The Baggage Reclaim Sessions

When we've just started talking to, dating or going out with somebody and feel anxious about something, it's not uncommon to do a spot of columboing, snooping around their profile to see if they're following 'hot' or 'sexy' people or even their ex. Natalie talks about how we can wind up putting ourselves between a rock and a hard place with our columboing and what we can do when we don't like our discoveries. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Discover the intriguing concept of how focusing on a single trait in romantic partners can lead to blind spots. Natalie explores the pitfalls of shorthand assumptions that distort perceptions of character. She introduces the polar opposites game, revealing how choosing partners based on opposing traits can repeat old patterns. The discussion emphasizes the importance of core values and emotional needs in compatibility, while also highlighting the danger of unconsciously seeking out parental replicas. Learn how to break these cycles for healthier relationships!

It's easy to assume that the reason you're still thinking about someone (or something) because it means you're still crazy about them, mad with them, or that you're still invested in the situation. Actually, there's another reason why, and Natalie breaks this down in this week's episode. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie talks about why we don't have to become drained, resentful or burnt out from supporting others. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Navigating life’s problems can feel overwhelming, especially when we believe we shouldn’t have any. Exploring why this mindset creates more issues, the discussion highlights that challenges are human and pivotal for growth. Habits like people-pleasing often stem from fear and can perpetuate cycles of difficulty. Personal stories reveal how childhood perceptions shape adult relationships. Ultimately, flexible and compassionate thinking is encouraged to break free from old patterns and embrace life’s complexities.

Natalie talks about when somebody attempts to erase the past by acting as if it didn't happen and trying to pick up where they [decided they] left off. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

So many of us fear that we are 'needy' and so settle for less than what we need, desire and deserve. We also may have been called it by someone else, and it's left a mark. Natalie dives into the truth about 'neediness'. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie talks about why our attempt to be giving or to make amends can backfire if our actions cross boundaries. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Explore how context shapes our perceptions of others. Discover why our experiences vary, like a dog's behavior around different people. Learn about the red flags we often overlook and the role of boundaries in relationships. Natalie highlights how authority affects assertiveness in the workplace and the nuances of code switching in different environments. She emphasizes accepting that others may lack your context, reminding us that understanding takes time and patience in relationships.

When somebody fakes a future to get what they want in the present, the disappointment, confusion, self-doubt and sense of rejection can leave us reeling and distrusting. Natalie revisits Future Faking and why we must, ultimately, be careful of deceiving ourselves. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop