Healing Childhood Trauma

☀️**Summer Offer** Single Session Attachment Reset. Limited availability, book your session with Lizandra here Even if you don’t think about your childhood often, the patterns it shaped can still be running the show. In this episode, I’m unpacking powerful and often overlooked ways that childhood trauma continues to affect you in adulthood.This one’s especially for you if you’ve always felt like the high-functioning one, the strong one, or the one who holds everything together… but underneath it all, you’re tired, disconnected, or repeating the same painful patterns.We’ll explore:Why so many women learned to disconnect from their emotions and now find it hard to trust how they feelHow perfectionism and emotional detachment are often coping strategies that began in childhoodWhat self-abandonment can look like in adulthood — and why it’s often mistaken for being “strong” or “easygoing”How trauma wires your nervous system to repeat what’s familiar, even if it’s painfulThe deeper connection between childhood emotional neglect and attachment patterns in adult relationshipsWhat it really takes to start breaking these patterns and feel safe being your full selfWhether you’ve done years of work or you’re just beginning to connect the dots, this episode offers clarity and compassion for the parts of you that are still trying to survive — even when you want to thrive.Get your free attachment guide and join the mailing list 📱Book your free 15 minute intro call with Lizandra Support the show

In this episode we explore how the quiet boundaries you don’t set for yourself lead to anxiety, burnout and attachment issues. Key pointsHow everyday boundary breakdowns feel normal because they've been normalisedWhy childhood trauma teaches us to abandon our needsWhat everyday boundaries look like Powerful reframes to change the way you think about boundaries Reflective questions to facilitate your self knowledge and healing USEFUL LINKS:Book a free 15 minute consultation with Lizandra**Did you enjoy this episode? Don’t forget to rate and subscribe! **Get your free attachment guide and join the mailing list Free PDF Download 5 Steps to Better BoundariesVisit the websiteSupport the show

We don’t talk enough about the attachment trauma that comes from a toxic sibling.The jealousy, manipulation, betrayal — all brushed off as “normal” or “just sibling stuff.”In this episode, I’m unpacking the hidden trauma of sibling relationships shaped by toxic family dynamics. We’ll explore the roles we’re forced into, how it impacts your self-worth, and what healing might actually look like.If you’ve ever felt guilty for stepping back from a sibling, this one’s for you.Resources Toxic siblings post on Tiktok 7 Signs of a Narcissistic Mother Connect on TikTokConnect on InstagramGet your free attachment guide and join the mailing list Ready to start therapy this summer? Get in touch if you are based in the UK and EU📱Book your free 15 minute intro call with LizandraVisit the websiteSupport the show

 Ever wondered if someone’s avoidant or actually narcissistic? In this episode, I break down what sets avoidant attachment apart from narcissism, why they often get confused (especially in anxious-avoidant dynamics), and how understanding the difference can help you stop blaming yourself, start seeing patterns clearly, and move toward healthier relationships.Whether you’re trying to make sense of someone else’s behavior or reflecting on your own, this episode brings nuance, compassion, and clarity to a tricky but important topic.What I cover in this episode:Why avoidant behaviour can look like narcissismWhat avoidant attachment actually is (and where it comes from)The clinical traits of narcissism and how it developsKey differences between avoidant and narcissistic patternsCan someone be both?How trauma plays a role in bothWhy social media often gets this wrongQuestions to ask yourself if you’re unsure what you’re dealing withIf this episode resonated:You can learn more about healing attachment wounds and navigating confusing relationship dynamics by working with me 1:1 or joining my email list for more weekly insights. All the links are in the show notes below.Connect on TikTokConnect on InstagramGet your free attachment guide and join the mailing list 📱Book your free 15 minute intro call with Lizandra Episode referenced in the show:Ep 18 The Anxious avoidant trap in relationshipsDisclaimer:Everything shared on this podcast is for information and support only. It’s not therapy, and it’s not a substitute for working with a qualified mental health professional. While I hope these episodes are helpful, they’re not a replacement for personalised care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a therapist or support service in your area. Support the show

When you're anxious or highly stressed, starting your day with a healthy morning routine for better mental health can help to support your emotional wellbeing. Some routines can feel daunting or another to-do but when you approach it from a place of being trauma informed and realistic, you can work with what you have the time and means to do. This episode gives you ideas to try, even when you are incredibly short on time. Did you enjoy this episode? Don’t forget to share and subscribe! Join the Facebook groupConnect on TikTokConnect on InstagramBook a free 15 minute consultation with LizandraSupport the show

