Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

Many of those who develop a compulsive relationship with pornography aren’t just looking for sexual gratification—they’re looking for a type of relief.  These are often people who appear most put together on the outside—the responsible student, the dedicated churchgoer, the child who carries the family’s expectations. With little space to process stress or be truly known, pornography becomes a tempting, private escape from the pressures of life. But over time, this creates a growing divide between their public persona and private reality, reinforcing shame and deepening their sense of fracture and isolation. This pattern often carries into marriage, where rather than risk the exposures of real intimacy and connection with a spouse, porn continues to be an easy escape.  In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Taylor Chambers to discuss how we can turn challenges related to pornography into opportunities for personal and relational growth. They explore the systemic issues that contribute to porn use, the impact that unwanted porn use has on marriages, and how we can use conflict and crisis in our relationships as opportunities to learn more about ourselves and create meaningful growth in our capacity for real intimacy. _________ In the episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses the Zach and Kelly Room for Two series. Subscribe to Room for Two to listen to the entire 7-episode series! Dr. Finlayson-Fife also mentions her upcoming Art of Loving Retreat in St. George, Utah. You can join the interest list for that retreat HERE.

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, discusses the transformative journey of women in midlife. She highlights how physical changes can lead to a deeper understanding of self and relationships. The conversation delves into sexuality during menopause, urging open communication to enhance intimacy. They also explore balancing personal identities with nurturing relationships and the power of self-acceptance in fostering growth and authenticity in this pivotal stage of life.

Discover what keeps the spark alive in long-term marriages. It’s all about authentic connection, not just new tricks in the bedroom. Learn how self-acceptance and open communication can deepen intimacy. The complexities of women's sexuality are explored, emphasizing playfulness and genuine connections. The discussion encourages couples to cultivate desire while resisting societal pressures. This engaging Q&A delves into the heart of what it means to truly know and be known by your partner.

Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, a relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, dives into maintaining intimacy amidst the chaos of adult life. She discusses how intimacy goes beyond intercourse, emphasizing self-acceptance as crucial for healthy connections. The conversation tackles the effects of anxiety and antidepressants on desire, and offers insights on 'fighting fair' in marriage. Finlayson-Fife encourages couples to prioritize their partnership, allowing sexuality to flourish in everyday moments.

Talking to kids about sex isn't easy, but it's essential. Children look to parents for guidance in understanding their sexuality. Open discussions show that parents care and can tackle tough subjects. Insights on fostering a continuous and honest dialogue empower kids to make informed choices about their bodies and relationships. Parents are encouraged to embrace these conversations, promoting respect and a healthy grasp of evolving sexual identities.

Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, dives into the complexities of modesty and sexuality. She discusses how cultural misunderstandings shape perceptions of modesty and emphasizes mutual responsibility between genders. The conversation highlights the significance of teaching children about their sexuality in a positive light, promoting self-respect, and personal expression. Together, they explore the joys and challenges of raising daughters and the importance of fostering open communication about body positivity and individuality.

Explore the turbulent waters of betrayal trauma and the difficult path of rebuilding trust after intimate deception. Discover how accountability from the unfaithful partner plays a crucial role in healing. Delve into the emotional impact of infidelity and the hurdles posed by fear and anxiety during recovery. Learn practical strategies for navigating these challenges and fostering personal growth in relationships.

**Join us for the Strengthening Your Relationship Retreat!** One of our most challenging tasks as parents is to keep track of what our responsibilities are as our children grow. Stepping back as they mature and allowing them the space to sort out their own lives and path can be incredibly difficult, especially if you are concerned that their choices will have a negative impact on their well-being. In our fear and worry for them, it can be easy to mistake manipulation with love. In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Tina Gosney of the "Coaching Your Family Relationships" podcast to discuss some of the challenges that parents face when their child steps away from family faith traditions and how parents can best support and love their children, even when their worldviews diverge.

This holiday-themed discussion tackles the emotional challenges of family dynamics during the festive season. It dives into the tension arising from differing values and expectations, highlighting the need for compassion and emotional composure. Strategies for productive communication and conflict resolution are emphasized, alongside a focus on maintaining intimacy in relationships. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their interactions and prioritize understanding as they navigate holiday gatherings.

Ashlyn Mitchell, host of the This Is Ashlynn podcast, dives into the complexities women face after betrayal. She emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and inner peace in healing one’s relationship with sexuality. The conversation tackles how societal and religious influences shape our sexual perspectives and the emotional struggles that arise in reclaiming identity post-betrayal. Ashlyn also highlights transformative intimacy through self-reflection and communication, offering insights on personal growth and the therapeutic journey to intimacy.