The Dildorks

This week we’ve got a whole new batch of interesting fetishes from Reddit to discuss, from trees to heavy metal music to illusionists. Making Them Work For It | Dendrophilia (Tree Sex) | Ecosexuality | Salon Capes | Sawed in Half | Organs | Elmer’s Glue | Paramedics | Heavy Metal | Moshing | Pool Table Cunnilingus | 101 Kinky Things Audiobook Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

What is self-confidence and why does it matter? This week, we’re unpacking what it means to feel confident, why it’s hot, and how to cultivate it. Fake It Til You Make It | Contextual Confidence | Being Bad At Things | Perception vs. Feeling | Self-Deprecation | Self-Knowledge | Boundaries | What It Feels Like | Certainty | Competence | You Are Someone’s Favorite Flavor | Values | Why It's Hot | Emotional Labor | Submissives | Subby Flirting Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we continue our discussion of heterosexual culture, discussing straight wedding traditions, gender reveal parties, the kinkification of straight gender roles, and more. Clear Communication | Power Imbalance | Come Together | Different Playbooks | Wedding Traditions | Happily Ever After | Gender Reveal Parties | Celebration | Kinkifying Straight Roles | Formative Fears | Unnegotiated Kink | Differing Desires | Straight Kinksters | Straight vs. Queer Flirting | Nonbinary Straight People Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

In a playful Halloween theme, hosts dive into the quirks of heterosexual culture. They ask whether straightness truly exists and how societal norms shape sexual identities. A critique of the default relationship script reveals communication gaps, while they explore why straight relationships can drain pleasure. The impact of gender roles in breakups is discussed alongside the myth of opposite-sex friendships. With a humorous take on 'hall passes' and lube stigma, they challenge listeners to rethink cultural narratives and embrace curiosity in love.

This discussion tackles the art of relationship check-ins, highlighting how they can smooth out stresses and anxieties in partnerships. The hosts explore structuring check-ins like household meetings to keep casual time intact. They emphasize reframing check-ins as proactive care rather than crisis management, suggesting that ordinary check-ins can reduce emotional activation. Tips on crafting good questions and adding fun prompts are shared to enhance connection. They conclude with strategies for aftercare, ensuring every check-in ends on a positive note.

Tuck Woodstock, the creator of the Gender Reveal podcast and co-editor of the anthology Sex Change and the City, joins the conversation to explore the relevance of Sex and the City for queer and trans viewers. They discuss trans-coded characters, critique Che Diaz's portrayal, and delve into top-for-top sexual dynamics. Tuck also shares insights about the Gender Reveal Grant Program and offers practical advice for independent queer presses. The chat is a rich blend of humor, critique, and community building around gender and sexuality.

In this episode, the hosts explore their evolving views on service kink as they age and undergo therapy. They discuss the impact of chronic illness on their service dynamics and how living together alters expectations. Topics include the satisfying nature of competence-based tasks, the fine line between fulfilling service and feeling like work, and how shared routines enhance anticipatory service. They also critique the tradwife phenomenon, delve into the aesthetics of service roles, and share tantalizing fantasies around erotic and non-erotic service.

Dive into the world of anal play as myths get busted with humor and insight. Discover that engaging in anal activities doesn’t change your sexual orientation and that it’s not inherently tied to masculinity or femininity. Learn about the anatomy involved, the importance of communication, and why practice is key before partnered play. They tackle misconceptions about tightness and the reality of messiness, advocating for a sex-positive approach that respects individual choices and consent.

Explore the fascinating world of sexual and gender identity labels. The hosts delve into why some people reject labels entirely and debate whether terms like gynosexual or sapiosexual are 'cringe.' They discuss how identities can change over time and the nuances between public and private identities. The conversation highlights the importance of validation and affirmation in personal identity, along with tips on expressing gender beyond clothing. It's a lively take on how labels shape community and individual experiences!

Labels in the realm of sex and gender can be both affirming and limiting. The hosts explore how these terms serve personal identity, giving voice to individual experiences. They discuss the benefits of labels for community connection and communication, and how they can refine our understanding of self. Conversations touch on bisexuality, queer identities, and the importance of reclaiming slurs. They also tackle the fluidity of identity and advocate for viewing labels as playful tools for self-expression rather than rigid constraints.