182: Help! Does My Crush Like Me? | In The Trenches

Jan 13, 2026

In this captivating discussion, Sabrina tackles the complexities of modern dating. From navigating workplace flirtation to understanding mixed signals, she emphasizes the importance of self-trust. She breaks down the risks of 'going with the flow' and advocates for direct communication in relationships. Insights on expressing love first and interpreting delayed responses add depth. The conversation also touches on emotional unavailability and the need for clarity in intentions, making it a must-listen for anyone navigating the dating scene.

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Trust Your Gut And Sit With Discomfort

Do learn to trust your inner voice in dating and sit with discomfort to gain clarity.
Sabrina says growth and real connection live on the other side of that discomfort.

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Don't Date Coworkers Without A Plan

Avoid casual workplace flirts without clarity because you'll see the person every day if it fails.
Sabrina urges planning for 'what if this ends' before dating coworkers to protect future you.

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Ask Directly Instead Of Assuming

Do ask for a real conversation when you're unsure about a flirtatious coworker instead of assuming.
Sabrina recommends calling to meet outside work and asking directly if they want more than friendship.

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In this In The Trenches listener Q&A episode, Sabrina answers real dating and relationship questions submitted by the community, covering workplace flirtation, mixed signals, age gaps, anxious attachment, and what to do when someone doesn’t say “I love you” back. She breaks down how uncertainty, overthinking, and “going with the flow” often lead to self-abandonment instead of clarity.

From navigating emotionally unavailable partners to trusting your gut and having uncomfortable but necessary conversations, this episode is a raw, no-nonsense deep dive into choosing self-respect over confusion. If you’re stuck reading between the lines, questioning someone’s intentions, or struggling to trust yourself in dating, this episode is for you.

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Chapters

00:00 – Why You Don’t Trust Yourself in Dating

04:18 – In The Trenches: Mixed Signals With a Coworker

09:42 – Flirting at Work vs Real Romantic Interest

14:36 – Why “Going With the Flow” Is Self-Abandonment

18:55 – Saying “I Love You” First and Rejection Sensitivity

23:44 – Anxious Attachment, Overthinking, and Fear of Loss

28:31 – Reconnecting With an Emotionally Unavailable Ex

34:52 – When Chemistry Isn’t Intention or Commitment

40:05 – Dating Apps, Bans, and Being Honest With a New Partner

44:05 – Final Takeaways: Clarity, Boundaries, and Self-Trust

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