Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled
JLML Press
In the 25+ years Janet Lansbury has worked with children and parents, she's learned a lot. She's here to share it with you. Each episode of Unruffled addresses a reader's parenting issue through the lens of Janet's respectful parenting approach, consistently offering a perspective shift that ultimately frees parents of the need for scripts, strategies, tricks, and tactics.Janet is a parenting author and consultant whose website (JanetLansbury.com) is visited by millions of readers annually. Her work informs, inspires, and supports caregivers of infants and toddlers across the globe, helping to create authentic relationships of respect, trust, and love.Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse and JanetLansbury. Her best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or wherever you buy your books.Featured in The New Yorker, recommended 'Best Parenting Podcast' by The Washington Post, The New York Times, USA Today, The Cut, Fatherly, Today's Parent, and many, many more.Please note: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and advice presented on this podcast by Janet Lansbury and her guests are based on their training and experience. Opinions are offered in good faith but do not constitute professional, psychiatric, or medical advice, neither are they intended to be. You do not have to use this information, and it should not be substituted for qualified medical expertise.Copyright JLML Press (2025) All Rights Reserved
Episodes
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Jan 14, 2020 • 20min
No Bad Kids: Questions About Tantrums, Mealtimes, and Cleaning Up
After reading Janet’s book “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame,” a parent has some practical follow-up questions about his daughter’s behaviors; specifically in regard to tantrums, mealtime boundaries, and cooperation in cleaning up her messes. This dad says there are certain “values/etiquette” he would like his daughter to learn, but he realizes these qualities must evolve organically and can’t be coerced. He describes his own upbringing as disciplinarian, and he doesn’t want to expose his kids “to the same feelings of shame and mistrust.”For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day trial membership if you use this link: adbl.co/2OBVztZ.Paperbacks and e-books are also available at Amazon, Google Play, Barnes & Noble and Apple Books.Janet's exclusive audio series "Sessions" is available for download. This is a collection of recorded one-on-one consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (www.SessionsAudio.com).Our Sponsors:* Check out BabyQuip and use my code UNRUFFLED for a great deal: http://www.babyquip.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Jan 7, 2020 • 34min
The Securely Attached Child and How to Handle Disrespectful Behavior (with Dr. Tina Payne Bryson)
Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, an expert on child development and co-author of 'The Power of Showing Up,' discusses how secure attachment shapes children's confidence and happiness. She emphasizes the importance of feeling safe, seen, and soothed, revealing how parental responses impact emotional growth. Tina also provides strategies for handling toddler disrespect with patience and modeling respect, turning challenging moments into valuable learning opportunities for both parent and child.
Dec 30, 2019 • 14min
Teaching a Child to Control His Feelings
A parent seeks advice on her emotionally aware toddler who copes by isolating himself. Janet discusses supporting children's emotional expression and accepting their full range of emotions. The importance of letting children experience and express emotions freely is highlighted. Understanding and supporting a child's emotional development is emphasized, including validating their feelings and creating a safe space.
Dec 17, 2019 • 20min
Resolving a Toddler’s Aggressive Behavior (Hitting, Pushing, Hair Pulling)
The podcast discusses a parent's struggle with their 2-year-old's aggressive behavior of hair pulling. It explores the importance of empathy, offers guidance for effective approaches, and emphasizes the influence of parents' reactions on children's behavior. It also provides strategies for handling toddler aggression and understanding their perspective.
Dec 11, 2019 • 19min
Traveling with Babies, Toddlers, Preschoolers (8 Tips)
Janet, an author focused on parenting, shares invaluable strategies for traveling with small children. She emphasizes the importance of tuning into kids' perspectives to create a joyful travel experience. Personal anecdotes highlight preparation and flexibility as key to reducing stress. Janet offers practical advice to keep children engaged and emotionally regulated during trips. She also discusses the challenges of post-trip transitions, encouraging parents to understand their children's behavior and embrace the chaos of returning home.
Dec 2, 2019 • 26min
Boys Do Cry and They Need To (with Maggie Dent)
Best-selling author Maggie Dent joins Janet to discuss challenges in raising emotionally healthy children. They highlight the importance of letting boys express their emotions, creating safe spaces for emotional growth, and navigating parenting challenges with understanding and vulnerability.
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Nov 20, 2019 • 18min
Lying, Stealing, Hoarding
In response to a parent’s question about her 4-year-old’s habit of appropriating toys and clothing that don’t belong to her, Janet illuminates the underlying causes for some other troubling -- but common -- childhood behaviors. This mom writes that she has tried to explain to her daughter why the behavior is wrong and has been hoping that she will outgrow it, but it has only gotten worse. “I know it’s not about the things,” she writes. “She rarely cares about the thing once she’s brought it home.” This mom believes there must be underlying feelings motivating the behavior, but she doesn’t know what they are, so she’s hoping Janet can offer some insight.For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day trial membership if you use this link: adbl.co/2OBVztZ.Paperbacks and e-books are also available at Amazon.Janet's exclusive audio series "Sessions" is available for download. This is a collection of recorded one-on-one consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (www.SessionsAudio.com).Our Sponsors:* Check out BabyQuip and use my code UNRUFFLED for a great deal: http://www.babyquip.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Oct 30, 2019 • 21min
Our Biggest Challenge as Parents
The podcast discusses a parent struggling to acknowledge her child's big feelings, seeking concrete examples. Janet provides insights on supporting children's emotional expressions and the importance of validating their feelings. The episode also mentions resources like audiobooks for children and parenting encouragement.
Oct 16, 2019 • 32min
Faced with Troubling Behavior - Now What? (with Susan Stiffelman and Maggie Dent)
Family counselor Susan Stiffelman and best-selling parenting author Maggie Dent join Janet to discuss addressing children's troubling behaviors, understanding their deeper messages, accepting their uniqueness, navigating rejection and conflict resolution, and exploring the challenges and rewards of raising children.
Oct 8, 2019 • 20min
4-Year-Old Seems Fixated on Dark, Negative Scenarios
A parent seeks advice on their 4-year-old's fixation with dark and negative scenarios, wondering if it's normal exploration. Janet Lansbury discusses how to navigate a child's interest in morbid topics and violent pretend play, emphasizing parental support and setting boundaries.
