Conversations with Dr. Jennifer
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a sex and relationship expert who has been interviewed for hundreds of podcasts–and now you can access all the amazing content covering issues of faith, sexuality, integrity, belonging, and more right here on the interview archive!
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. Her teaching and coaching focus on helping LDS individuals and couples create greater connection and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships.
In addition to her private practice, Dr. Finlayson-Fife has created five empowering and highly-reviewed online courses. Each course was designed to give LDS individuals and couples the tools requisite to creating healthier lives and stronger intimate relationships. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also offers many workshops and retreats where she teaches these life-changing principles in person.
The advice offered through any and all podcasts in which she is featured is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. Her teaching and coaching focus on helping LDS individuals and couples create greater connection and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships.
In addition to her private practice, Dr. Finlayson-Fife has created five empowering and highly-reviewed online courses. Each course was designed to give LDS individuals and couples the tools requisite to creating healthier lives and stronger intimate relationships. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also offers many workshops and retreats where she teaches these life-changing principles in person.
The advice offered through any and all podcasts in which she is featured is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
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Jul 22, 2025 • 38min
What To Do When Things Need to Change in Your Relationship
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, joins to share her insights on relationship dynamics. She emphasizes that recognizing your role in current patterns is key to fostering change. The conversation touches on navigating tensions when partners seek change, the impact of traditional roles, and addressing resentment for growth. Dr. Finlayson-Fife advocates for self-awareness and honest communication as essential tools for creating deeper connection and passion in relationships.
Jul 1, 2025 • 31min
Be Bold, Be Brave: Healing After Divorce
In this NEW episode of the Phoenix Forte podcast, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife offers guidance for women navigating the emotional and spiritual work of healing after divorce, especially when infidelity has been involved. She discusses how disconnection from the body and sexuality is a tempting strategy—but one that ultimately keeps us from experiencing peace and connection with ourselves.
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Jun 17, 2025 • 54min
Neurodiversity in Relationships | Q&A with Dr. Jennifer
Explore the fascinating dynamics of neurodiverse relationships. Listen in as the host discusses how autism and ADHD shape intimacy, highlighting both the challenges and unique strengths involved. Personal stories showcase the value of embracing differences, while insights on self-awareness and collaboration offer practical tools for couples. Discover how compassion and empathy can build deeper connections, and learn about the significant contributions neurodiverse individuals bring to partnerships.
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Jun 11, 2025 • 1h 1min
Developing Strength | A Deep Dive on Masculinity
In this engaging discussion, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, dives deep into the complexities of masculinity. She redefines strength as the courage to confront uncomfortable truths and foster genuine connections. Key topics include the distinction between immature and mature masculinity, the importance of tolerating discomfort for growth, and how vulnerability can enhance relationships. Listeners gain insights into navigating feelings of unchosen and improving intimacy dynamics.
Jun 3, 2025 • 46min
What if Your Spouse Won't Choose You?
What do you do when you’ve faced yourself, stepped into clarity, and still… your spouse won’t (or can’t) lean into the relationship?
In this Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Greg and Amy Langford of the Undressing Intimacy podcast to talk about the painful reality many couples face: when you want more honesty, connection, and intimacy—and your partner doesn't seem to want the same.
This episode dives into the difficult soul work of learning to tolerate what we can’t control, teases out the difference between patience and clinging to false hope, and offers guidance on how we can handle disappointment in our relationship with maturity.
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May 20, 2025 • 1h 6min
How Can Leaders Talk About Sex Without Fueling Fear or Shame?
Sexuality is an important part of our spiritual and relational lives—but for many Latter-day Saints, it’s also a source of confusion and anxiety.
In this new episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Kurt Francom of the Leading Saints podcast to talk about how church leaders can best support their congregation in matters of sexuality—not by avoiding the topic or using fear-based messaging, but by offering a more hopeful, honest, and empowering vision of how our God-given sexuality can bless and enrich our lives.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
What healthy leadership around sexuality can look like
Why fear and shame don’t help people make better choices
How to talk with youth in ways that build confidence and self-respect
How healthy sexuality strengthens faith, integrity, and intimacy
May 14, 2025 • 50min
Fantasy [Q&A Discussion]
Discover the intriguing world of sexual fantasies and their impact on intimacy in relationships. Unpack why these thoughts often feel taboo, yet can enhance connection when discussed openly. Delve into the dynamics of trust and communication between partners, highlighting the line between healthy and harmful fantasies. Learn how sharing desires can strengthen bonds while navigating the potential pitfalls that come with misunderstandings. It's a fascinating discussion about vulnerability and emotional closeness in long-term relationships!
May 7, 2025 • 52min
Redefining Strength: The Power of Femininity in Relationships and Society
In this thought-provoking discussion, Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, sheds light on the often-misunderstood Divine Feminine. She challenges the misconception that femininity equals weakness, instead celebrating the resilience and nurturing qualities that strengthen relationships and communities. With insights drawn from personal stories, she emphasizes the importance of balance between feminine and masculine energies, and how embracing one's femininity can lead to deeper emotional connections and personal growth.
Apr 22, 2025 • 34min
Pornography Use: A New Perspective [Room for Two Teaser]
David has been battling a pornography compulsion for much of his life. He’s read the books, listened to the podcasts, joined the groups, and tried every program he could find. But despite his best efforts, his behavior continues.
The repeated use—and the cycle of disclosure that follows—has taken a toll on their marriage. David is upfront when he slips—but this is in the form of turning to Alexa for forgiveness and reassurance. When Alexa distances following his disclosure, he often grows impatient.
In this episode of Room for Two, Dr. Finlayson-Fife works with David and Alexa to better understand what’s keeping them stuck. She offers David a new perspective—that he would benefit from acknowledging the part of him that wants the escape of pornography, and that until he confronts that reality, genuine change will remain out of reach.
Subscribe to Room for Two to listen to the FULL episode (and the rest of the David and Alexa series)
Apr 15, 2025 • 56min
When Sex Isn't Easy [Q&A Discussion]
Many people long for more ease and passion in their sexual relationship—but unknowingly bring meanings to sex that interfere with both.
When sex becomes a duty to fulfill, a performance to manage, or a tool to reassure a partner, it loses the very energy that makes it feel alive. The pressure to produce intimacy, validation, or an orgasm can quietly unravel the conditions that desire needs in order to thrive.
In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife uses questions from her audience to unpack why so many of us struggle to feel ease and desire in our sexual relationship—and what we can do to can create a more soulful and passionate connection with our partner.
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