The Dildorks Standard Practice
Apr 10, 2024
A lively chat about what counts as realistic standards versus being labeled "too picky." They tackle leagues, rejection, and how chemistry can surprise expectations. Conversation covers evolving preferences, monogamy versus polyamory, and when standards become harmful. Practical talk on boundaries, wish lists, and spotting fetishization rounds out the discussion.
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Pickiness Isn't Always A Flaw
- People often tell single people to 'lower standards' because they treat being single as a deficiency that must be fixed.
- Kate Sloan and Billy Lohr argue pickiness can reflect healthy valuation of how people approach you, not a problem to be solved.
Twitter Reply About Male Attention
- Kate recounts tweeting about street harassment and loneliness and being told to 'make up your mind' about wanting male attention.
- That response angered her because it treated all male attention as interchangeable and ignored approach and values.
Singleness Is Not A Failure
- The pressure to 'lower standards' often frames singleness as a personal failure and erases the legitimacy of preferences.
- Billy and Kate note people should be allowed to prefer loneliness over accepting poor treatment.
