
What Your Dad Didn't Teach You
Dating isn’t rocket science, but it sure feels like it sometimes. Join Louis Farfields as he unpacks the good, the bad, and the absurd of modern dating for men. With coaches, success stories, and regular guys who’ve been through it all, you’ll get tips that actually work. Whether you’re after quick wins or deeper change.
Latest episodes

May 4, 2025 • 43min
#22 - 5'4" and STILL Getting Girls: Meet Joey
5'4" and pulling girls most guys dream of. Joey’s story isn’t just a win for short dudes, it’s a blueprint for anyone who's ever felt “not enough.”

Apr 27, 2025 • 44min
#21 - What Breakups Really Take From You
Love isn’t enough. In this episode, dating coach Daan De Ram shares why he ended his relationship while still in love, how men sabotage intimacy, and why most guys can’t actually handle real emotional closeness.

Apr 20, 2025 • 1h 21min
#20 - The Fear That Makes You Unlovable And How to Finally Let It Go
I sit down with my therapist Dave Wright, a hypnotherapist from Amsterdam. Dave helps me unpack the real reason most men feel stuck in dating... and in life. We dive into self-rejection, emotional triggers, setting boundaries, and how to finally feel like you’re enough.

Apr 12, 2025 • 56min
#19 - How a ‘Perfect’ Relationship Slowly Destroys You
Ramses was one of those guys. Charming, confident, dating like it was a sport. Until he fell in love. What followed was five years of passion, denial, emotional decline, and physical symptoms that doctors couldn’t explain. In this unfiltered episode, he shares what it really looks like to get lost in a relationship that seems amazing on the outside… and how he slowly found his way back.

Apr 6, 2025 • 41min
#18 - Why You Still Feel Insecure (Even After the Gym + Texting Skills)
It’s not about your looks. It’s not about your lines. It's something deeper, and it’s been steering your dating life for years. Dating coach for women Mathijs joins Louis and together they pull back the curtain on what's REALLY been holding you back.

Mar 23, 2025 • 56min
#17 - [Unfiltered] The Wild Side of Dating Success
You wanted more real-life stories, so here we go. In this episode, my close friend Niels and I share some of our wilder dating experiences. The kind of stuff that happens when you actually get good at the game. No theory, no over-explaining, just raw, unfiltered stories straight from real life. Enjoy!

Mar 16, 2025 • 31min
#16 - Where Beginning Daters Get Stuck - And How To Break Free.
Most guys stay stuck in the beginner or intermediate stage of dating because they keep making the same mistakes. Some never escape them. In this episode, we break down the most common beginner and intermediate mistakes. We’ll show you what’s keeping you stuck and how to break free, and burst through to the next level.

Mar 9, 2025 • 24min
#15 - From Player to Partner: The Transition No One Talks About
Dive into the emotional rollercoaster of dating and relationships as the hosts discuss the thrill of the chase versus the comfort of commitment. They explore personal growth through kickboxing experiences and the mental challenges athletes face after retiring. The addictive nature of seeking validation in both combat sports and romance is unveiled, alongside candid talks about overcoming addiction and anxiety in relationships. Gain insights on shifting from a single lifestyle to a fulfilling partnership through self-reflection and intentional choices.

Mar 2, 2025 • 32min
#14 - Decoding Her Tests: The Games You Didn’t Know You Were Playing
Think you’re just dating? Think again. Women test men in ways you don’t even realize—fake breakups, emotional swings, and subtle challenges designed to reveal who you really are. Are you a leader or a pushover? A confident man or a try-hard simp? Alyne is back to break down the hidden rules of attraction, what women are really looking for, and why most men fail the test before they even know it’s happening.

Feb 23, 2025 • 55min
#13 - The 'One More' Rule: How Not Giving Up Changes Everything
You know that gut-punch moment when an approach flops, the vibe’s off, and you’re ready to call it a night? Most guys tap out. Ram didn’t. And that’s where things got interesting. From brutal rejections to ridiculous wins, we break down why sticking it out—just one more time—can change everything. If you’ve ever felt like quitting, this episode might just change your mind.