Conversations with Dr. Jennifer Let's Talk Libido
Dec 9, 2025
In this insightful chat, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, teams up with Tammy Hill. They unravel the complexities of libido, emphasizing that sexual desire is fluid rather than fixed. Dr. Finlayson-Fife critiques the notion of predefined libido and shares how meanings around sex and relationships influence desire. She offers practical advice on navigating common challenges, like managing sexual entitlement and 'touched out' feelings, promoting a more enriching and connected sexual dynamic.
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Why Desire Differences Entrench
- Desire differences often become entrenched because partners react and polarize to defend their sense of self.
- Polarization raises desire in one partner and lowers it in the other, making the pattern hard to disrupt.
Meaning Drives Female Initiation
- Women can initiate sexual activity without first feeling embodied arousal because desire can be driven by meaning.
- Embodied arousal and psychological desire are distinct and influenced by safety and context for women.
Libido Is Not Destiny
- 'Libido' suggests fixed, out-of-control drives, which hides the meanings shaping desire.
- People can grow sexual capacity instead of labeling themselves permanently high or low desire.
