A few months ago, I had a fantastic conversation with Monica Packer (@aboutprogress) about the uncomfortable, rewarding, and essential process of self-expansion. As human beings, we have a strong drive to develop, create, learn, and grow. But the uncertainty of growth keeps many of us afraid to start the enriching process of developing who we are. And, to be clear, it IS a process. Self-expansion isn’t about meeting metrics or checking off goals. It’s a mindset. It’s about striving, staying open to possibilities, and being courageous enough to tolerate the inevitable bumps along the way. In this episode, I discuss with Monica the importance of expanding ourselves and how constricting this process and taking refuge in stasis and what is familiar, limits not only our peace with ourselves but also our ability to whole-heartedly love our partner.  Listen to the full episode to learn more about how the courage to grow will impact every aspect of your life, including your intimate relationship.  To learn more about this topic, consider enrolling in my Art of Desire course for women!

**Click HERE to learn more about our 2023 Art of Loving Retreat (for men)** In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Richard Ostler to discuss the experiences in her early life that shaped her personal, professional, and spiritual journey—including her shift from following cultural expectations to following her own heart and desires.  Listen to the full episode to learn more about: -Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s personal, professional, and spiritual journey -Boundaries  -Spiritual Maturity  -Self-Definition  -Obedience vs Integrity 

If you feel anxious about sexuality, you are definitely not alone. The trepidation that many of us feel makes a lot of sense, given that most of us got very little guidance about sexuality during our formative years. And the guidance we did get, often came from a place of fear and anxiety–ultimately doing more harm than it did good.  While I am sure that these messages were well intended, they resulted in a lot of fear and confusion, both of which interfere with our ability to accept our bodies and sexuality for what they really are –incredible gifts from our Heavenly Parents.  If we want an intimate connection with a spouse, we have to be at peace with our sexuality. Because If you don’t know your sexual self, you won’t be able to share an intimate connection with another–we can’t share what we don’t have.  The good news is that this is an area in which we can and should grow. It’s not too late.  And I assure you that every effort that you make to come to peace with your God-given sexuality will pay incredible dividends in your life and in your marriage.  Recently, I joined Dr. Paul Jenkins of Live on Purpose Radio to discuss the role that peace with our OWN sexuality plays in our ability to create a soulful and sustaining connection with our spouse. In the episode, we discuss several roadblocks that couples face as they try to create sexual and emotional intimacy–these roadblocks are more common than you might think and the good news is that they can be overcome.  You can listen to the full episode to learn more about:  * What REAL intimacy is and how you can create more of it!  * The keys to creating real sexual and emotional intimacy in marriage  * The gift of coming to peace with your own sexuality

**JOIN US in Spring City for the 2023 Art of Desire Retreat! Click HERE to learn more** The highest, most beautiful form of our sexuality requires both freedom and discipline.   While freedom and discipline seem like competing ideas, the reality is that they actually work alongside one another. When sexuality goes awry, it can usually be attributed to either excessive freedom or excessive rigidity. Both extremes are anti-spiritual positions that keep sex from becoming the rejuvenating, soul-sustaining experience it has the potential to be.  In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Tammy Hill of the Live Your Why Podcast to discuss the divine gift of sexuality and the important role that our sexuality plays in our spiritual development. Listen to the full episode to learn more about:  *The divine gift of sexuality *How to create real connection through sexuality  *Theological principles of sexuality and joy  *The important balance of freedom and constraint  *The important connection between sexuality and spirituality 

In this special Valentine's Day edition of MormonLand, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, McArthur Krishna, and Bethany Brady Spalding join Peggy Fletcher Stack and David Noyce, hosts of the MormonLand Podcast, for a thoughtful discussion on the nature of Latter-day Saint marriages and an exploration of the content found in the recently released ebook "In the Image of Our Heavenly Parents: A Couple's Guide to Creating a More Divine Marriage." Listen to the full episodes to learn more about how couples can work together to create more heavenly marriages. You can purchase your copy of the book HERE. Be sure to use code JENNIFER10 to save $10 at checkout!

