23: How to Know if Someone is THE ONE & The Science of Finding Love

Jun 20, 2022

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Dr. Terri Orbuch is a renowned love researcher. During this episode, she and Bela have an incredible chat that spans the biggest reasons for divorce, what makes for the happiest relationships, love vs. lust (how to tell which it is), and how to know if someone is 'the one.'

You will hear about:

Dr. Terri's NIH research project that has been following the same couples for over 30 years (how many couples divorced, and how many of them found love again - and this is super inspiring)!
What is the #1 factor that leads singles to find love?
What are some additional ways that singles can improve their odds of finding love – based on science?
How does someone know if a relationship is the right one?
The 4 keys ways to distinguish lust vs. love
Why 'picking your battles' is usually the wrong strategy
Why conflict is so important (what happened to the 12 couples that reported NO conflict)
What you should do EVERY MORNING with your partner to maintain love (and it's not sex, lol)
Your new book is called “Secrets to Surviving Your Children’s Love Relationships.” Briefly – what is it about? What motivated you to write it?
How to get over the HURT of infidelity or relationship trauma --
What conversations are most important for parents to have with their children?

This episode is one you will want to listen to again, and again and again. We certainly are!

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BIO: Dr. Terri Orbuch (aka The Love Doctor®) is a world-renowned relationship expert, author, speaker, therapist and relationship coach, Distinguished Professor at Oakland University, Research Professor at University of Michigan Institute for Social Research, and media personality. She is also the director of a landmark study, funded by the National Institutes of Health (NIH), where she has been following the same couples for over 3 decades. Dr. Orbuch is widely published in scientific journals and the author of “5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great.” and “Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship.” Her latest book, “Secrets to Surviving Your Children’s Love Relationships” was published in March 2022. Dr. Orbuch has been featured in such publications as, The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Reader’s Digest, USA Today, Women’s Health, Cosmopolitan, and TIME magazine and has appeared on The Today Show, MSNBC, The Katie Couric Show, ESPN, HuffPost Live, and CNN. Her TEDx talk has over 2.8 million views. For more information, please go to: DrTerriTheLoveDoctor.com.