dating Love Lab)! How to answer the question, "Are you dating other people?" if someone asks!     When can you shut down your dating funnel?? If you want to maximize your chances of finding love in 2023, join the January 8th, "Online Dating Love Lab" by putting this link in your browser!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/the-online-dating-love-lab Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela Update Description

This week is a GREAT week as Bela is doing a mini daily episode from Monday through Friday, answering your most pressing dating questions!   What are the best dating apps for 2023 and why?   Tune in to hear the dish about Tinder all the way to Raya!    Tune in tomorrow to hear, "How to Create a Dating Funnel and How to Date Multiple People at the SAME TIME!"  Are you ready??  This show will get you fired up and educated at warp speed!   And, click HERE to join our January 8th Online Dating Love Lab - it's the BEST present you'll give yourself for 2023, and you are WORTH it!    https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/the-online-dating-love-lab Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

In this episode, Lindsay (SDA Dating Coach) and Bela discuss Peak Dating Season - which officially begins on 12/26/22.   We will talk about: What is Peak Dating Season?  Why does it happen? When is the busiest online day of the year and why? What you should do to get ready for it! Great photos (dos and don'ts of photos) Why YOU aren't the best judge of your own photos and should have someone in your life help you Having positive profile text (we come up with a "Top 10" List idea that's SUPER fun) What night of the week is best for messaging?   What men should do that they don't do enough of! Why you should have goals and celebrate your successes each week? The biggest dating gift you can give yourself?   If you loved this episode, a HUGE gift to us would be to write a review!   Or share it with friends that SHOULD be dating smarter! If you're ready to jump into 1:1 coaching with us, go to www.smartdatingacademy.com and fill out a form.  It's the best gift you'll give yourself - the gift that will keep on giving Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy for more free tips and tricks!

How do you get over the awful things that life throws at you?   This episode's guest, Dr. Neeta Bhushan explains the formula for that.  Her new book called, "That Sucked.  Now What?" is an explanation of HOW to get through the 'suck' and to rise again.    Bela and Neeta met over coffee at Whole Foods when Neeta was single almost a decade ago.   Neeta has experienced more loss by the age of 19 than most people do in a lifetime.  She lost her father, mother and younger brother starting at the age of 15, and by 19 years old, she was raising her younger brother.   She went on to get a DMD degree, and open up dental practices, with financial success but a hole inside of her.   She married someone she thought her parents would 'approve' of, and after his last 'punch' (literally to her face) on New Year's Eve, 2011, she left him and began to rebuild her life.  Neeta has found love, had kids, founded the "Global Grit Institute" and so much more.  In this episode, you will hear: -How Suffering is part of Being Human 101 -How to Avoid the Victim Mentality -How to Create "Bounce" in your life, and the 4 factors that lead to bounce (resilience) Your Upbringing Your Current Environment Your Emotional Capacity Your Self-Awareness -After you 'bounce', the 5 Steps to 'fly forward!'   Falling Igniting Rising Magnifying Thriving  Spreading Your Wings Neeta and I implore you to get 'coaching' in any area you need it.  I have coaches, she has coaches, and we have been there to coach each other.   If you need a 'kick in the pants' to get some help for Peak Dating Season, click this link to set up a consultation with us!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela To buy Neeta's Book click here:  https://www.amazon.com/That-Sucked-Now-What-Embrace-ebook/dp/B0B4ZF99PS Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

