The Sabrina Zohar Show

Are you dating someone because it feels “good enough”… or because it actually feels good? In this episode, Sabrina takes a no-BS look at what it really means to “settle” in dating and relationships — and why it’s often less of a conscious choice and more of a nervous system pattern. Whether you’re single, stuck in a situationship, or already in a long-term relationship, this episode helps you understand the neuroscience behind why we stay, even when we know we shouldn’t — and how to shift that. From the Default Mode Network to dopamine loops in the ventral striatum, we’re unpacking how your brain keeps you chasing the familiar instead of choosing what’s right for you. You’ll learn how to identify if you're operating from cognitive dissonance, why secure people might feel boring at first, and how to build real self-trust that leads to better decisions in love. Plus, Sabrina gives you practical tools like the “Pattern Disrupt” and “Pause Before the High” methods to help you rewire your relationship patterns and finally choose yourself — whether that means raising your standards in dating or getting honest in your current partnership. This is your blueprint for breaking the cycle and building something real. MERCH IS NOW AVAILABLE! Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Do you feel like your emotions run the show and react in ways you can’t control? Join the Nervous System 101: Navigating the Unknowns In Early Dating from Sabrina and Masha Kay HERE! Struggling with a breakup? Join the Make It Make Sense: Getting Through a Breakup course from Sabrina and Britt Frank HERE! Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! You can focus on the care your pet deserves and cover what matters most. Explore coverage options for your pet with ASPCA Pet Health Insurance HERE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

In this entertaining discussion, comedian Nicole Byer shares her hilarious and relatable takes on modern dating mishaps. She and the host explore the frustrations of breadcrumbing and emotional chaos in relationships. They delve into why the 'cool girl' never wins, the pitfalls of settling, and how to navigate long-distance connections. With humor and honesty, they encourage listeners to value self-worth and set boundaries while dating, making the complexities of love feel a bit lighter and much more accessible.

In this enlightening conversation, neuroscientist Nicole Vignola, an expert on brain patterns and emotional experiences, reveals why we fixate on people who hurt us. She explores the role of dopamine in creating obsessive loops and how childhood attachment styles influence our adult relationships. Listeners will learn practical techniques for breaking these cycles, including self-compassion and cognitive reframing. Nicole also discusses the challenges of modern digital interactions and offers strategies for regaining control and fostering healthier connections.

Sabrina's mother joins the conversation, offering a unique perspective on Sabrina's dating journey and the anxiety that shaped it. They discuss the impact of anxious attachment on relationships and the importance of self-awareness. Insights on navigating love versus infatuation highlight personal growth and healing. The episode delves into overcoming childhood patterns, the emotional rollercoaster of dating, and the necessity of emotional validation. Their candid dialogue transforms heartbreak into a masterclass on self-acceptance and breaking free from unhealthy relationship patterns.

Joining the conversation is Jessica Maguire, a nervous system educator who guides individuals in reconnecting with their bodies and regulating emotional responses, especially in dating. They discuss how nervous system signals drive anxious thoughts—like spiraling after perfect dates or feeling tense over missed texts. Jessica shares tools to differentiate between intuition and trauma responses, emphasizing the journey of emotional regulation and the importance of safety in relationships. Listeners learn strategies to cultivate healthier connections and reclaim control over their love lives.

This raw discussion dives into four hard truths about dating that most avoid. Discover why you might not be as ready for love as you think, and how emotional maturity plays a crucial role. The intricate relationship between chemistry and chaos is explored, along with the importance of timing. Personal stories highlight the rollercoaster of modern romance, emphasizing self-acceptance amid disappointment. Learn practical techniques to build emotional resilience after heartbreak, urging listeners to prioritize their own needs and rewrite their dating narratives.

Ever felt trapped in a relationship that just isn’t progressing? Discover why you're clinging onto crumbs and how to break free from self-abandonment. The hosts dive into listener stories about long-distance love and two-year entanglements without commitment. Gain insights on navigating emotionally unavailable partners and the importance of clear communication. Plus, learn how to craft an authentic dating profile that reflects your true self and fosters genuine connections. It's a raw and refreshing conversation for anyone feeling stuck in the dating game.

Discover how to navigate emotional triggers in relationships without spiraling into chaos. Learn powerful techniques for emotional regulation, like the 90-Second Rule and the STOP Method. Explore personal stories that highlight the impact of childhood programming on adult reactions. Gain insights from experts on maintaining clarity and empathy, even during conflicts. This transformative discussion empowers you to pause, process, and respond thoughtfully, helping you break free from old patterns and build healthier connections.

Dr. Morgan Cutlip, a psychologist and author specializing in relationships, dives deep into the silent killers of connection: resentment, unmet needs, and unrealistic expectations. She shares how these patterns sneak into relationships and offers strategies for expressing needs without guilt. The discussion emphasizes the power of vulnerability and clear communication to foster emotional safety. Listeners gain insights into preventing defensiveness during tough conversations and the importance of teamwork in overcoming relational challenges.

What if the partners you keep attracting are mirroring your own emotional patterns? This discussion delves into the nuances of emotional availability and highlights the impacts of past experiences on current relationships. It emphasizes the importance of genuine interactions over grand gestures and accountability in fostering healthier connections. Listeners learn about recognizing emotional patterns, the value of vulnerability, and practical strategies for nurturing true relationships. It's a bold exploration of why emotional safety begins with you.