Healing Childhood Trauma

Abandonment doesn’t always look like what we think it does. It isn’t just about someone leaving or not choosing you. In this episode, I talk about the less obvious ways abandonment shows up.The ones that start in childhood and shape how we connect (or disconnect) as adults.You’ll hear about:The hidden forms of abandonment that often go unnoticed — like over-functioning or caretaking.How emotional abandonment in childhood can happen even in loving homes.The link between fear of being left and the ways we’ve learned to leave ourselves.Listen if you want to:Understand why independence can sometimes be a trauma response.Recognise the moments you abandon your own needs to feel safe.Begin reconnecting with the parts of you that never got the care they needed.Get your free attachment healing guide and join the mailing list 📱Book your free 15 minute intro call with Lizandra Connect with Lizandra on TikTokConnect with Lizandra on InstagramPrevious EpisodesSelf Boundaries, Attachment and Burnout [Ep 30]Adverse Childhood Experiences Explained: The Link Between Trauma and Your Health [Ep 25]How to not Lose Yourself in Relationships when you have an Anxious Attachment [Ep 14]Support the show

Feeling called "needy" can sting, but it's often rooted in deeper issues. The podcast explores how childhood experiences shape our relationship needs. From understanding that reasonable requests can be labeled as needy to recognizing the impact of past wounds on current behavior, listeners gain valuable insights. Practical steps for self-soothing and effective communication are shared, empowering individuals to reclaim their needs with confidence. It's a journey from shame to curiosity, fostering healthier connections.

Explore the hidden habits that may be hindering your healing journey. Discover how over-explaining and frequent apologizing stem from childhood trauma, and often lead to shame. Learn about the pitfalls of people-pleasing and emotional invalidation, and how they create resentment. Understand why comparing yourself to others can slow your progress. With practical tips, this discussion encourages self-validation and awareness to help you break free from these barriers.

Explore the intriguing distinction between being an empath and codependent, revealing insights that could change your perspective. Learn how childhood trauma shapes emotional responses and why understanding these patterns is crucial for healing. Discover the pitfalls of codependent overgiving and its effects on mental well-being. Gain practical tools like journal prompts to reconnect with your own needs and emotions. This discussion unpacks the nuances of sensitivity, boundary-setting, and the importance of self-identity in the healing journey.

Explore the world of emotional avoidance and discover its ties to high-functioning anxiety and childhood trauma. Learn how busyness acts as a shield against feelings and how it can lead to deeper issues in relationships. Recognize subtle signs of avoidance, like mindless scrolling and binge-watching. Understand the critical role of the body in emotional processing and how neglecting these feelings can lead to physical symptoms. Finally, gain practical tools for gentle reconnection with your emotions and find a healthy balance in your healing journey.

Have you ever felt like therapy just isn’t working? Maybe you’ve tried different therapists, stuck with sessions for a while, and still found yourself wondering why you’re not moving forward. If that’s you, you’re not alone—and it doesn’t mean you’re beyond help.In this episode, I talk about:Why you can feel stuck in therapy What you need to do alongside therapy to make the most of it The common reasons therapy might not be effective (and why it’s not always your fault)And the missing piece of therapy that often gets overlooked but can be the most healing part of therapy. **Did you enjoy this episode? Do me a huge favour and scroll to the bottom of the episode and tap on the stars to leave a rating. This helps more wonderful souls like you to find the show.**Get your free attachment guide and join the mailing list 📱Book your free 15 minute intro call with Lizandra Connect on TikTokConnect on InstagramVisit the websiteSupport the show

Discover the fascinating traits of people with secure attachment! Learn how they embrace flexibility, comfortably change their minds, and communicate needs—even in awkward moments. They manage triggers effectively without assigning blame, maintaining a healthy perspective during challenging times. Securely attached individuals prioritize self-relationship and emotional autonomy, proving that these habits are learnable, not innate. This discussion invites listeners to cultivate emotional safety and deeper connections in their own lives.

Explore the critical topic of boundaries through the eyes of a trauma-informed psychotherapist. Discover why boundaries are essential for healthier relationships and personal safety. Learn about the signs that indicate you need to set them, along with misconceptions surrounding boundary-setting. The discussion highlights various types of boundaries including physical, emotional, mental, and even energetic. Gain insights into how childhood experiences shape boundary challenges and receive practical tips to start establishing your own.

**Summer Offer** Book your single session Attachment Reset Learn more or book here.You can be incredibly self-aware. Journaling regularly, unpacking your childhood, recognising your triggers and still feel panicked when someone pulls away. Still overthink the last message. Still feel like you’re too much, or not enough.This episode is a reminder that insight alone isn’t the same as healing. And it’s not because you’re doing it wrong.In today’s conversation, I explore why anxious attachment doesn’t dissolve just because you understand it — and what you actually need to start feeling safer in relationships. We go beyond mindset and into the deeper work of nervous system regulation, co-regulation, and real repair.Whether you’re in therapy or navigating this solo, this episode will meet you right where you are.We talk about:What you can start to focus on if you are both anxiously attached and self awareThe difference between understanding your patterns and feeling safe enough to change themHow therapy can miss the mark in healing from anxious attachment What it means to feel secure in your body, not just your thoughtsWhy this healing doesn’t happen aloneConnect on TikTokConnect on InstagramGet your free attachment guide and join the mailing list Visit the websiteSupport the show

If you’ve ever stared at your phone waiting for a reply, heart racing, telling yourself not to text again but feeling like you physically can’t relax until they do — this episode is for you.Self-soothing gets talked about a lot in the healing space… but for those with anxious attachment, it can feel almost impossible. In this episode, we unpack why that is — and what self-soothing actually looks like when you’re healing attachment wounds.👉🏽 If this hits close to home, my 90-minute 1:1 Attachment Reset session is designed to support you in moments just like this. Learn more or book here.In this episode, we explore:💬 What self-soothing really is (and what it’s not) 🧠 Why it feels unsafe when you’re anxiously attached 📱 Why you can’t just “put the phone down” when you’re spiraling 🧘🏽‍♀️ What self-soothing can look like in practice — and why it’s not about fixing yourself 🌱 How to start small and build capacity gently, without shameYou’ll leave with a deeper understanding of your nervous system, why you crave connection so intensely, and how to start creating a sense of safety within yourself — even when someone else feels just out of reach.Visit the WebsiteSupport the show