The Dildorks

If your libido’s low right now, you’re not alone. This week we’re talking about periods of diminished sexual desire and what we like to do about them. Montreal Trip | Out of Practice | Predictable? | Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski | Responsive vs. Spontaneous Desire | Confidence & Competence | Novelty | Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel | Independence | Feeling Bad About It | Non-Monogamy | Different Drives | Meta-Communication | Accepting a Rejection | Reassuring a Partner | Reinvigorating Your Libido | Toys Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Ever heard of Locktober, the month-long chastity challenge? Kate’s spouse mb recently did it (with Kate as keyholder) and in this episode, the two of them discuss the experience and give advice for potential Locktober newbies. What is Locktober? | Pandemic Popularity | NoFap & Porn Addiction | Committing To It | Benefits of Longer Lockups | Teasing | Begging | Deviceless Chastity | Finding a Keyholder | Keyholder Motivations | Physical & Psychological Effects | Sexual Touch & Orgasms | Lovense Edge, Gush, & Max | Trust | Coming Without Permission | Locktober Community | Polyamory | Power Circuits by Raven Kaldera | No Nut November | Wet Dreams | Advice for First-Timers | Kink3D Cobra Cage | Irritation & Infections | Benefits | Journaling | Distractibility | Gender | mb’s Hypnovember Tweets Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy Halloween! This week we’re addressing some seasonal sexy inquiries, about fear play, haunted houses, Chewbacca masks, and more. Turned On By A Costume | Haunted Houses | Mask Safety | Fetish Dreams | Horny 4 Horror | Rickety Bridge Study | Slut-Shaming | Cringey Bloops Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re answering listener questions on erotica and fanfiction! Pearl Necklace Bondage | Finding Kinky & Trans Authors | Heckin’ Lewd | Nerve Endings | Re-Reading | Is Fanfic Just Better? | Influences on Desire | Consent & Safer Sex | Ella Dawson Essay | Content Notes | Moaning & Dirty Talk Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re discussing our current relationships to erotica and fanfiction, since Kate just had a story published in Rachel Kramer Bussel’s new erotica anthology Sexy Strangers! Erotica vs. Real Life | Erotica vs. Porn | Non-Erotic Fanfic | (Not) Getting Paid | Fix-It Fics | Finding Stories | Picking Kinks for Characters | Hypno Stories | Dirty Talk & Sexting | Flirting | Psychological Turn-Ons | Fantastical & Supernatural | Omegaverse | Pet Peeves Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re back to talk about polyamory boundary violations some more this week. Cuckolding | Whose Responsibility Is It? | Downstairs DJ’s No Nut November Coin | Kink Rituals | Resentment | Partner Pursues Your Crushes | Fantasizing Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

It can be tough to recover when someone violates a relationship agreement in polyamory, but there are ways to prevent this from happening, or to repair after it does. This week we’re talking about boundary oversteps in non-monogamy. Can Polyamorous People Cheat? | Implicit/Assumed Boundaries | Disclosure vs. Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell | Kitchen Table Poly vs. Birthday Party Poly | Scheduling | When to Set Boundaries | Trauma-Informed Polyamory | Whose Responsibility Are Your Feelings? | A Monogamy Interlude | Metamour Resentments Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This podcast explores unique fetishes discussed on the /r/Sex subreddit, such as belly buttons, Speedos, and freckles. It covers the evolution of fetish discourse, stigma and power dynamics surrounding fetishes, incorporating speedos into sexual experiences, and open communication in relationships. The speakers also delve into belly button fetishes, the use of labels for fetishes and kinks, and the fascination with semen nutrition and breeding fantasies.

Limiting one or more senses can have a big effect on how you experience sex and kink. This week we’re talking about sensory deprivation play! Using Blindfolds | Nidra Deep Rest Eye Mask | Anxiety | Blocking Out Light | Fear Play & Surprises | Phone Sex | Sleep Hygiene | Visual Overstimulation | Immersiveness | Facial Expressions | Newbie Tops | Hearing | Hypno Audio Files | Affirmation Noises | Pain Play | Wax & Rope | ADHD | Touch Deprivation | Taste & Smell Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

There’s a lot of debate right now about sex scenes in movies and TV, so this week we’re discussing whether sex scenes are necessary, what makes a great one (or a terrible one), and which ones are our favorites. Content Warnings | Are They “Necessary”? | Sex vs. Violence | Fifty Shades of Grey | Real vs. Moral | Our Favorites | Porn vs. Movies/TV | Safety & Trust | Intimacy Coordinators | Consent On Set Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.