Conversations with Dr. Jennifer
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a sex and relationship expert who has been interviewed for hundreds of podcasts–and now you can access all the amazing content covering issues of faith, sexuality, integrity, belonging, and more right here on the interview archive!
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. Her teaching and coaching focus on helping LDS individuals and couples create greater connection and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships.
In addition to her private practice, Dr. Finlayson-Fife has created five empowering and highly-reviewed online courses. Each course was designed to give LDS individuals and couples the tools requisite to creating healthier lives and stronger intimate relationships. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also offers many workshops and retreats where she teaches these life-changing principles in person.
The advice offered through any and all podcasts in which she is featured is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. Her teaching and coaching focus on helping LDS individuals and couples create greater connection and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships.
In addition to her private practice, Dr. Finlayson-Fife has created five empowering and highly-reviewed online courses. Each course was designed to give LDS individuals and couples the tools requisite to creating healthier lives and stronger intimate relationships. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also offers many workshops and retreats where she teaches these life-changing principles in person.
The advice offered through any and all podcasts in which she is featured is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
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Dec 9, 2025 • 38min
Let's Talk Libido
In this insightful chat, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, teams up with Tammy Hill. They unravel the complexities of libido, emphasizing that sexual desire is fluid rather than fixed. Dr. Finlayson-Fife critiques the notion of predefined libido and shares how meanings around sex and relationships influence desire. She offers practical advice on navigating common challenges, like managing sexual entitlement and 'touched out' feelings, promoting a more enriching and connected sexual dynamic.
Nov 25, 2025 • 55min
Extended-Family Relationships | Q&A with Dr. Jennifer
The discussion dives into the complexities of extended-family dynamics during the holidays. Enmeshed relationships, like mother-son triangulation, are explored, alongside strategies for navigating intrusive in-laws. Listeners learn how to set boundaries and prioritize their marriages amidst family pressures. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also addresses coping with grief and the importance of shifting validation from family to partnership. The conversation emphasizes honest communication, self-validated intimacy, and protecting children from manipulation during challenging times.
Nov 18, 2025 • 45min
Understanding Sexual Shame
Jennifer Finlayson-Fyfe, a clinical psychologist and author specializing in relationships and sexuality, breaks down the origins of sexual shame. She explains how childhood experiences shape our desires and often distort our self-perception. Toxic shame can hinder intimacy, while healthy shame can motivate growth. Jennifer emphasizes the importance of integrating sexuality positively and fostering open, shame-free dialogues with children. She also explores how spiritual and sexual experiences can intertwine, advocating for self-compassion and acceptance.
Nov 11, 2025 • 30min
Afrontar el Conflicto [Coping With Conflict]
In this conversation, Anne Nelson, a relationship coach, shares insights on how couples can navigate conflict for deeper intimacy. She highlights that conflict is a natural part of relationships and a potential catalyst for growth. They discuss the dangers of avoidance, the impact of personality differences, and how negative patterns form. Jennifer provides practical strategies for dealing with difficult moments and emphasizes the importance of vulnerability. This dialogue encourages listeners to view marriage as a journey of personal development.
Nov 4, 2025 • 58min
When is it Time to Leave? | Q&A with Dr. Jennifer
Navigating the tricky waters of marriage can feel overwhelming, especially when considering whether to stay or leave. Dr. Jennifer tackles the challenges of indecision and false hope that often lead to resentment. She discusses the importance of self-honesty and moral courage in making these tough choices. Learn to distinguish between a partner's ability to change versus their willingness, and explore the complexities of parenting during separation. Ultimately, she emphasizes making choices that resonate with your integrity, even amidst loss.
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Oct 21, 2025 • 49min
Intimacy in Midlife
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a PhD in counseling psychology, shares insights specifically for women in midlife. She discusses how hormonal changes can reignite desire and the importance of expressing needs without pressure. Jennifer emphasizes reframing pleasure as a virtue, building intimacy through self-awareness, and understanding men's loneliness beyond sexual needs. Her practical advice encourages women to take charge of their pleasure, fostering deeper connections in their marriages.
Oct 14, 2025 • 56min
We Need to Talk About Pornography
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, a clinical psychologist specializing in sexuality and relationships, joins Lauren Yarrow to tackle the often taboo topic of pornography. They discuss how fear-based teachings contribute to sexual shame and conflict in relationships. Dr. Finlayson-Fife emphasizes that pornography is a symptom of deeper issues rather than a sole cause of problems. She advocates for open discussions about desire and offers insights on how to respond to children and partners regarding porn use, ultimately promoting honesty and intimacy.
Oct 9, 2025 • 44min
Intimacy Beyond Validation
Relationships feel easy when things are going well—when we feel understood and everything between us feels steady. They’re much harder when we’re frustrated, disappointed, or misunderstood. Yet it’s in those moments of friction and honest conflict that we’re invited to grow—to become wiser, more grounded, and more capable of real love.
In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Monica Tanner to share insights from
That We Might Have Joy and explore how conflict in marriage isn’t a sign that something’s gone wrong, but part of the very process through which deeper intimacy and peace take shape.
**Join us for Date Night With Dr. Jennifer! **
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Sep 30, 2025 • 1h 3min
Shame and Suppression | The Silent Struggle of Men
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, a marriage therapist and author of *That We Might Have Joy*, explores the complexities of intimacy and desire in marriages. She discusses how repression can lead to obsession and the struggle men face with shame around sexuality. Jennifer emphasizes the importance of reframing sexuality as sacred and encourages self-awareness in relationships. She also addresses childhood influences on sexual beliefs and the need for honest communication to foster intimacy without pressure, creating a more fulfilling connection.
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Sep 17, 2025 • 36min
Reconciling Spirituality and Sexuality
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fyfe, a clinical psychologist and author, dives deep into the intersection of spirituality and sexuality. She challenges traditional teachings that portray the body and pleasure as threats. Instead, she offers a refreshing perspective, advocating that sexuality can enhance marital intimacy and connection with the divine. Dr. Finlayson-Fyfe also explores the importance of agency, reframing chastity as a protective framework rather than a punitive rule. Her insights aim to empower individuals to embrace healthy sexuality integrated with their faith.
