Healing Childhood Trauma Five Things That Stop You From Healing [Ep 39]
Oct 15, 2025
Explore the hidden habits that may be hindering your healing journey. Discover how over-explaining and frequent apologizing stem from childhood trauma, and often lead to shame. Learn about the pitfalls of people-pleasing and emotional invalidation, and how they create resentment. Understand why comparing yourself to others can slow your progress. With practical tips, this discussion encourages self-validation and awareness to help you break free from these barriers.
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Healing Is Messy And Incremental
- Healing isn't a polished moment but a messy, slow process that shows up in small changes.
- Lizandra says the nervous system needs repeated micro-moments to feel safe and change.
Skip Lengthy Explanations
- Stop over-explaining boundaries; you don't owe lengthy justifications for decisions.
- Lizandra suggests being direct and reserving explanations for relationships that truly need nuance.
Replace Unnecessary Sorrys With Thanks
- Notice and reduce automatic apologies for things that aren't your fault.
- Replace apologies like “sorry I’m late” with gratitude phrases like “thank you for waiting.”