Conversations with Dr. Jennifer
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a sex and relationship expert who has been interviewed for hundreds of podcasts–and now you can access all the amazing content covering issues of faith, sexuality, integrity, belonging, and more right here on the interview archive!
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. Her teaching and coaching focus on helping LDS individuals and couples create greater connection and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships.
In addition to her private practice, Dr. Finlayson-Fife has created five empowering and highly-reviewed online courses. Each course was designed to give LDS individuals and couples the tools requisite to creating healthier lives and stronger intimate relationships. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also offers many workshops and retreats where she teaches these life-changing principles in person.
The advice offered through any and all podcasts in which she is featured is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. Her teaching and coaching focus on helping LDS individuals and couples create greater connection and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships.
In addition to her private practice, Dr. Finlayson-Fife has created five empowering and highly-reviewed online courses. Each course was designed to give LDS individuals and couples the tools requisite to creating healthier lives and stronger intimate relationships. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also offers many workshops and retreats where she teaches these life-changing principles in person.
The advice offered through any and all podcasts in which she is featured is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
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Jun 3, 2025 • 46min
What if Your Spouse Won't Choose You?
What do you do when you’ve faced yourself, stepped into clarity, and still… your spouse won’t (or can’t) lean into the relationship?
In this Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Greg and Amy Langford of the Undressing Intimacy podcast to talk about the painful reality many couples face: when you want more honesty, connection, and intimacy—and your partner doesn't seem to want the same.
This episode dives into the difficult soul work of learning to tolerate what we can’t control, teases out the difference between patience and clinging to false hope, and offers guidance on how we can handle disappointment in our relationship with maturity.
Click HERE to learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife's relationship and sexuality courses for couples!
May 20, 2025 • 1h 6min
How Can Leaders Talk About Sex Without Fueling Fear or Shame?
Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, joins to discuss the complexities of sexuality within Latter-day Saint culture. She emphasizes the need for church leaders to address sexuality openly, promoting a hopeful and empowering narrative. They explore how fear and shame hinder healthy choices, the importance of teaching youth self-respect, and how understanding one's sexual identity can strengthen relationships and faith. A must-listen for those seeking healthier conversations around intimacy!
May 14, 2025 • 50min
Fantasy [Q&A Discussion]
Discover the intriguing world of sexual fantasies and their impact on intimacy in relationships. Unpack why these thoughts often feel taboo, yet can enhance connection when discussed openly. Delve into the dynamics of trust and communication between partners, highlighting the line between healthy and harmful fantasies. Learn how sharing desires can strengthen bonds while navigating the potential pitfalls that come with misunderstandings. It's a fascinating discussion about vulnerability and emotional closeness in long-term relationships!
May 7, 2025 • 52min
Redefining Strength: The Power of Femininity in Relationships and Society
In this thought-provoking discussion, Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, sheds light on the often-misunderstood Divine Feminine. She challenges the misconception that femininity equals weakness, instead celebrating the resilience and nurturing qualities that strengthen relationships and communities. With insights drawn from personal stories, she emphasizes the importance of balance between feminine and masculine energies, and how embracing one's femininity can lead to deeper emotional connections and personal growth.
Apr 22, 2025 • 34min
Pornography Use: A New Perspective [Room for Two Teaser]
David has been battling a pornography compulsion for much of his life. He’s read the books, listened to the podcasts, joined the groups, and tried every program he could find. But despite his best efforts, his behavior continues.
The repeated use—and the cycle of disclosure that follows—has taken a toll on their marriage. David is upfront when he slips—but this is in the form of turning to Alexa for forgiveness and reassurance. When Alexa distances following his disclosure, he often grows impatient.
In this episode of Room for Two, Dr. Finlayson-Fife works with David and Alexa to better understand what’s keeping them stuck. She offers David a new perspective—that he would benefit from acknowledging the part of him that wants the escape of pornography, and that until he confronts that reality, genuine change will remain out of reach.
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Apr 15, 2025 • 56min
When Sex Isn't Easy [Q&A Discussion]
Many people long for more ease and passion in their sexual relationship—but unknowingly bring meanings to sex that interfere with both.
When sex becomes a duty to fulfill, a performance to manage, or a tool to reassure a partner, it loses the very energy that makes it feel alive. The pressure to produce intimacy, validation, or an orgasm can quietly unravel the conditions that desire needs in order to thrive.
In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife uses questions from her audience to unpack why so many of us struggle to feel ease and desire in our sexual relationship—and what we can do to can create a more soulful and passionate connection with our partner.
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Apr 8, 2025 • 59min
Courageous Conversations
It's hard to know how to address doubts, concerns, or frustrations about the church, especially because we tend to link "goodness" with being unquestioning.
Many worry that sharing their experiences or voicing their concerns will be misconstrued as a lack of faith or a full rejection of the gospel. The temptation is to stay silent in an effort to preserve harmony—or to speak up but in ways that ultimately shut down understanding, but neither of these approaches allow for the type of meaningful conversations that are requisite for creating positive change.
In this powerful conversation, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Amy Watkins Jensen of Women on the Stand to discuss how women can engage in meaningful and honest conversations about their experiences in the Church and how daring to do so is what will allow us to create more honest and inclusive faith communities.
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Apr 1, 2025 • 53min
The Dangers of Duty Sex [Q&A Discussion]
When sex feels like an obligation rather than a choice, it erodes intimacy, fosters resentment, and leaves partners feeling distant and disconnected.
In this powerful Q&A discussion, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife explores the complexities of "duty sex" including what drives it and the detrimental impact it has on relationships. She discusses the powerful meanings we attach to sex, and how these meanings can either undermine desire by creating a sense of obligation or foster connection through choice and mutual desire. She offers insight into how both higher and lower-desire partners can step away from patterns of pressure and compliance and cultivate a more fulfilling sexual relationship built on mutual desire, authentic connection, and a sense of being truly chosen.
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Mar 25, 2025 • 42min
The Divinity of Desire
In this discussion, Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, challenges the cultural narratives that compel women to suppress their sexuality for spiritual acceptance. She emphasizes the need for women to reclaim their sexual identity and desires, which can enhance connection in relationships. They delve into the impact of menopause, societal pressures, and how embracing sexuality promotes self-respect, ultimately offering a roadmap for women to achieve fulfillment in love and intimacy.
Mar 18, 2025 • 38min
Dan (and Marie) in Real Life: How Honesty Opens the Door to Intimacy [Room for Two Teaser!]
Dan and Marie were happy enough in their marriage, until they started listening to Room for Two.
Listening to the Dave and Carly series woke them up to the fact that even though their marriage was peaceful and good, it wasn’t as honest as they had believed it to be, and they wanted to create something better. So they got to work – listened to podcasts, worked through courses, and even attended a couples’ workshop. Their efforts to bring more honesty and authenticity to the marriage paid off and they caught occasional glimpses of what their relationship was really capable of, but...
old habits die hard, and despite the progress, they often find themselves slipping into their familiar pattern of trying to manage how they are seen and experienced, which leaves their sexual engagement feeling lackluster and “vanilla.”
In this episode of Room for Two, Dr. Jennifer works with Dan and Marie to help them better understand what their intimate relationship is exposing about their relational dynamic, and how honesty and authenticity will open the door for them to create the spark and passion that they long for.
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