The Sabrina Zohar Show

180: Repeating Patterns, Self Trust, and How Stop Abandoning Yourself

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Jan 2, 2026
Exploring why New Year's resolutions for dating often flop, the conversation emphasizes the importance of altering patterns rather than chasing outcomes. From discussing anxious attachment to attracting emotionally unavailable partners, the focus is on clarifying desires and understanding healthy wanting. Listeners learn about the reality of real relationships requiring hard work and vulnerability. Practical exercises like the three lists assignment help individuals become the right person for healthy love, highlighting the need for self-awareness and intentionality in dating.
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INSIGHT

Change Patterns Not Dates

  • New Year motivation is real but temporary; lasting change requires systems and pattern shifts, not outcome fantasies.
  • Ask who you need to become, because you control patterns, not outcomes.
ADVICE

Set Pattern Goals

  • Focus on pattern goals like trusting your gut, leaving mismatches early, and communicating needs instead of outcome goals.
  • Build specific behaviors you can control to prevent repeating cycles with new people.
INSIGHT

Fresh Starts Need Systems

  • Temporal landmarks boost motivation (the fresh start effect) but inspiration alone returns you to baseline.
  • Structural changes and systems are required for sustainable behavior change.
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