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Lisa Bilyeu and intimacy expert Shan Boodram continue their deep dive into the art of seduction—moving from the signature personalities like “the Star” and “the Centerfold,” to building enduring wow factor and how to keep attraction alive in long-term relationships. Shan reveals how confidence is built not through massive, overwhelming change, but small “rivers of confidence” that are unique to your culture, personal style, and chosen sexual icon. Lisa and Shan discuss aging, attracting as your most authentic self, avoiding society’s ageist traps, and how to ground self-worth outside of fleeting appearance or sex appeal. They close with a frank conversation about the “seven year itch,” explaining why we lose the spark in relationships and exactly what to do about it—drawing from the latest science and real-world intimacy wisdom. Shan leaves listeners with practical, transformational advice on sexual self-ownership, pleasure, and how to reignite connection—both with your partner and yourself. SHOWNOTES35:02 The Centerfold — Gender-Bending, Nonconformity & Seductive Uniqueness45:16 How to Identify Your Unique Seduction Strengths56:00 Shan on Aging, Sexiness, and Sade as Her Next Icon1:06:39 The Work of Relationships: Keeping the Wow Factor Alive1:15:45 Shan’s Resources, Masterclass, and Where to Find Her FOLLOW SHAN BOODRAM:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodramTwitter: https://twitter.com/shanboodramWebsite: https://www.shanboodram.com/ CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out.  SleepMe: Visit ⁠⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠⁠ OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠⁠ ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠⁠ ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠⁠ Twitter: ⁠⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this empowering first half of our two-part episode, host Lisa Bilyeu welcomes Shan Boodram—a certified intimacy expert, sexologist, author, and host—to unpack the art and science of seduction for women. Shan isn’t your average sexologist; she's here to debunk myths around seduction and reveal why true connection goes far deeper than any superficial tricks. Drawing inspiration from Robert Greene’s The Art of Seduction and her own clinical research, Shan shares the nine proven ways women can be highly seductive—and why each one works. As Lisa and Shan dive in, they reveal everything from the power of first impressions and the psychology behind the “siren,” to the overlooked potency of genuine interest and playing to your personal strengths. They also shine a light on the darker side of seduction—manipulation—and share actionable tips on building authentic confidence, owning your sexuality, and breaking free from societal norms. Whether you’re looking to harness your inner charm or simply show up more powerfully in your relationships, this episode is your blueprint. SHOWNOTES00:00 Introduction: Meet Shan Boodram, Intimacy Expert & Sexologist01:30 First Impressions: Warmth + Competence Formula12:45 Addiction, Inconsistent Reward, and the Sunk-Cost Fallacy21:55 How Your Inner Child Energy Attracts Others30:04 The Croquette — Mystery, Teasing, and Negging32:29 Living Apart Together: Creating Mystery in Relationships FOLLOW SHAN BOODRAM:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodramTwitter: https://twitter.com/shanboodramWebsite: https://www.shanboodram.com/ CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out.  SleepMe: Visit ⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠ OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In a lively conversation, Jenna Kutcher, a dynamic CEO and mom, shares her journey from feeling stuck to embracing authenticity. She tackles the pressures of societal 'shoulds' and the dangers of numbing emotions. Jenna emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and setting boundaries to align with personal desires. Highlighting the value of vulnerability, she encourages women to confront their hidden feelings and create safe spaces for honest dialogue. This chat is a much-needed pep talk for anyone looking to reclaim their narrative.

In this enlightening conversation, bestselling author and speaker Melissa Ambrosini shares her personal battles with comparison, stemming from her intense dance career to the challenges of motherhood. She explains the societal triggers amplifying body image issues, particularly on social media. Melissa introduces her four-step ACES framework, a practical tool to help listeners break free from self-comparison spirals. With raw honesty, she discusses infertility, self-acceptance, and the importance of fostering a nurturing environment for generations to come.

Lindsey Stirling, a dancing hip-hop violinist with over 3 billion YouTube views, shares her inspirational journey of resilience. She talks about facing rejection on national television and the struggle with self-doubt. Lindsey opens up about her battle with anorexia, revealing the importance of self-love and healing. Listeners will find nuggets of wisdom on overcoming negative self-talk and embracing personal growth. She emphasizes the need to reshape our narratives and find strength in vulnerability, ultimately encouraging a journey towards authentic self-acceptance.

Join licensed therapist and boundary-building expert Nedra Glover Tawwab as she uncovers the subtle signs of gaslighting in relationships. With her insightful advice, she discusses how to spot manipulation, the importance of confidence in setting boundaries, and the hidden costs of incessant apologies. Nedra also shares her journey to stop self-blame and emphasizes the critical difference between assertiveness and aggression. This conversation is packed with practical strategies to reclaim your peace and assert your worth in toxic dynamics.

In this engaging discussion, Dr. Thema Bryant, a psychologist and trauma expert, dives into the vital themes of forgiveness and self-compassion. She clarifies the difference between genuine forgiveness and forced reconciliation, emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries for peace. Dr. Thema also navigates the complexities of dating after heartbreak, highlighting not just red flags but also the green lights for healthy relationships. With practical advice from her book, she guides listeners on building authentic connections and prioritizing self-love.

Dr. Thema Bryant, a psychologist and the current President of the American Psychological Association, joins Lisa Bilyeu to discuss reclaiming your sense of self after heartbreak. They dive into the importance of confronting pain instead of avoiding it and the dangers of waiting for apologies. Dr. Thema emphasizes narrative therapy as a tool for reshaping personal stories, advocates for self-validation over external approval, and highlights the significance of surrounding yourself with supportive people to foster genuine healing and growth.

In this enlightening discussion, Dr. Nicole LePera, The Holistic Psychologist and author of 'How to Do the Work,' dives into the realities of self-sabotage and the hidden habits that undermine confidence. She defines self-betrayal and explains how overthinking limits personal growth. Dr. LePera offers practical strategies for breaking free from negative thought patterns and building self-awareness. With her compassionate approach, she guides listeners on reconnecting with their inner voice and setting achievable goals for transformational change.

Julia Haart, entrepreneur and author of 'Brazen,' shares her inspiring journey from a life of subservience to empowerment. She discusses breaking free from limiting beliefs instilled by her upbringing, emphasizing that true confidence comes from courage, not the absence of fear. With candid reflections, Julia reveals the importance of small rebellions against societal norms and how her daughter's bravery fueled her transformation. She also touches on the ongoing struggle with people-pleasing and the necessity of redefining one’s personal narrative.