 In an ever-changing dating world, it can be hard to stay positive.   We often have two choices, we can be optimistic or pessimistic.  The NYT reports that optimists earn more money, have better relationships, and even live longer!   Today, I will explain to you not only how to rewire your brain for optimism, but PSYCHOTIC OPTIMISM!   Psychotic optimism is something Smart Dating Academy is renowned for, (believing in your CORE that love exists for you) and today, we pull back the curtain on our best techniques to become a psychotic optimist!   And yes, optimism can be learned - you don't have to be born with it!    You will learn how to: Identify the negative voice in your head, give it a name, and TALK BACK TO IT! Reframe Situations, Positively Reframing Them (so important)!    How to make 2 lists that can bring you JOY (and avoid pain) How to Evaluate the Company you Keep and decide if they're good for you or Debbie Downers!    Why volunteering is good for your mind and soul Why Gratitude is KEY and why you should religiously write down 3 things you're grateful for. Exercise -- Get the Dopamine GOING! Do something you're afraid of every day. Make a playlist of happy songs!!    Connect with a friend or family member you haven't talked to in a while And, most importantly, Peak Dating Season is coming up - so it's time to AMP UP the psychotic optimism!   It's time to get your profile in EXCELLENT shape - and there is nothing better you can do than schedule a one hour consultation with us to make sure you're at the top of your game.  Email datecoach@smartdatingacademy.com, or check our website for more details :) Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

Nicky's love story is amazing. She met Bela at a holiday party sometime around 2010 when she was in her 20s (Nicky was a colleague of Bela's husband Andy at the time). She was a successful professional who didn't have a lot of relationship experience, and pursued dating as she would her work life. Trying different things like matchmaking, speed dating, How About We, dating apps -- but had an epiphany that was work related. She said, "if I was doing something at work for 10 years and didn't get the results I wanted, I would really reevaluate and change my approach." She enlisted some help from Smart Dating Academy at the age of 34, and found love just before the pandemic, and prevailed over the pandemic. She got engaged recently in Italy, and will share her awesome and relatable story in this episode. If you are looking for a husband and maybe kids in your 20s, 30s, or 40s - or just a partner at any age, listen to this episode for inspiration and delight! You'll hear: How Nicky was floored at how her approach to dating wasn't working, and what 'video' inspired her to change How she BECAME the fun that she wanted to have on dates How she dated before (just swiping 'quantitatively), and looking for instant chemistry What SDA rule she "expedited" under careful guidance How she didn't own any flour when Lucas asked her to cook pizza at her apartment Why Elevator people make ALL the difference How Lucas made her feel on the first date (which was different than ANYONE else she had dated).... Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

Bela chats with celebrity stylist and author Andrew Gelwicks about how a kid from Ohio grew up, moved to Manhattan, and realized he was meant to be a stylist. How did he get his first break?   What is it like to style Catherine O'Hara, Uzo Aduba, Bette Midler and so many more?   What inspired him to write his book, interviewing some of the most iconic/influential gay influencers, and what did he learn from writing his book?   What is his best tip to look YOUR best no matter what age or size you are?   Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

In this amazing episode, you'll have your mind BLOWN by my chat with Dr. Roksana Badruddoja (Dr. Rokbad) about how fixing your picker is about MORE than just your attachment system and your relationship with your parents.  The way we show up in relationships can be 'wired' into us, and the trauma of generations before us can come into us without us even being aware of it!   My mind was blown, and I'm sure yours will be too!  You'll hear:  What is Family Constellation Therapy? How does something that happened to an ancestor impact our relationships, like our love life? What is trauma?  What is love? What is the relationship between (romantic) love and trauma? Why is it important for singles looking to enter the relationship/dating world and couples before committing to one another to do this work? Bio: Dr. Roksana Badruddoja is an an inherited family trauma liberation scholar; a family constellation therapist; a tenured full professor of sociology, women and gender studies, and critical race and ethnicity studies and the Chair of the Department of Sociology at Manhattan College; and a queer mother to four fierce energy beings. Dr. Badruddoja focuses on inherited family trauma as a platform to explore how people interact in their relationships. Here, Dr. Badruddoja thinks deeply, every day, about how vulnerability and woundedness are imagined and how trauma impacts the ways in which we show up in the world. Dr. Badruddoja is the author of National (un)Belonging: Bengali American Women on Imagining and Contesting Culture and Identity (Brill/Haymarket, 2022), the editor of “New Maternalisms”: Tales of Motherwork (Demeter, 2016), and a contributor of Good Girls Marry Doctors: South Asian Daughters in Obedience and Rebellion (Aunt Lute, 2016).   web: drrokbad.com Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela