Healing Childhood Trauma 5 Things People With Secure Attachment Do [Ep 35]
Aug 20, 2025
Discover the fascinating traits of people with secure attachment! Learn how they embrace flexibility, comfortably change their minds, and communicate needs—even in awkward moments. They manage triggers effectively without assigning blame, maintaining a healthy perspective during challenging times. Securely attached individuals prioritize self-relationship and emotional autonomy, proving that these habits are learnable, not innate. This discussion invites listeners to cultivate emotional safety and deeper connections in their own lives.
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Stop Obsessing Over Attachment Labels
- People often fixate on insecure attachment labels which reinforces feeling broken and stalls growth.
- Lizandra says focusing on secure attachment embodiment is more useful than living in anxious or avoidant boxes.
Secure Attachment Means Better Recovery
- Secure attachment doesn't mean never getting triggered; it means having different coping habits.
- Lizandra emphasizes recovery and regulation over the fantasy of permanent immunity to triggers.
Choose Yourself First
- Start embodying secure attachment in how you treat and choose yourself instead of waiting to be chosen.
- Prioritize self-care, self-trust, and the relationship you have with yourself.