**Click HERE to learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife's Enhancing Sexual Intimacy course** Many of us have been taught the misguided idea that to be virtuous we must be desireless. Not all desires are created equal, and there is an important distinction to be made between our lower and higher desires. Lower desires are driven by our ego—they are self-serving, driven by our need to feel good, and are antithetical to spiritual development. Higher desires, on the other hand, encourage our growth and expansion, these are the desires that promote our development and increase our ability to love those around us. The pursuit of our higher desires is not only worthwhile, it’s imperative to our psychological, emotional, and spiritual development. In this episode, I joined Ryan and Jordan, hosts of The Stoic Dad podcast, to discuss the difference between higher and lower desires, the important distinction between wants and desires, productive and unproductive suffering, as well as what defines mature masculinity and the dynamics of attraction.

Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, joins the discussion on intimacy during pregnancy and postpartum. She highlights how emotional and physical changes can strain connections but emphasizes that self-regulation and compassion can bridge gaps. Key topics include transforming resentment into empowerment, embracing body changes, and the importance of self-acceptance. Dr. Finlayson-Fife offers insights on harnessing intimacy and nurturing support during this transformative journey of parenthood.

In this engaging discussion, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, a renowned therapist specializing in relationship and sexuality counseling, shares her insights on marriage dynamics. She explores the transition from passion to duty, emphasizing how cultural narratives can impact intimacy. Jennifer introduces the concept of Eros as a divine longing for deeper connection, advocating for honest communication and vulnerability to rekindle relationships. Her practical advice and fresh perspectives offer listeners valuable tools for nurturing love and personal growth.

**Click HERE to learn more about our 2023 Art of Loving Retreat (for men)** In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Richard Ostler to discuss the experiences in her early life that shaped her personal, professional, and spiritual journey—including her shift from following cultural expectations to following her own heart and desires.  Listen to the full episode to learn more about: -Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s personal, professional, and spiritual journey -Boundaries  -Spiritual Maturity  -Self-Definition  -Obedience vs Integrity 

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a relationship and sexuality coach specializing in helping LDS individuals and couples. She emphasizes the importance of normalizing sexual feelings and desires, particularly among youth. The discussion highlights the need for clear communication about intimacy, emotional infidelity, and gender roles within the Latter-day Saint community. Dr. Finlayson-Fife advocates for sexual agency and self-empowerment, encouraging individuals to bravely own their sexuality while fostering healthier relationships.