Just mentioning masturbation can make many of us uneasy. The word is charged in a way that often elicits fear, shame, and confusion, especially among those of us who grew up in a sexually conservative culture. But, In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Dan Purcell of the Get Your Marriage On podcast  (@getyourmarriageon) for a deep dive into the topic of masturbation. During the episode,  Dr. Jennifer explores the reasons why there is so much anxiety surrounding masturbation and offers insight on what we can do to make decisions around our sexuality that are wise and make us stronger. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * Helpful ways to think about the topic of masturbation. * Why labeling masturbation as “right” or “wrong” isn’t as clear as you think * How you can overcome sexual shame * Understanding and achieving sexual Integrity  * Increasing intimacy in marriage 

Human beings are sexual beings from birth. As such, children are naturally and rightfully curious about their growing bodies. While this curiosity and subsequent exploration manifests differently in toddlerhood, childhood, and adolescence--a parent's comfort level with this natural process will have a big impact on the child's relationship with sexuality. In this popular podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Taralynn of the Find the Magic Podcast to discuss what parents can do to help their children develop a healthy relationship with sexuality. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: Taking the shame, fear, and anxiety out of talking to kids about sex Normalizing sexuality Teaching our children to be deliberate and thoughtful in their choices about sexuality Handling toddler and pre-adolescent curiosity about embodiment and sexuality Modesty

**Dr. Finlayson-Fife will be hosting a Facebook Live for singles on January 27th at 1 PM MT, click HERE to join our Facebook Group so you can participate!**  When dealing with unwanted porn use or unwelcome sexual feelings, it’s easy to feel victimized by our environment and choices.  But it’s important to know that the way that we frame these behaviors MATTERS. Certain framing leaves us feeling powerless and that we have little control over our behavior. But when we shift to a more agentic frame and take deeper responsibility for our lives and choices, we open ourselves up to making decisions that are more in line with our higher selves. In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Taylor Chambers MS, LMFT to discuss unwanted porn use and how our framing of the behavior can make all the difference. They also discuss how honesty with ourselves and our partner can open us up to more sexual fulfillment and connection.   Listen to the full episode to learn more about: Addiction framing vs Agentic framing Sexuality as a mechanism for personal development Coming to peace with your sexuality Honesty and its role in our relationships Positive ways to respond to unwanted sexual thoughts/feelings Trust vs Trustworthiness 

**Join our Facebook Group HERE!** It takes emotional maturity to show up honestly in your life and expose what you really think, feel, and desire–especially when those thoughts and feelings diverge from the norms of your larger social group. The fear of not belonging can keep us from acknowledging who we really are. In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Sarah Carter of the Heart and Soul podcast to discuss the complexity of making room for your own thoughts and desires when you also belong to a family or larger group, and how unyielding expectations can interfere with self-acceptance, body acceptance, and honest relationships with others.  Listen to the full episode to learn more about: The importance of acknowledging our honest thoughts and desires Perfectionism Body Image  Developing compassion towards our limitations and the limitations of others Resentment 

Reconciling our desire to belong to ourselves and our desire to be in close relationship with another is a complicated process.  Making room in a relationship for two complete people, each with their own values, opinions, and priorities, is a complicated, painful, and remarkably worthwhile process–a process that will foster spiritual, emotional, and psychological development if we let it. In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr.Finlayson-Fife joins the Barbie Does Dating podcast discuss the complexities and joy that come from our most important and meaningful relationships.  Listen to the full episode to learn more about: *Differentiation in relationships *Finding connection despite differences *Negative patterns that interfere with growth & intimacy *How fear of rejection and fear of commitment relate to perfectionism,  low desire, and disinterest in dating  *The importance of using invalidating information to confront ourselves and grow *The benefits of being in a loving and committed relationship