The Baggage Reclaim Sessions

Natalie explains why downplaying the truth or significance of something—minimising—whether it's who we are and what we need or other people's asks, expectations or behaviour, leads to big problems. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Plenty of us are a little bit too used to blaming ourselves for other people's feelings and behaviour and determining that we're not 'good enough'. But not everything is about us, and in this week's episode, Natalie breaks down the trouble with inverted narcissism. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Explore how childhood chaos can lead to controlling behaviors in relationships and the unexpected resentment that follows. Discover the pitfalls of choosing dominant or overly passive partners and how that affects emotional balance. Natalie shares insights on the rescuer role and the physical and emotional toll of holding tight to control. Learn to identify signs of controlling habits and the importance of self-compassion in unlearning these patterns. It’s a deep dive into understanding the baggage that influences our connections.

Natalie talks about how and why we put ourselves under pressure about taking care of ourselves and shares tips for breaking this perfectionism habit so that we don't have unrealistic expectations of self-care that cause us more harm than good. This is the last episode of the summer, and Natalie will be back on September 10th 2021. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

When we've just started talking to, dating or going out with somebody and feel anxious about something, it's not uncommon to do a spot of columboing, snooping around their profile to see if they're following 'hot' or 'sexy' people or even their ex. Natalie talks about how we can wind up putting ourselves between a rock and a hard place with our columboing and what we can do when we don't like our discoveries. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Discover the intriguing concept of how focusing on a single trait in romantic partners can lead to blind spots. Natalie explores the pitfalls of shorthand assumptions that distort perceptions of character. She introduces the polar opposites game, revealing how choosing partners based on opposing traits can repeat old patterns. The discussion emphasizes the importance of core values and emotional needs in compatibility, while also highlighting the danger of unconsciously seeking out parental replicas. Learn how to break these cycles for healthier relationships!

It's easy to assume that the reason you're still thinking about someone (or something) because it means you're still crazy about them, mad with them, or that you're still invested in the situation. Actually, there's another reason why, and Natalie breaks this down in this week's episode. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie talks about why we don't have to become drained, resentful or burnt out from supporting others. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Navigating life’s problems can feel overwhelming, especially when we believe we shouldn’t have any. Exploring why this mindset creates more issues, the discussion highlights that challenges are human and pivotal for growth. Habits like people-pleasing often stem from fear and can perpetuate cycles of difficulty. Personal stories reveal how childhood perceptions shape adult relationships. Ultimately, flexible and compassionate thinking is encouraged to break free from old patterns and embrace life’s complexities.

Natalie talks about when somebody attempts to erase the past by acting as if it didn't happen and trying to pick up where they [decided they] left off. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop