Secure Attachment Is Not Immunity to Pain

We hear a lot about what insecure attachment looks like… but not enough about what secure attachment actually feels like in real life.

In this episode, I’m breaking down five things people with secure attachment tend to do — and no, it’s not about being perfectly regulated or never getting triggered. In fact, some of what makes someone feel emotionally safe might surprise you.

We’ll explore:

• Why securely attached people are comfortable changing their minds (and letting you change yours too)
  
  
  
• How they handle triggers without making it someone else’s fault
  
  
  
• The way they speak up for their needs — even when it’s awkward
  
  
  
• Why they don’t rely on other people to fix their emotions
  
  
  
• How they hold perspective during hard moments instead of assuming the worst
  
  
  

These aren’t magic traits you’re either born with or not — they’re learnable habits. And this episode is here to show you what they can actually look like, so you can start building more of that in your own life.

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Resources

Developing Secure Attachment When You’ve Experienced Childhood Trauma [7}

Therapist Tips on Having Hard Conversations and Dealing with Conflict [Ep 9]

How to not Lose Yourself in Relationships when you have an Anxious Attachment [Ep 14]

What to do when you feel Emotionally Overwhelmed [Ep 17]

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