The Dildorks

This week we dive deeper into kinky-on-vanilla relationships, discussing how to tell if someone might be vanilla, how to explore kink outside of a newly-opened relationship, and whether fantasy and porn can be good substitutes for IRL kink. Language & CBT | How to Spot Vanillas | Kinky Flirting | In Love With a Vanilla Person | Opening the Relationship | Polyamorous Kinksters | Fantasy & Porn | Basic Skillset | SIMMER Negotiation Guide | “Maybe Later” | “Read This, Please!” Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Can a kinkster be truly satisfied dating a vanilla person, and vice-versa? This week we discuss bridging the gap between kinky and vanilla partners! Dating Apps | Time & Place | Kinky Linguistic Cues | Defining “Vanilla” | Sexual Hobbyism | Our Experiences with Vanilla People | Willing vs. Want | Explaining Why | Rejecting Vanillas | Don’t Settle | Beginner-Friendly Resources | 101 Kinky Things Even You Can Do | Why Are People Into That? | The New Topping Book + The New Bottoming Book Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Can romance thrive in the world of dominance and submission? Absolutely! Discover how vulnerability and confidence pace intimacy, while kink enhances communication and connection. Explore the intricate relationship between masochism and social anxiety, and how admiration fuels desire. Learn about the tantalizing overlap of romantic aesthetics with BDSM experiences. Dive into tales where strong DS dynamics illuminate deeper compatibility concerns, making for an engaging discussion filled with insights.

Diving into an array of unique fetishes from Reddit, the hosts explore everything from the surprising allure of tree sex to the thrill of being sawed in half. They tackle the intricacies of exhaustion fetish dynamics and discuss the appeal of heavy metal music during intimacy. With whimsical insights on Elmer's glue in body play and a wild fantasy involving a pool table, the conversation balances humor with earnest examination of desires. It's a captivating exploration of the quirky world of kinks!

Dive into the art of self-confidence, where fake it till you make it takes center stage! Explore how confidence varies by context and embrace being a novice without shame. Discover the power of clear boundaries and how owning your identity can enhance appeal. There's a fascinating discussion on how confidence reduces emotional labor in relationships and why it makes you more attractive. Plus, learn how confident submissives thrive when they communicate desires openly. Join the journey of living authentically!

Dive into the quirks of heterosexual culture with a playful look at wedding traditions and the tone-deafness of gender reveal parties. Explore how power dynamics shape attraction and the often conflicting playbooks in straight relationships. Discover how kink can subvert heteronormative scripts and transform trauma into consensual pleasure. The hosts contrast the celebration styles in queer versus straight cultures, and delve into the nuances of flirting across orientations. Communication takes center stage as they advocate for curiosity and consent in all relationships.

In a playful Halloween theme, hosts dive into the quirks of heterosexual culture. They ask whether straightness truly exists and how societal norms shape sexual identities. A critique of the default relationship script reveals communication gaps, while they explore why straight relationships can drain pleasure. The impact of gender roles in breakups is discussed alongside the myth of opposite-sex friendships. With a humorous take on 'hall passes' and lube stigma, they challenge listeners to rethink cultural narratives and embrace curiosity in love.

This discussion tackles the art of relationship check-ins, highlighting how they can smooth out stresses and anxieties in partnerships. The hosts explore structuring check-ins like household meetings to keep casual time intact. They emphasize reframing check-ins as proactive care rather than crisis management, suggesting that ordinary check-ins can reduce emotional activation. Tips on crafting good questions and adding fun prompts are shared to enhance connection. They conclude with strategies for aftercare, ensuring every check-in ends on a positive note.

Tuck Woodstock, the creator of the Gender Reveal podcast and co-editor of the anthology Sex Change and the City, joins the conversation to explore the relevance of Sex and the City for queer and trans viewers. They discuss trans-coded characters, critique Che Diaz's portrayal, and delve into top-for-top sexual dynamics. Tuck also shares insights about the Gender Reveal Grant Program and offers practical advice for independent queer presses. The chat is a rich blend of humor, critique, and community building around gender and sexuality.

In this episode, the hosts explore their evolving views on service kink as they age and undergo therapy. They discuss the impact of chronic illness on their service dynamics and how living together alters expectations. Topics include the satisfying nature of competence-based tasks, the fine line between fulfilling service and feeling like work, and how shared routines enhance anticipatory service. They also critique the tradwife phenomenon, delve into the aesthetics of service roles, and share tantalizing fantasies around erotic and non-erotic service.