
How To!
You’ve got questions. Together, we get answers.We all need advice, but sometimes it’s hard to know where to turn. Each week, Courtney Martin and Carvell Wallace bring a listener on to the show to solve their toughest problems with the help of world-class experts. It’s free therapy, and you’re invited.
Latest episodes

Dec 3, 2024 • 41min
How To Plan an Estate (Before It’s Too Late)
In this enlightening discussion, M.P. Dunleavey, a journalist and aging expert, sheds light on navigating the complexities of estate planning. She helps André tackle the daunting task of preparing for their parents' future care while dealing with their reluctance to share crucial information. Topics include drafting essential paperwork, communicating with family, and the emotional challenges of being an estate executor. M.P. emphasizes the importance of open dialogue and suggests involving neutral parties to ease tensions. Prepare yourself for invaluable insights!

Nov 26, 2024 • 46min
How To Throw a Party They’ll Remember (Encore)
Priya Parker, author of The Art of Gathering, shares her insights on creating memorable events that foster connection. She emphasizes transforming casual hangouts into purpose-driven gatherings that draw people back. With tips tailored for the holiday season, she discusses the art of crafting the right guest list and setting meaningful rules. Parker also explores the significance of intention in social interactions, highlighting how structured events like trivia nights can rebuild community and deepen relationships.

Nov 19, 2024 • 47min
How To Face the Future (Gen Z Edition)
Andrew McPeak, author and vice president of Growing Leaders, tackles the existential struggles faced by today's youth, particularly Generation Z. He shares insights on how to find purpose and meaning amid uncertainty and societal pressures. The conversation covers navigating unique challenges, the importance of individual agency, and establishing habits rooted in personal values. McPeak emphasizes transforming lives through authenticity and connection, encouraging a focus on joy and simplicity amidst the complexities of modern life.

Nov 12, 2024 • 46min
How To Man Up About Male Birth Control
Join Dr. Sarah Miller, a family planning specialist, and Dr. Brian Nguyen, a USC obstetrics professor, as they tackle the often-ignored topic of male birth control. They discuss the cultural shifts needed for men to share reproductive responsibilities and the evolution of contraceptive methods. With innovations like a hormonal gel and even ideas like universal vas deferens occlusion, the duo emphasizes the importance of engaging men in family planning dialogues while addressing misconceptions and pain perceptions surrounding male contraceptives.

Nov 5, 2024 • 42min
How To Lead Your Local Nonprofit
Join nonprofit consultant Malini Sridharan as she shares her expertise on community leadership and board dynamics. She explores how new board members can navigate their roles, manage time effectively, and communicate ideas without overstepping. Malini emphasizes the delicate balance of oversight and collaboration in nonprofit settings, while also tackling the dynamics of power, inclusivity, and the importance of leveraging individual strengths. Tune in for valuable insights on creating a thriving board environment!

Oct 29, 2024 • 35min
How To Face Your Fear of Dying (Encore)
Rachel Menzies, a psychologist at the University of Sydney and author of *Tales from the Valley of Death*, joins to tackle the anxiety of dying. She shares insights on how the fear of mortality affects daily life and relationships, especially for those like comedy writer Katie. Menzies suggests unconventional exposure techniques to confront these fears, including the curious idea of lying in a body bag. She emphasizes that engaging with thoughts of death can actually enhance our appreciation of life, sparking transformative conversations around mortality.

Oct 22, 2024 • 44min
How To Cope With Forever Parenting
Sarah Wayland, founder of Guiding Exceptional Parents and mother to two autistic young men, shares her profound insights on the emotional challenges faced by parents of adult children with autism. She discusses navigating the complexities of independence while managing caregiver emotions like grief and jealousy. Emphasizing the importance of community support, Sarah offers coping strategies and lobbies for systemic changes in care services. Listeners will find inspiration in her advocacy for shared experiences and the delicate balance of planning for the future.

Oct 15, 2024 • 43min
How To Be Less Judgy
Dr. Terri Apter, a psychologist and author of "Passing Judgment: The Power of Praise & Blame in Everyday Life," dives into the complexities of judgment and its influence on relationships. She discusses the importance of self-awareness and how initial judgments can actually serve as a tool for deeper self-understanding. The conversation highlights the role of judgment in female friendships, urging a shift toward empathy and curiosity. Ultimately, Terri offers practical tips for cultivating a kinder inner dialogue and fostering meaningful connections.

Oct 8, 2024 • 44min
How To Stop Killing Your Plants
Maria Failla, host of the Growing Joy podcast and a plant care expert, joins Jenna Andriosi, a studio manager on a mission to revive her struggling office plants. They dive into practical tips for indoor green care, troubleshoot common issues like browning leaves and curling stems, and discuss the emotional significance of plants. Maria shares insights on watering techniques, pest management, and how to adapt care practices for different species. Plus, they explore clever solutions for keeping pets away from houseplants!

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Oct 1, 2024 • 54min
How To Care for an Aging Parent
Dr. Allison Applebaum, a caregiving expert and author, joins siblings Courtney Martin and Chris to discuss the challenges of caring for a parent with dementia. They share personal stories about how their dad's condition has reshaped their lives. The conversation dives into the emotional landscape of caregiving, addressing feelings of guilt and grief while highlighting the importance of self-care. They also emphasize open communication, practical resources, and the need for informed decision-making in navigating caregiving roles.