The Dildorks

This week we dig deeper into the subject of sexual selfishness, answering questions like: Can it be selfish to give pleasure? How can you satisfy a stone person? And is there really a top shortage? Casual vs. Long-Term | Getting Tired & ‘Hard Mode’ | Owning Your Desires | Communication & Compliments | Willing vs. Into | Stone Reciprocity | Xan West on Stone Identity | Allow vs. Tolerate/Endure | Selfish Altruism | Top Shortage | Kate’s Moan Audios | Indirect Clit Stim Techniques Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

What does it mean to be selfish in bed, and is it always necessarily a bad thing? This week we discuss our relationships to “selfishness” and receiving pleasure. Bottoming vs. Being Selfish | Negative Connotations | Straights vs. Queers | Wide Range of Pleasures | “You Do Me, Then I Do You” | Switching | /r/RandomActsOfMuffDive | Bottoming Skills | Guilt & Shame | Pleasure Doms | Gendered Tropes | Tops’ Pleasure | Masking vs. Vulnerability Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Talking about sex is hard, which is why so many sex educators try to “meet people where they’re at,” a concept we unpack this week to help you have better conversations about sex. Zero Tolerance vs. Harm Reduction | Don’t Be Elitist! | Avoiding Shame Triggers | Self-Disclosure | Jokey Approach | Questions & Assumptions | Assessing Knowledge Level | Self-Criticism Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week, we celebrated International Kissing Day by answering listener questions about kissing! “We Should Make Out” | Hormone Changes | Kissing Men | Consent-Asks | Feeling Overwhelmed | Toys & Practice | Sexual Stimulation Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week, while Kate’s moving from Toronto to New York, Billy chats with his partner Dee Darkholme about THEIR recent move, and what it’s been like adjusting to living together with Dee’s other partner. Living with 2 Partners | Opposite vs. Similar | Communication & Criticism | Sex Issues | Having People Over | Decoration Decisions | Complementary Strengths | Alone Time | Nice Things Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Dive into the tangled web of unrequited feelings and the friend zone, where awkward moments turn into relatable humor. Discover how societal norms shape attraction and the struggle for consent, especially in contrasting heterosexual and queer experiences. Tune in for heartfelt strategies on processing those pesky unreciprocated crushes, and learn how to channel obsession into healthier interactions. With anecdotes about emotional mementos, laughter proves to be a powerful tool for healing and connection. Join the conversation on vulnerability and the joy of friendship!

Navigating the tricky waters of friendship and attraction, the hosts dive into the complexities of catching feelings for a friend. They discuss the importance of communication, whether to flirt or be direct, and the nuances of unreciprocated feelings. Listeners are treated to personal anecdotes about the challenges and delights of platonic relationships influenced by romantic interest. The conversation also touches on the vibrant dynamics within the LGBTQ+ community and the power of genuine connections that span years.

This discussion dives into the world of friends with benefits, comparing it to casual hookups and emphasizing the importance of friendship and communication. Personal stories illuminate how emotional connections can enhance these relationships. The conversation navigates the complexities of labels in polyamory and the fluid dynamics of modern dating. Humor comes into play as the hosts share playful flirting tips, all while reflecting on the transition from casual encounters to deeper connections.

Explore the transformative power of sexual pleasure as self-care, even during low-libido moments. The discussion dives into personal strategies for reconnecting with desire and enhancing sexual identity. Emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries, the hosts share insights on navigating gender, attraction, and effective communication. They challenge the norms of sexual intimacy and consent, advocating for curiosity and creativity in exploring one’s sexuality. This lighthearted yet insightful dialogue encourages embracing personal pleasure and vulnerability.

Dive into a lively discussion on how hormone replacement therapy reshapes sexual experiences, from heightened sensitivity to evolving desires. Explore the emotional nuances of intimacy, including the impact of hormonal changes in queer relationships. Discover the dynamics of chastity play and its effects on sexual function. The hosts tackle body positivity and advocate for trans healthcare while celebrating personal growth and community engagement. Plus, a special treat with a humorous rap about attraction in gaming!