The Dildorks

When it comes to sex and gender, labels can be helpful and affirming, but they can also be limiting and divisive. This week, we discuss our own labels, and what we think they achieve for us. The Purpose(s) of Labels | Identity Affirmation | Internal vs. External Benefits | Bisexual | Queer | Pansexual | Sexuality vs. Gender | Queer Femme | Trans F*g | Reclaiming Slurs | Outsider | Coming Out Many Times Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Asexuality is a highly misunderstood identity, so this week we’re discussing what it means to be ace – and why Kate is newly identifying that way!What is Asexuality? | Access to Information | Neurodivergence | Why Use the Label? | (Not) Being Into Bodies | Coming Out to Allo People | Aromanticism | Hard Feelings | Are Ace People Queer? | Choice vs. “Born This Way” | Ace by Angela Chen Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week, we give more advice on play parties, including how to become a DM, how to approach a stranger for play, and how to take care of yourself emotionally during an event. Flirting & Professionalism | Becoming a DM | When to Get a DM | Rookie Mistakes | Taking Notes | How to Approach People | Mood Management | Approaching Tops | Handling Overwhelm Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Party time! This week, we discuss etiquette and preparation for attending a play party, whether it’s sex-focused, kink-focused, or both. Sex as a Hobby | Beginners | Verbal vs. Non-Verbal Communication | Spontaneity | Vulnerability | Compartmentalization | Expectations vs. Reality | Preparing | Setting Intentions | Spectating | What to Wear | Sex vs. Kink | Archetypes Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Dive into the world of quirky fetishes, from explosive fantasies that blend danger with desire to the intriguing concept of transforming men into pigs. Discover the erotic nuances of sperm donation and unique tongue fetishes, while exploring themed intimacy nights that spark creativity and connection. The hosts mix humor with classic literature for whimsical ideas, all while candidly navigating social anxieties and expressing gratitude towards their supporters.

Watching movies and TV shows with a partner can be surprisingly bonding and eye-opening! This week we discuss the ways our relationships have benefited from enjoying media with partners. Talking During Movies | Inside Jokes | Disconnection vs. Intimacy | Conversation-Starters | Complexity & Nuance | Choosing Movies | The Birdcage | Content Notes vs. No Spoilers | Art vs. Escapism | The Room | Same Time, Next Year | Eyes Wide Shut | With Love and a Major Organ Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Dive into the intriguing topic of sexual selfishness as the hosts explore whether giving pleasure can be selfish. Discover how to satisfy partners with unique dynamics, including discussions on stone identity and the nuances of switch relationships. The importance of authentic communication shines through, along with insights on navigating reciprocity and boundary-setting in casual encounters. Personal anecdotes add a humorous touch, while the exploration of intimacy and consent brings depth to the conversation.

This discussion dives into the notion of selfishness in sexual encounters, unpacking how prioritizing personal pleasure can coexist with mutual satisfaction. From exploring the dynamics of bottoming and topping to reflecting on the roles individuals play, the conversation challenges societal norms around intimacy. Listeners are treated to insights on vulnerability, communication, and the interplay of desire. Playful anecdotes add depth, highlighting the importance of diverse identities and experiences in understanding sexual relationships.

Talking about sex is hard, which is why so many sex educators try to “meet people where they’re at,” a concept we unpack this week to help you have better conversations about sex. Zero Tolerance vs. Harm Reduction | Don’t Be Elitist! | Avoiding Shame Triggers | Self-Disclosure | Jokey Approach | Questions & Assumptions | Assessing Knowledge Level | Self-Criticism Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Celebrate the art of kissing with insightful discussions on consent, intimacy, and the complexities of sexual attraction. Discover how hormonal influences and societal norms shape personal experiences, especially for different identities. Explore the nuances of reading the moment and maintaining clear communication before a kiss. Learn innovative techniques to elevate makeout sessions and the importance of genuine connection. Join a playful celebration of International Kissing Day alongside humorous anecdotes and heartfelt reflections.