
How To!
You’ve got questions. Together, we get answers.We all need advice, but sometimes it’s hard to know where to turn. Each week, Courtney Martin and Carvell Wallace bring a listener on to the show to solve their toughest problems with the help of world-class experts. It’s free therapy, and you’re invited.
Latest episodes

Sep 24, 2024 • 48min
How To Grow Your Podcast
Lauren Passell, founder of Tink Media and author of Podcast the Newsletter, shares her expertise on podcast marketing. She discusses innovative ways to attract and engage listeners, emphasizing the importance of community involvement. Lauren also gives practical tips on crafting personalized pitches and highlights the value of collaborations in growing an audience. The conversation dives into strategies for unique content creation and understanding listener dynamics, making it essential for anyone looking to expand their podcast reach.

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Sep 17, 2024 • 47min
How To Rethink Screen Time
In this discussion, Richard Culatta, CEO of the International Society for Technology in Education, dives into the complexities of children’s screen time. He advocates for a balanced relationship with technology, emphasizing self-regulation over strict limits. The conversation explores the dual nature of social media, highlighting its potential to connect isolated youths while acknowledging its risks. Culatta also shares practical strategies for families to establish healthy tech habits and engage in meaningful conversations about their digital lives.

Sep 10, 2024 • 45min
How To Survive a Disaster
Amanda Ripley, an expert on emergency preparedness and survival, joins the conversation to share her insights on how individuals can better prepare for disasters. She discusses the importance of community support and personal resilience during crises. Listeners learn about crucial preparedness resources like CERT training and local emergency alerts. The dialogue also highlights the psychological phases of disaster response, emphasizing trust and communication as vital for survival. Ripley's updated insights will inspire you to be proactive when facing the unexpected.

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Sep 3, 2024 • 47min
How To Cook at Home Like Sohla El-Waylly
Award-winning chef and food writer Sohla El-Waylly discusses transforming home cooking amid rising takeout prices. She shares insights on mastering meal prep with rotisserie chicken and plant-based options, emphasizing the importance of seasoning and a well-stocked pantry. Sohla also highlights the versatility of rice and beans, offering tips on selecting quality ingredients and improvising delicious meals. With practical advice for beginners, she encourages a balanced approach to cooking while enjoying the creative process in the kitchen.

Aug 27, 2024 • 37min
How To Fall Out of Love (Encore)
Helen Fisher, a renowned biological anthropologist and author of Anatomy of Love, joins to explore how to let go of unreciprocated feelings. She emphasizes the importance of cutting off contact with a best friend to break the cycle of romantic longing. Fisher shares insights on the brain's responses to love and heartbreak, highlighting the need for personal growth and creating distance. Listeners learn practical strategies for healing, including avoiding emotional triggers and embracing new experiences for recovery.

Aug 20, 2024 • 44min
How To Be a Family (and Still Be You)
Dr. Lucy Blake, an expert in family dynamics and self-acceptance, helps a listener, Kate, navigate her feelings of being a black sheep in a hiking-loving family. They discuss the struggle of balancing personal identity with familial bonds. Lucy emphasizes the value of celebrating differences and fostering authentic connections amidst the pressures of togetherness. The conversation also touches on the importance of addressing emotional complexities and the gradual change needed for deeper family ties, particularly for those feeling estranged.

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Aug 13, 2024 • 41min
How To Do Housework (and Not Hate It)
Dale Aucoin, a professional organizer from New York City and founder of Clean & Queer, joins the conversation to tackle the challenges of housework. They discuss prioritizing tasks to keep chaos at bay and share practical strategies to transform cleaning into a rewarding habit. The impact of mental health on organizational skills is examined, along with tips for managing household chores in cozy spaces. Dale emphasizes self-compassion and the importance of creating routines that fit individual lifestyles, making those dreaded chores feel less overwhelming.

Aug 6, 2024 • 43min
How To Put a Toxic Job Behind You
Elle, a therapist navigating a tough career transition, shares her journey from a toxic work environment. Rudhir Krishtel, a leadership coach, joins her to discuss transforming workplace dynamics for personal fulfillment. They explore how to communicate better in high-pressure scenarios and the importance of self-reflection in maintaining mental health. Together, they offer insights into empowering oneself after a challenging job and the significance of fostering healthy relationships at work for a more supportive environment.

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Jul 30, 2024 • 47min
How To Be Funny (5th Anniversary Edition)
Gary Gulman, a New York standup comedian known for his candid humor about clinical depression, joins hosts to discuss the art of funny storytelling. They dive into the challenges of crafting effective jokes, particularly in pastoral settings. Gulman shares his personal journey through the world of comedy, highlighting the importance of vulnerability and relatability. The conversation also explores how humor can provide comfort in grief and reflect on societal issues, showcasing its transformative power amidst life's struggles.

Jul 23, 2024 • 46min
How To Date With a Disability
Authors Jessica Slice and Caroline Cupp provide guidance to Todd, a man with multiple sclerosis, on navigating dating with a disability. They discuss disclosing disabilities, dealing with ableism, and managing expectations in the dating world.