Healing Childhood Trauma

Explore the intriguing distinction between being an empath and codependent, revealing insights that could change your perspective. Learn how childhood trauma shapes emotional responses and why understanding these patterns is crucial for healing. Discover the pitfalls of codependent overgiving and its effects on mental well-being. Gain practical tools like journal prompts to reconnect with your own needs and emotions. This discussion unpacks the nuances of sensitivity, boundary-setting, and the importance of self-identity in the healing journey.

Explore the world of emotional avoidance and discover its ties to high-functioning anxiety and childhood trauma. Learn how busyness acts as a shield against feelings and how it can lead to deeper issues in relationships. Recognize subtle signs of avoidance, like mindless scrolling and binge-watching. Understand the critical role of the body in emotional processing and how neglecting these feelings can lead to physical symptoms. Finally, gain practical tools for gentle reconnection with your emotions and find a healthy balance in your healing journey.

Have you ever felt like therapy just isn’t working? Maybe you’ve tried different therapists, stuck with sessions for a while, and still found yourself wondering why you’re not moving forward. If that’s you, you’re not alone—and it doesn’t mean you’re beyond help.In this episode, I talk about:Why you can feel stuck in therapy What you need to do alongside therapy to make the most of it The common reasons therapy might not be effective (and why it’s not always your fault)And the missing piece of therapy that often gets overlooked but can be the most healing part of therapy. **Did you enjoy this episode? Do me a huge favour and scroll to the bottom of the episode and tap on the stars to leave a rating. This helps more wonderful souls like you to find the show.**Get your free attachment guide and join the mailing list 📱Book your free 15 minute intro call with Lizandra Connect on TikTokConnect on InstagramVisit the websiteSupport the show

Discover the fascinating traits of people with secure attachment! Learn how they embrace flexibility, comfortably change their minds, and communicate needs—even in awkward moments. They manage triggers effectively without assigning blame, maintaining a healthy perspective during challenging times. Securely attached individuals prioritize self-relationship and emotional autonomy, proving that these habits are learnable, not innate. This discussion invites listeners to cultivate emotional safety and deeper connections in their own lives.

Explore the critical topic of boundaries through the eyes of a trauma-informed psychotherapist. Discover why boundaries are essential for healthier relationships and personal safety. Learn about the signs that indicate you need to set them, along with misconceptions surrounding boundary-setting. The discussion highlights various types of boundaries including physical, emotional, mental, and even energetic. Gain insights into how childhood experiences shape boundary challenges and receive practical tips to start establishing your own.

**Summer Offer** Book your single session Attachment Reset Learn more or book here.You can be incredibly self-aware. Journaling regularly, unpacking your childhood, recognising your triggers and still feel panicked when someone pulls away. Still overthink the last message. Still feel like you’re too much, or not enough.This episode is a reminder that insight alone isn’t the same as healing. And it’s not because you’re doing it wrong.In today’s conversation, I explore why anxious attachment doesn’t dissolve just because you understand it — and what you actually need to start feeling safer in relationships. We go beyond mindset and into the deeper work of nervous system regulation, co-regulation, and real repair.Whether you’re in therapy or navigating this solo, this episode will meet you right where you are.We talk about:What you can start to focus on if you are both anxiously attached and self awareThe difference between understanding your patterns and feeling safe enough to change themHow therapy can miss the mark in healing from anxious attachment What it means to feel secure in your body, not just your thoughtsWhy this healing doesn’t happen aloneConnect on TikTokConnect on InstagramGet your free attachment guide and join the mailing list Visit the websiteSupport the show

If you’ve ever stared at your phone waiting for a reply, heart racing, telling yourself not to text again but feeling like you physically can’t relax until they do — this episode is for you.Self-soothing gets talked about a lot in the healing space… but for those with anxious attachment, it can feel almost impossible. In this episode, we unpack why that is — and what self-soothing actually looks like when you’re healing attachment wounds.👉🏽 If this hits close to home, my 90-minute 1:1 Attachment Reset session is designed to support you in moments just like this. Learn more or book here.In this episode, we explore:💬 What self-soothing really is (and what it’s not) 🧠 Why it feels unsafe when you’re anxiously attached 📱 Why you can’t just “put the phone down” when you’re spiraling 🧘🏽‍♀️ What self-soothing can look like in practice — and why it’s not about fixing yourself 🌱 How to start small and build capacity gently, without shameYou’ll leave with a deeper understanding of your nervous system, why you crave connection so intensely, and how to start creating a sense of safety within yourself — even when someone else feels just out of reach.Visit the WebsiteSupport the show

☀️**Summer Offer** Single Session Attachment Reset. Limited availability, book your session with Lizandra here Even if you don’t think about your childhood often, the patterns it shaped can still be running the show. In this episode, I’m unpacking powerful and often overlooked ways that childhood trauma continues to affect you in adulthood.This one’s especially for you if you’ve always felt like the high-functioning one, the strong one, or the one who holds everything together… but underneath it all, you’re tired, disconnected, or repeating the same painful patterns.We’ll explore:Why so many women learned to disconnect from their emotions and now find it hard to trust how they feelHow perfectionism and emotional detachment are often coping strategies that began in childhoodWhat self-abandonment can look like in adulthood — and why it’s often mistaken for being “strong” or “easygoing”How trauma wires your nervous system to repeat what’s familiar, even if it’s painfulThe deeper connection between childhood emotional neglect and attachment patterns in adult relationshipsWhat it really takes to start breaking these patterns and feel safe being your full selfWhether you’ve done years of work or you’re just beginning to connect the dots, this episode offers clarity and compassion for the parts of you that are still trying to survive — even when you want to thrive.Get your free attachment guide and join the mailing list 📱Book your free 15 minute intro call with Lizandra Support the show

In this episode we explore how the quiet boundaries you don’t set for yourself lead to anxiety, burnout and attachment issues. Key pointsHow everyday boundary breakdowns feel normal because they've been normalisedWhy childhood trauma teaches us to abandon our needsWhat everyday boundaries look like Powerful reframes to change the way you think about boundaries Reflective questions to facilitate your self knowledge and healing USEFUL LINKS:Book a free 15 minute consultation with Lizandra**Did you enjoy this episode? Don’t forget to rate and subscribe! **Get your free attachment guide and join the mailing list Free PDF Download 5 Steps to Better BoundariesVisit the websiteSupport the show

We don’t talk enough about the attachment trauma that comes from a toxic sibling.The jealousy, manipulation, betrayal — all brushed off as “normal” or “just sibling stuff.”In this episode, I’m unpacking the hidden trauma of sibling relationships shaped by toxic family dynamics. We’ll explore the roles we’re forced into, how it impacts your self-worth, and what healing might actually look like.If you’ve ever felt guilty for stepping back from a sibling, this one’s for you.Resources Toxic siblings post on Tiktok 7 Signs of a Narcissistic Mother Connect on TikTokConnect on InstagramGet your free attachment guide and join the mailing list Ready to start therapy this summer? Get in touch if you are based in the UK and EU📱Book your free 15 minute intro call with LizandraVisit the websiteSupport the show