Conversations with Dr. Jennifer
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a sex and relationship expert who has been interviewed for hundreds of podcasts–and now you can access all the amazing content covering issues of faith, sexuality, integrity, belonging, and more right here on the interview archive!
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. Her teaching and coaching focus on helping LDS individuals and couples create greater connection and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships.
In addition to her private practice, Dr. Finlayson-Fife has created five empowering and highly-reviewed online courses. Each course was designed to give LDS individuals and couples the tools requisite to creating healthier lives and stronger intimate relationships. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also offers many workshops and retreats where she teaches these life-changing principles in person.
The advice offered through any and all podcasts in which she is featured is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. Her teaching and coaching focus on helping LDS individuals and couples create greater connection and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships.
In addition to her private practice, Dr. Finlayson-Fife has created five empowering and highly-reviewed online courses. Each course was designed to give LDS individuals and couples the tools requisite to creating healthier lives and stronger intimate relationships. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also offers many workshops and retreats where she teaches these life-changing principles in person.
The advice offered through any and all podcasts in which she is featured is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
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Jan 20, 2026 • 50min
When Good Women Stop Being Nice
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, dives into the pitfalls of being too nice. She distinguishes between compliance and genuine goodness, highlighting how prioritizing others' comfort can harm our relationships. Jennifer explores the impact of enmeshment in parenting and the importance of reclaiming our agency through understanding resentment. Plus, she shares insights on balancing ambition with motherhood and the power of authenticity in marriage.
Jan 13, 2026 • 17min
What Busy Parents Need to Know About Sex | Part 2
In Part 2 of Dr. Finlayson-Fife's conversation with Dr. Justin Coulson of the Happy Families Podcast, they discuss how couples can prioritize intimacy amidst the demands of parenting. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also tackles what to do when your child walks in on you during an intimate moment, offering age-appropriate language to help children make sense of what they saw without catastrophizing the experience.
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Jan 6, 2026 • 26min
What Busy Parents Need to Know About Sex | Part 1
Many of us have inherited cultural scripts that position men as the "main character" in sexuality while women exist to serve and support. This framework turns intimacy into work instead of play—and when sex becomes work, desire disappears.
In this conversation, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Dr. Justin Coulson of the Happy Families Podcast to discuss how our ideas about gender roles undermine genuine connection. The conversation unpacks why women's desire shuts down when sexuality is framed as caregiving, why tolerated sex creates resentment on both sides, and what has to shift if you want to move from dutiful encounters to the kind of passion and intimacy you're both craving.
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Dec 23, 2025 • 37min
Desire, Difference, and the Path to Intimacy - Part 2
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Development isn't a gentle process. Development often happens when our worldview shatters. And that shattering hurts, but it's what helps us develop a truer map of reality.
In this conversation with Taylor Church of the Of Stone and Clay Podcast, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife walks through her own marriage journey to illustrate what relational growth looks like. She shares how marriage revealed parts of herself she didn't want to see and how learning to stay in honest conflict has helped her relationship grow over the years. She also discusses how couples unknowingly co-create the dynamics they resent, and what it means to actually love and value your partner for who they are.
Dec 20, 2025 • 29min
Baby, It's Cold INside: How Critique Chills Connection | Room for Two Teaser
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Dec 17, 2025 • 52min
Desire, Difference, and the Path to Intimacy - Part 1
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, a renowned LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, offers deep insights on love and intimacy. She discusses the importance of sexual integration and the impact of shame on sexual experiences. Jennifer emphasizes that marriage challenges are growth opportunities, not failures. She contrasts spontaneous male desire with women's focus on quality and underscores the need for honest communication about sex. Her advice includes embracing authenticity over resentment in intimate relationships.
Dec 13, 2025 • 44min
Amor Incondicional y Sexo en Etapa 3 [Wholehearted Loving and Stage 3 Sex]
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, an expert in relationship and sexuality coaching with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, joins Dan Purcell for an insightful conversation. They delve into the three stages of sexual development, emphasizing the shift from self-focused pleasure to deep emotional connections. Jennifer shares the importance of appreciative touch and the courage to embrace vulnerability in intimacy. She also explores how erotic energy can invigorate relationships while balancing novelty and stability in marriage.
Dec 9, 2025 • 38min
Let's Talk Libido
In this insightful chat, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, teams up with Tammy Hill. They unravel the complexities of libido, emphasizing that sexual desire is fluid rather than fixed. Dr. Finlayson-Fife critiques the notion of predefined libido and shares how meanings around sex and relationships influence desire. She offers practical advice on navigating common challenges, like managing sexual entitlement and 'touched out' feelings, promoting a more enriching and connected sexual dynamic.
Nov 25, 2025 • 55min
Extended-Family Relationships | Q&A with Dr. Jennifer
The discussion dives into the complexities of extended-family dynamics during the holidays. Enmeshed relationships, like mother-son triangulation, are explored, alongside strategies for navigating intrusive in-laws. Listeners learn how to set boundaries and prioritize their marriages amidst family pressures. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also addresses coping with grief and the importance of shifting validation from family to partnership. The conversation emphasizes honest communication, self-validated intimacy, and protecting children from manipulation during challenging times.
Nov 18, 2025 • 45min
Understanding Sexual Shame
Jennifer Finlayson-Fyfe, a clinical psychologist and author specializing in relationships and sexuality, breaks down the origins of sexual shame. She explains how childhood experiences shape our desires and often distort our self-perception. Toxic shame can hinder intimacy, while healthy shame can motivate growth. Jennifer emphasizes the importance of integrating sexuality positively and fostering open, shame-free dialogues with children. She also explores how spiritual and sexual experiences can intertwine, advocating for self-compassion and acceptance.