If you’ve ever felt disconnected during sex, struggled to enjoy pleasure, or found yourself shutting down emotionally or physically, this episode is for you.This week, psychotherapist Lizandra is joined by certified sexologist Lucy Rowett for a deeply honest and empowering conversation about the links between trauma, attachment wounds, and female sexuality. We explore why so many women feel stuck in cycles of shame or numbness when it comes to intimacy, and what it actually takes to reclaim a felt sense of safety, desire, and connection in your body.Whether you have an anxious, avoidant, or disorganised attachment style, you’ll hear compassionate insights that help make sense of what’s going on and how to begin healing.Connect with Lizandra on TikTokConnect with Lizandra on InstagramVisit the websiteDownload the free attachment healing guide and join the mailing list here Lucy Rowett, CSC, is a certified sexologist and sex coach who is passionate about helping women and people with vulvas let go of sexual shame and hangups and embrace pleasure to create the passionate relationships they've always desired. She is the host of the Naked and Unashamed Life podcast, and the resident sex coach at UK contraception platform, The Lowdown.Learn more about her here: https://lucyrowett.com/Free guide to confident sexual communication: https://bit.ly/askforwhatyoureallywantFree meditation to connect to your vulva: https://bit.ly/handheartvInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/lucylurowettTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lucyrowettPodcast: The Naked and Unashamed Life Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0MdbEOJW9nXRqLsAMSTRAn?si=2ce2d298be93495cApple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-naked-unashamed-life/id1682478750Support the show

**Currently Accepting Clients** 📱Book your free 15 minute intro call with LizandraIn this episode, we’re diving into the science behind Adverse Childhood Experiences, or ACEs, and why your childhood experiences may still be impacting your mental, emotional, and even physical health today.If you’ve ever wondered why certain patterns keep showing up in your life—like anxiety, chronic stress, people-pleasing, or difficulty in relationships—this conversation offers a powerful lens to help you make sense of it all.I’ll break down what ACEs are, how they’re measured, and what the original ACE study revealed about the connection between early trauma and long-term health outcomes. We’ll also explore how this information can be used not as a label, but as a tool for deeper understanding and healing.Whether you’re new to the concept of ACEs or already familiar, this episode will help you connect the dots between past experiences and present challenges—with compassion, not blame.In this episode, I cover:What Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) are and how they’re assessedLong-term impacts of ACEs on mental and physical healthHow trauma can show up in the therapy room and in your relationshipsThe hope beyond the score: healing, resilience, and nervous system repairConnect on TikTokConnect on InstagramVisit the websiteResources MentionedThe Deepest Well Book (affiliate link) Support the show

Many children of narcissistic fathers tend to have a core feeling of never being good enough. Feeling invaluable or invisible unless they are over-performing or over-achieving. This episode looks at the emotional and psychological impact of growing up with a narcissistic father and what steps you can take to start healing.  Subscribe and watch the free training Stop Doing Relationships Like Your Parents**Currently Accepting Clients** 📱Book your free 15 minute intro call with Lizandra Visit the WebsiteSupport the show

**Currently Accepting Clients** 📱Book your free 15 minute intro call with Lizandra Connect on TikTokConnect on InstagramIn this episode, we're talking about something that so many people are living with daily—often without realising it: being stuck in the stress response.From a trauma-informed perspective, this isn’t just about feeling busy or overwhelmed. Living in the stress response means your nervous system is constantly on high alert—operating from fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. It’s what happens when your body hasn’t had the chance to fully process and come out of past experiences that felt unsafe.This chronic state can show up as anxiety, people-pleasing, shutdown, irritability, overthinking, or feeling like you can never relax—even when things are "fine."Why is this important to understand?Because when you’re living in the stress response, it shapes how you show up in relationships, work, parenting, and even how you relate to yourself. It becomes hard to trust yourself, make grounded decisions, or feel connected to others. And the worst part is—it can feel normal, because it’s what your system has gotten used to.Understanding this from a trauma-informed lens helps take the shame out of it. You’re not broken or “too sensitive.” Your body has simply adapted to survive. And healing is not about pushing yourself to “calm down”—it’s about creating safety in your nervous system over time.Tune in to learn more about what living in the stress response looks like, how to spot it in yourself, and what small steps you can start taking to come out of survival mode and into a more regulated, connected state.Listen to episode 5 What Causes People Pleasing Behaviour Support the show

Have you been trying all of the things to move forward in your healing journey? Therapy, podcasts, reading, meditation but you still feel like you’re not getting anywhere? There are often reasons why you can plateau and feel like you are not making progress. This episode helps you to discover what they are so that you can stop being so hard on yourself and make the changes you’ve been working so hard to make. If you’re just getting started or you just need to refresh, listen to this episode on How to Begin Your Healing Journey 🔗 Links & Resources:👉 Work with me 1:1👉 Join my free community👉 Follow me on InstagramSupport the show