
The Dildorks Romantic Antics
Feb 20, 2024
They unpack what counts as romance versus everyday care and whether consistency can be romantic. They explore autism, aromanticism, and how cultural scripts shape expectations. They map romantic attraction, queerplatonic overlap, and new-relationship energy. They trade practical ideas like anticipatory service, surprises versus planning, spontaneous kisses, remembering preferences, and small thoughtful gestures.
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Romance As Daily Care
- Romance can be both a feeling and a set of actions that show up consistently over time.
- Kate frames romance as daily care and reliability rather than only grand gestures.
Culture Shapes Romantic Scripts
- Cultural portrayals of romance often glamorize codependency and narrow expressions of love.
- Laurie Essig's Love Inc. frames romance as shaped by capitalism and social norms.
Romantic Attraction Is Social
- Romantic attraction often centers on wanting shared, non-sexual activities like cuddling and dates.
- Kate notes romantic attraction leans more on personality similarity than purely physical desire.




