Healing Childhood Trauma

Christmas has a way of bringing old family dynamics straight back to the surface.Even if you’ve done the work. Even if you’re self-aware. Even if you usually cope well.In this replay of one of my most listened-to episodes, I talk through practical, realistic ways to think about boundaries with family at Christmas. Especially when the dynamics are emotionally immature, critical, or draining.This episode is for you if: • You feel activated around family, even when you wish you wouldn’t • You struggle to hold boundaries without guilt or over-explaining • You end Christmas feeling exhausted, resentful, or like you’ve lost yourself • You’re high-functioning, capable, and tired of just “pushing through”This isn’t about cutting people off or becoming emotionally cold.It’s about understanding why family triggers land so deeply. And how to protect your emotional energy without abandoning yourself.If Christmas is already feeling like a lot, this episode is here to support you.🔗 Links & Resources:👉 Work with Lizandra 1:1👉 Visit the Website👉 Follow Lizandra on InstagramSupport the show

You like to follow wellness practices but you’re not sure which ones are helpful for nervous system regulation and which ones to leave behind. There are so many choices that often tap into your deepest fears and insecurities and even with the best of intentions, can make you feel worse. This episode explores how you can tell the difference between what’s working and what isn’t and how to listen to yourself more so you can make empowered and informed choices.If you’ve been wondering how to heal from emotional  trauma What supports nervous system regulation The practices that focus more on capitalism and productivity instead of healing This episode is for you. Lizandra is a practicing psychotherapist based in the UK who works with high achieving and high functioning women who want to heal from the past and break unhealthy patterns through deeper self awareness and nervous system regulation healing. If you are based in the UK and EU, you can book a consultation for 1 to 1 therapy. 📱Book your free 15 minute intro call with Lizandra Connect with Lizandra on TikTokConnect with Lizandra on InstagramVisit the WebsiteSupport the show

Have you ever wondered what it means to regulate your nervous system? In this episode you'll learn more about how nervous system regulation doesn't need to be complicated and a starting a simple exercise can help you to feel calmer and relieve anxiety. This is a supportive practice but it’s not a substitute for therapy. Lizandra is a MBACP Registered Psychotherapist based in the UK who works online and in St.Albans Hertfordshire. Visit the Website Book a free 15 minute consultation with LizandraSupport the show

In this episode, I talk about Seasonal Affective Disorder and the subtle ways it can creep into your mood, motivation and day-to-day energy. You'll hear me cover: - What to do when you feel yourself withdrawing or shutting off-Simple daily habits that help-When to reach out for extra supportIf winter always feels harder and you're tired of pushing through on your own. this is the kind of work we do in therapy. I've got current availability for women who want support with anxiety, burnout and the deeper stuff underneath it.  📱** Book a free intro call with Lizandra here**Visit the website Support the show

Have you ever wondered if you’re the toxic one? Want to know the four toxic behaviours that happen in relationships that stem from an insecure attachment? In this episode, psychotherapist Lizandra explores the patterns that most people get stuck in when dealing with conflict. It’s the everyday behaviours that cause disconnection in the relationships that matter most. Ready to break your unhealthy relationship patterns and heal from the past? 📱Book your free 15 minute intro call with Lizandra Connect with Lizandra on TikTokConnect with Lizandra on InstagramVisit the WebsitePrevious Episode:Therapist Tips on Having Hard Conversations and Dealing with Conflict [Ep 9]Support the show

Therapy is changing. 2026 is going to look very different for anyone who’s already on a healing journey. This episode breaks down what those changes actually mean for you.We talk about the rise of real connection in therapy. More relational work. More collective healing. Less of the “fix yourself alone” mindset that kept so many women stuck in burnout.We also get honest about AI. It’s growing fast. It can be useful. It’s not therapy. I explain why big tech is pushing into the mental health world. The impact it’s having on clients and therapists. And what to look out for so your healing doesn’t get reduced to another tech product.You’ll also hear why therapy is becoming more normal, more accessible. And why that shift matters if you grew up holding everything together and trying not to take up space.If you’re navigating high-functioning anxiety, attachment wounds or childhood trauma. This episode will help you understand what’s coming. And how to stay grounded in support that’s actually human.📱Book your free 15 minute intro call with Lizandra Connect with Lizandra on TikTokConnect with Lizandra on InstagramSupport the show

The internet is talking about Is having a boyfriend embarrassing now? Read the Article In this episode, Lizandra, a psychotherapist in private practice at New Frame Therapy talks about the decision to stop working with couples. It relates to the changes happening in relationships and why it's so hard to heal from attachment trauma and form trusting secure attachments in relationships. Connect on TikTokConnect on InstagramBook a free 15 minute consultation with LizandraSupport the show

Abandonment doesn’t always look like what we think it does. It isn’t just about someone leaving or not choosing you. In this episode, I talk about the less obvious ways abandonment shows up.The ones that start in childhood and shape how we connect (or disconnect) as adults.You’ll hear about:The hidden forms of abandonment that often go unnoticed — like over-functioning or caretaking.How emotional abandonment in childhood can happen even in loving homes.The link between fear of being left and the ways we’ve learned to leave ourselves.Listen if you want to:Understand why independence can sometimes be a trauma response.Recognise the moments you abandon your own needs to feel safe.Begin reconnecting with the parts of you that never got the care they needed.Get your free attachment healing guide and join the mailing list 📱Book your free 15 minute intro call with Lizandra Connect with Lizandra on TikTokConnect with Lizandra on InstagramPrevious EpisodesSelf Boundaries, Attachment and Burnout [Ep 30]Adverse Childhood Experiences Explained: The Link Between Trauma and Your Health [Ep 25]How to not Lose Yourself in Relationships when you have an Anxious Attachment [Ep 14]Support the show

Feeling called "needy" can sting, but it's often rooted in deeper issues. The podcast explores how childhood experiences shape our relationship needs. From understanding that reasonable requests can be labeled as needy to recognizing the impact of past wounds on current behavior, listeners gain valuable insights. Practical steps for self-soothing and effective communication are shared, empowering individuals to reclaim their needs with confidence. It's a journey from shame to curiosity, fostering healthier connections.

Explore the hidden habits that may be hindering your healing journey. Discover how over-explaining and frequent apologizing stem from childhood trauma, and often lead to shame. Learn about the pitfalls of people-pleasing and emotional invalidation, and how they create resentment. Understand why comparing yourself to others can slow your progress. With practical tips, this discussion encourages self-validation and awareness to help you break free from these barriers.