The Dildorks

This week Kate chats with Sage Monroe, a phone sex operator and consultant, about the ups and downs of the phone sex business. Getting Into It | Professional vs. Not | Boundaries & Limits | Self-Care | Financial Domination | Hypnokink | Adult Phone Actress | Authenticity vs. Performativity | Emotional Support | Connections with Clients | Taking Notes | Disability Accommodations | Dating Another Operator | Equipment | Multi-Tasking | Continued Popularity | Personal Sex Life | Power Dynamics | Submissive Operators | “Not Real Sex Work” | Perceptiveness | Keeping It Fresh | Consulting | Suitable Traits Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Since the month is almost done, this week we’re examining the practice of No Nut November and the community around it. Unfortunate Origins | Masturbation & Porn Addiction | Intentions | The Rules | Edging | Partners’ Reactions | New Desires | Risk Factors | Funkit Chess Set | The Big Nut | Kate’s Premature Ejaculation Song Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

If your libido’s low right now, you’re not alone. This week we’re talking about periods of diminished sexual desire and what we like to do about them. Montreal Trip | Out of Practice | Predictable? | Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski | Responsive vs. Spontaneous Desire | Confidence & Competence | Novelty | Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel | Independence | Feeling Bad About It | Non-Monogamy | Different Drives | Meta-Communication | Accepting a Rejection | Reassuring a Partner | Reinvigorating Your Libido | Toys Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Ever heard of Locktober, the month-long chastity challenge? Kate’s spouse mb recently did it (with Kate as keyholder) and in this episode, the two of them discuss the experience and give advice for potential Locktober newbies. What is Locktober? | Pandemic Popularity | NoFap & Porn Addiction | Committing To It | Benefits of Longer Lockups | Teasing | Begging | Deviceless Chastity | Finding a Keyholder | Keyholder Motivations | Physical & Psychological Effects | Sexual Touch & Orgasms | Lovense Edge, Gush, & Max | Trust | Coming Without Permission | Locktober Community | Polyamory | Power Circuits by Raven Kaldera | No Nut November | Wet Dreams | Advice for First-Timers | Kink3D Cobra Cage | Irritation & Infections | Benefits | Journaling | Distractibility | Gender | mb’s Hypnovember Tweets Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy Halloween! This week we’re addressing some seasonal sexy inquiries, about fear play, haunted houses, Chewbacca masks, and more. Turned On By A Costume | Haunted Houses | Mask Safety | Fetish Dreams | Horny 4 Horror | Rickety Bridge Study | Slut-Shaming | Cringey Bloops Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re answering listener questions on erotica and fanfiction! Pearl Necklace Bondage | Finding Kinky & Trans Authors | Heckin’ Lewd | Nerve Endings | Re-Reading | Is Fanfic Just Better? | Influences on Desire | Consent & Safer Sex | Ella Dawson Essay | Content Notes | Moaning & Dirty Talk Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re discussing our current relationships to erotica and fanfiction, since Kate just had a story published in Rachel Kramer Bussel’s new erotica anthology Sexy Strangers! Erotica vs. Real Life | Erotica vs. Porn | Non-Erotic Fanfic | (Not) Getting Paid | Fix-It Fics | Finding Stories | Picking Kinks for Characters | Hypno Stories | Dirty Talk & Sexting | Flirting | Psychological Turn-Ons | Fantastical & Supernatural | Omegaverse | Pet Peeves Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re back to talk about polyamory boundary violations some more this week. Cuckolding | Whose Responsibility Is It? | Downstairs DJ’s No Nut November Coin | Kink Rituals | Resentment | Partner Pursues Your Crushes | Fantasizing Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

It can be tough to recover when someone violates a relationship agreement in polyamory, but there are ways to prevent this from happening, or to repair after it does. This week we’re talking about boundary oversteps in non-monogamy. Can Polyamorous People Cheat? | Implicit/Assumed Boundaries | Disclosure vs. Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell | Kitchen Table Poly vs. Birthday Party Poly | Scheduling | When to Set Boundaries | Trauma-Informed Polyamory | Whose Responsibility Are Your Feelings? | A Monogamy Interlude | Metamour Resentments Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This podcast explores unique fetishes discussed on the /r/Sex subreddit, such as belly buttons, Speedos, and freckles. It covers the evolution of fetish discourse, stigma and power dynamics surrounding fetishes, incorporating speedos into sexual experiences, and open communication in relationships. The speakers also delve into belly button fetishes, the use of labels for fetishes and kinks, and the fascination with semen nutrition and breeding fantasies.