Women of Impact The "Soft Boy" Trap: 7 Signs He’s Using Vulnerability to Control You | Dr. Ramani PT1
Jan 28, 2026
Dr. Ramani, clinical psychologist and narcissism expert, breaks down the “soft boy” mask and vulnerable narcissism. She highlights DARVO tactics, the resentful martyr pattern, and the universal sign of no real accountability. Short, sharp takes on how public charm hides private manipulation and why indifference can reclaim your power.
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Soft Boy Narcissism Is Deceptive
- Vulnerable "soft boy" narcissists present as emotionally open and safe but weaponize that vulnerability later.
- Their vulnerability masks entitlement, resentment, and passive-aggressive control until they're triggered.
Give Yourself A Year To Heal
- Take at least a year off after a narcissistic relationship to process sticky residue and avoid reactionary dating.
- Use that time to heal self-abandonment patterns before dating again.
Resentful Martyr Uses Help As Currency
- The resentful martyr gives unwanted help to gain validation and expects public gratitude as payment.
- If gratitude isn't lavish, they punish, hold grudges, and wield moral superiority.