Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses the loss of attraction in marriage due to habituation, boredom, and resentment, and offers advice on fostering attraction through gratitude, appreciation, and novelty. Topics include handling self-destructive habits, disappointment in appearance, unappealing personalities, and apathy towards health/hygiene.
Understanding the impact of habits and resentment on attraction in marriages.
Emphasizing the importance of gratitude and genuine connection to sustain attraction in relationships.
Deep dives
Importance of Attraction in Marriage
Attraction plays a pivotal role in thriving and intimate marriages. The podcast highlights how partners may not always feel attracted due to various reasons such as boredom, resentment, and lack of novelty. The discussion emphasizes on acknowledging and understanding the complexities of attraction within long-term relationships, focusing on maintaining intimacy and desire.
Cultivating and Sustaining Attraction
The podcast explores the importance of cherishing and valuing one's partner to maintain attraction. It delves into how habits, resentment, and self-perception can impact attraction levels within a relationship. By fostering self-confidence, gratitude, and genuine connection, individuals can enhance and sustain attraction in their marriages.
Facing Challenges in Attraction and Marriage
Challenges related to attraction in marriages, such as initial lack of attraction or changing dynamics over time, are addressed. The episode discusses the impact of honesty and integrity in acknowledging attraction issues within the relationship. It encourages open communication and self-reflection to navigate complexities and foster healthy attraction dynamics.
Overcoming Personal Struggles for a Stronger Marriage
The podcast addresses personal struggles affecting attraction, including issues related to body image and self-worth. By confronting underlying insecurities and critiquing behaviors, individuals can work towards building a deeper and more meaningful connection with their partners. Emphasis is placed on self-awareness, acceptance, and genuine efforts to improve marital intimacy.
In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife takes questions from her Facebook Group members on the nuanced and delicate topic of loss of attraction in marriage. In the discussion, Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses how habituation, boredom, and resentment can undermine attraction, and how gratitude, appreciation, and novelty can foster it.
She also expertly responds to questions like:
* What can I do if I was never attracted to my spouse?
* My spouse has developed self-destructive habits that are impacting my attraction, how can I address this?
* I am disappointed by certain aspects of my spouse's appearance, what can I do?
* I am physically attracted to my spouse, but their personality is unappealing, what can I do?
* My spouse is apathetic about their health / hygeine, how can I address this?
* Can I rekindle the attraction for my spouse that I once had?
You can watch the recording of this conversation HERE!
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