Saying 'I love you' first and fear

In this In The Trenches listener Q&A episode, Sabrina answers real dating and relationship questions submitted by the community, covering workplace flirtation, mixed signals, age gaps, anxious attachment, and what to do when someone doesn’t say “I love you” back. She breaks down how uncertainty, overthinking, and “going with the flow” often lead to self-abandonment instead of clarity.

From navigating emotionally unavailable partners to trusting your gut and having uncomfortable but necessary conversations, this episode is a raw, no-nonsense deep dive into choosing self-respect over confusion. If you’re stuck reading between the lines, questioning someone’s intentions, or struggling to trust yourself in dating, this episode is for you.

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Chapters

00:00 – Why You Don’t Trust Yourself in Dating

04:18 – In The Trenches: Mixed Signals With a Coworker

09:42 – Flirting at Work vs Real Romantic Interest

14:36 – Why “Going With the Flow” Is Self-Abandonment

18:55 – Saying “I Love You” First and Rejection Sensitivity

23:44 – Anxious Attachment, Overthinking, and Fear of Loss

28:31 – Reconnecting With an Emotionally Unavailable Ex

34:52 – When Chemistry Isn’t Intention or Commitment

40:05 – Dating Apps, Bans, and Being Honest With a New Partner

44:05 – Final Takeaways: Clarity, Boundaries, and Self-Trust

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